Vintage Post – Stirring The Embersi

Avoid the drift in marriage by flirting with your spouse. Here are some ways to get started.

Photo by Yuriy Bogdanov on Unsplash

(Originally posted on June 22, 2009)

Flirting can be a sinful way for singles to draw attention to themselves with the opposite sex.  We are warned repeatedly in scripture not to practice such things!

However, if you’re married – have at it!

It’s perfectly permissible to flirt regularly with the one who loves you “til death do us part”.  If you have never practiced this before you may feel awkward or even shy about it, but don’t let this stop you.  In fact, if this is the case, then you have waited too long to make the most of this God-ordained relationship.  The Song of Solomon is full of examples that we’re to model in wooing our spouse in love.

“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
in the crannies of the cliff,
let me see your face,
let me hear your voice,
for your voice is sweet,
and your face is lovely.”    Song of Solomon 2:14

Here are some quick ideas to help you practice:

  • Come up with a secret code to communicate across the room your intentions for later
  • Have a private pet name for each other and keep it that way
  • Send your spouse a steamy e-mail
  • French kiss your spouse when they least expect it
  • Whisper sweet somethings in their ear during a meeting
  • Kiss them all over while they’re on the phone
  • Mouth the words “I love you” without speaking.
  • Use your senses – click here for lots of ways to flirt his senses (these ideas can be used for either wife to husband or vice versa)

May we encourage you to start flirting with your husband/wife today?  It is the best and most effective way to keep those embers of romance burning in your hearts for one another, not to mention its great fun!

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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3 Responses to Vintage Post – Stirring The Embersi

  1. Markus says:

    Just wanted to say Thank You for this article! But also wanted to let you know that the link you shared is broken. :-/


  2. Please tell me that you love me;
    please say it once again,
    for it eases the malignancy,
    and forestalls cancer’s pain.
    When you smile at me with lips and eyes,
    I am ever grateful
    for you bring bright sunny skies
    to a world that has gone fatal.
    Touch my skin, although it hurts
    (lightly is the key, my dear)
    and a gentle hug is not a curse
    though the pain thus caused is clear.
    Sweet wife, I need these things from you
    before my time to say adieu.

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