When You’re Not Living Your Happily Ever After


Face it. Most of us married with rose-colored glasses on. We expected our love would carry us through whatever storms life sent our way.


Tom and I married when I was only 19 and he was 24. I moved away from the only town I had ever lived in to a place where Tom had only lived a few months. We had no friends, I  didn’t have a job, and I was quite lonely. But we had each other. It wasn’t until we had been married 3 years that reality hit our relationship hard. We discovered things about each other we didn’t know before.

Maybe you’re facing the worst storm you could have ever imagined. Or maybe you could have never imagined it being this bad…Your spouse is chronically ill…Your kids have walked away from The Lord…one of your children is no longer alive…you’re facing unemployment for another year…your spouse has been unfaithful…whatever the situation, there is HOPE.

How can there be hope in the midst of such adversity?

Our hope is found in The Lord who is unchanging. Our marriage changes as time passes, but He never does. Our circumstances change, but He never does. Our emotions will take us on a roller coaster of subjective feelings, but He is unwavering in His commitment to bring us safely home.

I don’t want to be one to sing into your pain when your pain is real. But I do want you to know that you are not without hope. If you belong to Christ then you will never face trouble to the extent that He faced trouble for you. He has been tempted in the same way you are, but He didn’t sin. Why? So that you could safely run to His arms for comfort in such times. He understands our weaknesses, and He sympathizes with our pain because He has felt what we feel.

My encouragement to you if you are not living your happily ever after is to run to your Savior.

Cry out to Him, and trust that He hears and He will respond for your good and His glory. He has promised us our happily ever after, but it won’t come in this lifetime. He knows what you need before you ask, so take comfort in His all-knowing and all-seeing nature. He will not leave you alone, but will tell you the way in which you are to walk–tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. Fresh mercies are waiting for you and for me each day that we are given–take advantage of the privilege it is to approach His throne of grace for help in your need. God is good!

I want to end by sharing the following video with you by Natalie Grant titled, When I Leave The Room. It is dedicated to mothers and children everywhere, but I believe it will also encourage couples who are experiencing a dark night of the soul. Place your spouse in the safe arms of Jesus. He will carry you both and comfort you with His love as only He can.

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About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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