It’s a good habit to pause at the beginning of a new year and reflect on the year before to help you make changes in the year ahead.

We compiled 20 questions last year that are just as applicable to us this year. We pray it helps you as you begin the first steps of 2021.

Plan some undistracted time–no screens, no kids, no chores, no TV–and answer these all important questions. We pray it encourages you.

As you look back on 2020 ask yourself and your spouse the following:

1. What are the major highlights of the year?
2. What are your biggest victories? Your biggest disappointments?
3. What would you do differently if you had the chance?
4. How has your marriage grown?
5. What was your favorite date? Favorite dining experience? Favorite movie?
6. How have you grown in your relationship with the Lord?
7. What do you wish you could have done, but didn’t?
8. What are the three most encouraging words someone else said to you?
9. What are the three most encouraging words I said to you?
10. What did I do this year that makes you smile every time you think of it?

Now, looking forward to 2021, ask yourself and your spouse the following:

1. What do you want to continue doing this year that you were doing last year?
2. What do you want to stop doing this year?
3. What one word, if any, do you plan to focus on for growth? How can I help you?
4. What devotional are you planning to do? (We highly recommend choosing from the hundreds available on the YouVersion app)
5. What is one area you would like to see me improve in this year?
6. Is there something I have been putting off around the house that you would love to see completed?
7. What 3 couples can we pursue this year in an effort to encourage them or glean wisdom from them?
8. What would be the best way to make this happen?
9. How important are date nights to you? How can we make these a regular part of our year?
10. What trips would you like to plan for just us or for the family?

May God help you connect the dots of His faithfulness to you and your marriage in 2020. And wherever there is great disappointment, may He fill your heart with faith to believe, to change and grow in 2021.

We pray you have a safe and Happy New Year.