Do You Connect In This Way?

How well do you understand your spouse's job? Their job matters and here's why.

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How well do you understand what your spouse does at their job day in and day out?

Today is Monday, the start of another work week. Your spouse most likely spends the majority of the work week doing their job well. And you do the same. The question is do you talk about this significant part of your day together to the point where you reach understanding?

If you are a stay-at-home parent, you most likely share your the ups and downs of your day without thought. Because you both have a vested interest in the results of your time and energy.

If you or your spouse or both of you work outside of the home, letting each other see in to your world is valuable. Here’s why…

  1. It helps you connect on an intellectual level.
  2. It helps you appreciate what your spouse is good at doing.
  3. It helps your spouse be able to download the struggles of a demanding job with someone who cares.
  4. It helps you both draw closer to each other in an understanding way.
  5. You know when your spouse is struggling and how to pray for them specifically.
  6. It helps to have someone else  to carry the burden.
  7. This is intimacy on an intellectual level and acts as a buffer from seeking this support from someone else who cares. like a co-worker of the opposite sex.
  8. It expresses care for your spouse in a way they may not expect.

We all need to know that what we do matters. Intellectual intimacy is a great way to show our spouse that we really do care.

Intellectual Intimacy Prompt: We encourage you to make it habit to ask your spouse about their day? And once you do, make sure you listen well. If you don’t understand something ask them to explain it in a way you can.

Date Night Idea: This one isn’t really a date idea, but rather a surprise you can do for your spouse. Go to their place of employment right before they get off for the day. Put their favorite cold drink, snack and a note in their car telling them to enjoy their drive home. Set the radio to their favorite music as well.


Thank you of the way our spouse is willing to work everyday for the good of our family. I pray for them this week that you will help them increase in their productivity. Give them favor at work and let their hard work be recognized. Help me to recognize their hard work as well. I may not understand everything they do, but give me the desire to learn and grow in this way so that I can be the encourager they need this week.

I ask these things for the good of our marriage, in Jesus’ name,


About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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1 Response to Do You Connect In This Way?

  1. Kind of an interesting question; in fighting cancer to the last, the work I still can do is vital for my morale, but that’s about it. No-one is really interested in what I did upon the aeroplane I am restoring, or about the poems I wrote, and I don’t epect their interest.

    I wonder if it has to do with a “there but for the grace of God go I” feeling in others’ hearts, and that they don’t want to look to closely into the meanings behind the days?

    No-one knows about my days
    and no-one really should
    have to listen, offer praise
    for that which does no good.
    The work I do is purposed
    to keep me in the game,
    but to the world it’s worthless
    undeserving of the name.
    Cancer’s heavy hand is fought
    with all I have to give,
    but all my words, all I have wrought
    are just to help me live
    through each day, with head still high
    until that day when death draws nigh.

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