Childproof Your Home Not Your Heart

Our home is not as childproof as it once was. It doesn’t have to be, but this fact is what requires me to pay closer attention when my grandchildren come for a visit. Childproofing our home is a good idea. Childproofing our heart is another matter all together.

When Tom and I were babysitting our grandchildren we happened to go to the grocery store one day. My rule for having children in any store is either “hands behind your back,” to keep them from touching and breaking everything in sight, OR “hold onto the cart,” to prevent them from getting away from me.

Well, rules are easily broken as was the case on this day.

Both Norah and Bradley darted in front of me – skipping and giggling all the way – when an elderly woman nearly knocked them over with her cart. She looked at them, then at me and with a sincere look of disdain, shook her head and walked away.

I felt bad, but more for her than for my grandchildren frolicking a bit too much in the store.

We have experienced our share of “crotchety people” in our lives. My parents lived next door to a man who absolutely hated us because our children were – children. I imagined him being a real life ogre, but not nearly as likeable as Shrek.

Why is it that with many people, the older they get the less they tolerate children and their childish ways? Why is it that the spirit of Scrooge is alive and well? And most importantly, how can we prevent ourselves from becoming a crotchety old person who refuses to smile and be nice.

The Bible says, “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” In order to not be that person tomorrow, we must deal with what’s in our heart today. It matters when we get angry with our spouse or with our children, because if we don’t deal with the sin of anger in our heart, if we choose instead to stuff it so no one sees, we’re only prolonging the inevitable. As we age we lose our ability to control ourselves for appearances sake. We are no longer able to hide under our false kindnesses. What’s inside is easily seen by anyone who happens to cross our mood in an unacceptable way.

You’ve heard the saying, “You are what you eat.” Well, I believe it’s also accurate to say, “You are what you think. Even if no one knows the thoughts you are thinking.” God is aware, and if we are serious about living a life which glorifies Him we will have to go to task on our own hearts so they don’t become childproof.

But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” Matt. 19:14 ESV

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This is post #25 in the Ultimate Blog Challenge to post everyday in October.

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5 Responses to Childproof Your Home Not Your Heart

  1. Jennifer says:

    I hope I don’t become a crotchety old woman, but I admit even shopping with my own kids I feel like one. “No, you can’t have that. Put your hands on the buggy and stay where I can see you.” You’ve seen Moms like me. Every now and then I’ll let that crotchety person go ahead of me in line, and sometimes you can see their face change. I agree with you about our thoughts.

  2. Lori Ferguson says:

    There aren’t any small kids in our life right now – yes, at church, but not directly “in” our daily life. I’ve been reading some “mommy blogs” to reconnect with the joys and challenges of raising small people. (I’ve forgotten so much of the nitty-gritty, down-in-the-trenches feelings) I wonder if the “crochety” comes out when we’re feeling disconnected?

  3. Melinda says:

    What a challenge! May God help me deal with “junk” so that I don’t become crochety!

  4. Awesome post about letting kids be kids and ensuring we shower them with love! Great stuff!

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