27 Years And Still Hiding The Weight Of It All

Photo by S O C I A L . C U T on Unsplash

We have lived in our home for over 27 years. We have some wonderful memories and some we would rather forget. But all of it is proof that we have lived our life here in this place we call home. In nearly three decades time we have:

  • Raised three children, and homeschooled them for most of their primary education
  • Helped them through college and/or continuing education
  • Helped all three of them pack up their rooms, get married and eventually move out of state
  • Welcomed eight grandchildren into our home, baked with them in the kitchen, colored and read books to them in our window seat and had fun times in our pool
  • Sold the business that enabled us to buy this home
  • Welcomed Tom home full-time after his retirement
  • Written and published two books
  • Hosted many small groups through our church, including our most recent marriage community groups

Precious memories have taken place in this home, and something else thats not so precious–lots of clutter.

It seems with each passing season a new layer of stuff manages to hide in the nooks and crannies of our home. There are drawers that haven’t seen the light of day in years, and it’s time to call – “All ye, all ye in free!” In other words let’s take time to find what’s hiding and do something with it, like: keep, donate, trash or sell it. There’s only one problem. It takes time and resolve to  make it happen.

How do you make yourself do something you haven’t wanted to do in years?

Tom and I have found that giving ourselves an incentive helps. This time we planned the garage sale before we even started cleaning. A good motivation to start, but we can easily postpone or cancel the sale. (See? I know how to get out of something I don’t really want to do.) But so far this has been working. At least it was until I got sick. Ugh! It never fails to hit when we are finally building some momentum. But we are determined to get through this project, sick or not. It is weighing heavy on us and it needs to be done.

My word for 2020 is CONTENTMENT. It’s not so much being content with what I have–I’ve proven I’m content with the stuff I have, seeing how I’ve held onto it for so many years.

My issue is I need to be content with letting things go.

I hate letting go of something I might need later, like an almost empty spool of ribbon. To make this problem worse, I usually find a use for it at some point years down the road. My organizing friends tell me, “If you throw it out and need it years from now, buy the $2 spool of ribbon again! You will have saved yourself the clutter for all those years.” I get it. It makes perfect sense. However, I still hesitate when I hold my hand over the garbage can. It surprises me how difficult this is to do.

My Mom grew up in the depression years so I inherited this struggle from her honestly and for good reason. Thankfully, I haven’t resorted to saving butter wrappers in the freezer to use to coat my baking pans. (Yes, my Mom did that). But it is time for us to scale down and organize. I don’t think we have to worry about a full blown depression anytime soon, unless we never get this home organized–then we might all be depressed in our old age.

When was the last time you cleaned out what’s been hiding in your home? Maybe our post will encourage you to make some incentives to get it done like us in 2020. We’ll keep you updated as to how it goes.

P.S. This post inspired me to organize my blogging space right away. Following are the before and after photos of my desk. Yay, me! Tom will be so happy! I feel ten pounds lighter–in clutter weight that is! It was a lot easier than I thought it would be, and it took only 15 minutes. If only we could lose body weight that easily. That’s another goal for another season. For now I’m pleased with myself.

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
This entry was posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Keeping It Real, Priorities and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to 27 Years And Still Hiding The Weight Of It All

  1. I love how different we all are. Reading your post, I feel excited for you!

    I love to organize and de-clutter. In fact, I’m always the first suspect in my home when something goes missing. (“Mom, did you throw out my _____?”) I hate to keep something that doesn’t have an immediate practical use. My husband, on the other hand, sees future value in things I would too readily purge. We’re learning to balance each other out.

    Enjoy your tidy blogging space. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • Debi Walter says:

      Thank you Sara. I love that you’re seeing the value of our differences in marriage. We have never been ones to think it best when a husband and wife are alike in all things. It’s much more beneficial, albeit hard, to have someone who thinks differently. I’m a better me because of the way Tom thinks and does things. This challenges me. And he would say the same.
      Excellent comment and encouragement. Thank you!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. De-cluttering’s a courtesy
    (strip the table, clear the shelf!)
    and a kind of tender mercy
    to one’s spouse, and to oneself.
    The things that we no longer need
    (though perhaps imbued with sentiment)
    serve to make the psyche bleed
    and we wonder were our energy went
    for these things that gather dust
    lay on a weight, all their own,
    and it’s very tempting just
    to let them dominate the home.
    In grace let your possessions pass
    as dew rises from the sun-warmed grass.

    Like

What do you think?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.