Tom retired a year ago, after what I like to call three soft-landings. It was strange for him to switch from a “work to save for retirement” mentality to a “let’s live on what we’ve saved for retirement” mindset. I get it. Such a paradigm shift for those who have spent their entire lives working. He enjoyed his career, but he has learned to embrace retirement. It has become my favorite season so far!
Which leads me to this week’s Friday Favorites List:
What We Love About Retired Life:
- Slow Mornings – We have a slow morning routine. We have our quiet time separately, but together. We talk about what the Lord impressed on us during our time, which we never were able to do while he was working. After this we fix breakfast–either he will cook or I do, whoever is in the mood. Or sometimes we cook together.
- Free To Move About The Country, (As Tom likes to say) – Since all of our married kids and our 8 grandchildren live in three different states, it’s nice to pick-up and go when we can. This year has been a bit challenging as Tom is helping his Dad care for his ailing Stepmom. They live in CA. I am grateful Tom has had the means as well as the time to go and help him. We look forward to a long-awaited vacation this Fall in Montana. Someplace we have never been.
- Dates Anytime We Want – Our weekly dates nights have been on Monday nights most of our marriage. Now we can call any day a date. We have, and we will! 🙂
- Household Responsibilities – There are parts of housekeeping that I have never enjoyed. Mopping is my least favorite, and cleaning the shower is right up there with it. It just so happens that Tom enjoys these chores and doesn’t mind doing them. Yay! That’s a win-win for both of us. It gives me more time to write for me and bake for him.
- Ministry – More often then not we are able to say yes to ministry opportunities. We host a Marriage Community Group in our home in 6 month intervals. It has been a dream come true for both of us. Our next group begins on Sunday night where we will take 8 couples through Gary Thomas’ excellent series on, Cherish, the one word that changes everything.
Retirement comes with adjusting to a new norm. If you know this going in, it won’t surprise you like it did us. We have finally found our stride , and we are sprinting to the finish line in the grace God supplies.
Intimacy Prompt: Talk about what your retirement will look like based on the choices you are making today. It will be here sooner than you know. Those who plan for the future aren’t surprised by the shift in seasons.
Helpful Tip: Dave Ramsey says, “Live like no one else by saving, so that one day you can give like no one else when retired.”
There are times I look around
and see the couples, holding hands
and dancing to an inner sound
that comes from far-off happy lands.
But this can never be for us
for I am now dying in the flame
and all the hope we held in trust
is bespoke to a forgotten name.
I wish them all the very best
these mated pairs who glide ahead
through days together, nights of rest,
and not be Keepers of the Dead.
But still, we trade ashes for beauty
in the fulfillment of Calvary’s duty.
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Love this as we can relate as my husband retired last year too. Also, we love the “Cherish” teaching by Gary Thomas and have led a group in our church with it and hope to do more in the future. We have things a bit different since we’re raising a 16 yr old granddaughter during retirement and homeschooling her so we continue to figure out this retirement stage with having a youth live with us. We also have 15 other grandkids; near and far. We just celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary in July and will be going on the Family Life, “Love Like You Mean It Cruise” over Valentine’s week 2020. We highly recommend it!! My hubby just got to sign up to go on a missions trip to Costa Rica in October which he’s really looking forward to and he’ll continue to volunteer ministering to the guys in prison. God is good and oh so faithful!!
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Vickie, Who says retired life is laid back and boring? You sound like life is busier than ever, and being used by God to make a difference in the world. I can’t imagine homeschooling again at this stage of life, but how wonderful that God has graced you to care for your granddaughter in the way she needs most.
We checked out the Love Like You Mean It cruise too, but it won’t work this time for us. I can’t wait to hear about it.
Thanks for commenting. It blesses me to hear from others in our season of life.