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Category Archives: Intimacy
Happy Place
Tom and I had a discussion tonight about where our happy place is. It was an interesting conversation. He initially thought of places where we had made memories together. Happy times we’ve shared are special to me as well. However, … Continue reading
A Humble Spouse
We just finished going through the book, Cherish, by Gary Thomas, for the umpteenth time. And that is no exaggeration. You would think we wouldn’t need to read a book like this over and over. Especially since we’ve been doing … Continue reading
Posted in Cherish, Cherishing, Christian Marriage, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Repentance, Temptation
Tagged Andrew Murray, Cherish by Gary Thomas, Humility
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364
What is so special about this number? It’s how many days that fall between this Valentine’s Day and next Valentine’s Day. We have 364 more opportunities to let our spouse know how much they mean to us. In case you’re … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Romance in Marriage, Valentine's Day
Tagged 364, Let’s Do This, Romance in Marriage, Valentine's Day
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Two Keys for Devotion in Marriage
Devotion. It’s one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. But it’s two-fold. Devotion to God. Tom and I committed our marriage to God—a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. What we promised matters because we said our … Continue reading
Building Spiritual Intimacy
Tom and I are in route to GA for Thanksgiving. The temps are dropping drastically and the trees are showing off their Fall wardrobe. It is another road trip for us where we can catch up on life. We love … Continue reading
Posted in Celebrations, Christian Marriage, Holidays, Intimacy, Spiritual, thanksgiving
Tagged Spiritual Intimacy, Thanksgiving traditions
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Do You Feel Understood?
How well do you understand your spouse? When they experience loss or disappointment, are you surprised at their expression or lack of expression? We tend to judge our spouse based on how we would respond thinking we’re being helpful. We … Continue reading
It’s Not too Late…
You’ve heard us mention the Married Christian Sex conference that’s coming up starting October 2nd. Why Is This Good For Your Marriage? 1. The conference will be online, so you and your spouse can stream each session over the next … Continue reading
Drifting or Sailing?
Never underestimate the value of time together alone. It is needed for your marriage to keep from drifting. The danger with drift is that you don’t know it’s happening until you’re way off course. If you don’t have goals set … Continue reading
Great Married Christian Sex Takes Effort.
This title alone may have caught your interest because once you’re married it is assumed you’ll have great sex. But sadly for many couples they struggle in their sex life from day one. It can become an increasing source of … Continue reading
Six Kisses That Promote Marital Success
Ah! Kissing!! It is what makes a relationship special. When Tom kissed me for the first time I don’t remember much else but this one fact–he loved me! We reserve kisses for those whom we love the most, and this … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Romance, Romantic Ideas
Tagged Intimacy in Marriage, Kissing
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What Is Your Endurance Level in Marriage?
Life has made it very difficult for me to work out on a consistent basis. I do it just enough to be really sore afterwards–for days. My endurance is lacking. How do I increase my endurance? By doing what I … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Emotional, Intellectual, Intimacy, Physical, Spiritual
Tagged Intimacy in Marriage, Marriage Endurance
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Looking Outward Together
We spend much of our posts talking about how to make your relationship stronger to last through the years. This requires intentionality in pursuing intimacy with your spouse—spiritual, emotional, physical, as well as cherishing each other. This will make your … Continue reading
Making Memories That Last
I haven’t posted in a while because I’ve been on a retreat with several of my dear friends. I am learning to be present wherever I am, and last week I was present with them and with the Lord who … Continue reading
Posted in Cherishing, Christian Marriage, Emotional, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Love Songs, Music
Tagged Boxes, Goo Goo Dolls, Love Songs, memories, Widowed
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Do You Believe The Truth Or Lies In Your Marriage?
I was praying about this post not sure exactly what needed to be said. That’s when the above rhyme came to me. I had to read it, write it, think about it and then I realized the truth in its … Continue reading
Decluttering Discovery
As we’ve mentioned we are decluttering our house. Every closet, every drawer, every cabinet is being organized and it feels amazing. If clutter were measured in pounds I think we’ve lost at least 100 pounds. Yes! I must tell you, … Continue reading
Physical Intimacy – Let No One Put Asunder
We recently shared a video on our Facebook page that stirred an interesting conversation. We wanted to continue it here. First, click over to our Facebook page and scroll down to the video titled, If Your Relationship Has Changed. While … Continue reading
Do You Connect In This Way?
How well do you understand what your spouse does at their job day in and day out? Today is Monday, the start of another work week. Your spouse most likely spends the majority of the work week doing their job … Continue reading
Physical Intimacy – Do You Dare?
In all our years of mentoring marriages we’ve discovered personally how difficult it is for most couples to talk about sexual intimacy. This complicates an already tender topic in many ways. Imagine you’ve taken a new job, an entry-level position … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Intimacy, Physical
Tagged Discussing hard topics in marriage, Do You Dare?, Physical intimacy, Vulnerable
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Physical Intimacy – Unwrap Yourself
One of the best gifts you can give your spouse is yourself. As Gary Thomas says often, “Your wife is your Eve–the only woman in the world created by God for you. In the same way, your husband is your … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Christmas, Holidays, Intimacy, Physical, Sexual Intimacy
Tagged Christmas, marriage, Sexual intimacy
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The Romantic Vineyard 