It’s been 7 and a half years, but it feels like only yesterday. The Lord took my Dad to his final resting place at the age of 81 in January of 2004. I miss him – especially this week! He and my Mom were married for 57 years. She let him go that night because she had promised to do so. Death was now parting their lives for a season, and I witnessed the whole thing.
As I was sitting tonight at the computer wondering what God wanted me to write for this post, I got a chat message from a dear friend. She just found out today that her dad has cancer. There are still many unknowns as they wait for more test results.
I asked how she was doing – she said she felt numb.
I asked how her mom was doing – she said her mom was feeling angry.
The emotions we experience in troubled times reveal the strength of what we believe, and whether or not we really believe what we proclaim. This is why Jeremy Camp’s song, I Still Believe, was such an anchor to my soul. I had never heard of him before, but one day – when I needed it most – I heard this song on the radio. It was as if God was speaking directly to my aching heart to remember what I believe.
We received more sad news today of a longtime friend who’s battle with brain cancer is nearing it’s final stages. Unless God does a miracle he will not be here much longer. His wife is holding on, but it is the hardest thing she’s ever had to face. Our heart and prayers are with them.
We are sobered with the brevity of life. We realize all of us will one day walk this road. This is why the foundation we build our lives and our marriages upon must be the Truth. Only the Truth will be able to uphold us through such times. I know because I felt that strength pour like cement through my feet to hold me up when I wanted to collapse.
Marriage is good. It is what we have devoted our lives to support and strengthen for God’s glory. But it will one day end. We are called to live our marriages every day as if it were our last. Sadly, my friend is literally facing this with her husband. I can’t imagine the pain of letting go of someone you’ve held so close for so many years. But the One who promises to never let us go will be there to hold us, comfort us and strengthen us with power from Heaven.
What difficulties are you facing? Compare them to the brevity of life. Realize how quickly time passes and resolve to settle differences as they happen. Letting go of our spouse will be hard, but so much more so if we have regrets. Live today as if it were your last. Say the unspoken, encourage the discouraged and be the best wife/husband you can be today. We never know when it may be our last!
Below is Jeremy Camp’s testimony of how he walked this road with his first wife. It was after this tragedy that the Lord led him to write the song so richly filled with real Truth. The kind we can hang our hopes and fears upon. May you be encouraged to excel still more in your marriage for God’s glory!