Years ago our pastor jokingly referred to menopause as “Men On Pause.” I thought he was kidding at the very best, or I hoped he was exaggerating at the very least. Turns out he was quite right. <sigh>
Based on the number of comments we’ve received about our “When Your Sex Drive Putters Out” post, we think we need to keep this under-discussed topic going. We would love to hear from those who are facing issues and need advice, help, or someone to simply tell them they aren’t alone–you know you can always comment anonymously. We may not have the specific answers you need, but we can find the answers together.
We realize the sensitive nature of this topic.
I’m not sure why it is sensitive, but many women and men who are dealing with similar issues don’t want to talk about it. In fact, honestly Tom has faced some challenges, and when I mentioned posting about it he hesitated. When I asked why, he said he just didn’t know if it was necessary. I shared with him that telling the world about my struggle was hard–I even had trouble sleeping the night before because I wasn’t sure it I wanted to put myself out there like that. He realized that if us talking about such things helps one couple who wouldn’t get help otherwise then it’s worth the risk. He gave me the green light to discuss US as much as needed.
Today we want to identify some of the most common struggles older couples face. And then, post about them as the Lord gives help and insight.
Here are some symptoms a woman might have to clue you in menopause or peri-menopause is lurking at your door:
- tingling muscles
- aching shoulders
- racing heart
- vaginal dryness (causing painful intercourse)
- low libido
- questions concerning purpose in life
- hot flashes/night sweats
Today’s Christian Woman has an excellent article to help identify 6 steps crucial to adjusting and even embracing the Big M. I highly encourage reading it for more information.
For men, their symptoms may include:
- lack of focus
- low libido
- erectile dysfunction
Do any of these symptoms describe you or your spouse? Are they affecting your marriage in adverse ways? Have you talked with anyone about it, or have you both been suffering alone?
May we encourage you to seek help? There are many medical doctors who regularly work with patients in this season of life. It isn’t something to be hidden or ignored. It won’t go away, and your marriage will suffer in one way or another if you push it aside.
For now we only what to stir the pot and see who among us is struggling.
If you are, no one need tell you. You’ve most likely been saying “that’s me!” while reading this entire post. To help you feel more comfortable responding, we’ve created a Menopause Survey in order to see where you are in regards to this topic. We’d appreciate you all taking the time to fill it out completely and honestly.
Click the following link to access the survey. Thank you for helping us zoom in on this topic.