Before we were married it took no effort at all to plan our next date. We wanted to be together as much as our time would allow. But once we were married this began to gradually change; it had to. Life demanded we move on, so to speak. But moving on in the wrong way can actually damage our relationship.
It’s common for couples to relax their intentionality once they’ve started a life together. After all you’re always together. What needs to be planned? The answer is simple:
Romance before marriage has limits, that is if you’re committed to a moral, God-honoring relationship. But romance after marriage is when it gets really fun. Flirting is actually encouraged in order to grow a healthy marriage. So let’s list out some practical ways to incorporate genuine romance in our daily routine:
- Tell your spouse you love them daily.
- Kiss often and kiss long.
- Hold hands when walking–anywhere.
- Send unexpected texts to your spouse letting them know you’re thinking of them.
- When they call during the day, make sure there is a smile in your voice reserved for them.
- Plan regular date nights. They can be away from home or in your own backyard. Figure out what works best for the season you’re in, and do it.
- Play with your spouse’s hair, feet, hands, or whatever body part they like caressed.
Trying these ideas may help you recover those romantic feelings you had before you said, “I do.” And they will most likely lead to more–we’ll talk about that tomorrow! 🙂
What ways do you plan for romance? Do you still flirt with your spouse?