Imagine an afternoon together on a canoe. The weather is perfect. The water is crystal clear and there isn’t anything else on your agenda for the day except spending time together.
What could possibly go wrong?
Several things come to mind:
- getting caught by an underwater limb
- tipping over
- losing a paddle
- losing the current
Any one of those events could turn a relaxing day on the water into one of those stories you laugh about – later, of course.
A canoe can be great fun if you have someone who knows how to steer the boat, can steer it in the right direction, and who knows how to avoid the sides where the bugs and alligators live!
Staying in the current in marriage requires a commitment to steering the conversations in the right direction. It requires someone who knows how to avoid letting the topic veer from the subject at hand. And most importantly someone willing to protect the marriage from unwanted intruders.
How current are you with your spouse? Do you work hard to keep them “in the know” about what temptations, struggles, dreams and emotions you’re facing? Do they know what is currently weighing on your heart or occupying your thoughts? If you are expecting them to read your mind, you will most likely find yourself stuck on the side of the river and without a paddle.
We must be self-disclosing when it comes to our marriage relationship. It isn’t fair for us to expect our spouse to do all the work. And it isn’t fair for them to expect us to do it all for them. Just as paddling a canoe requires team work, so does a good marriage.
Are you staying current or have you ended up stuck in the brush on the side of the river? You may need to ask for help in getting the canoe out in the current again, and once you’re free, stay on guard to keep current. Not only will you be going in the right direction, you’ll experience the beauty of the river together.