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Category Archives: Troubled Marriage
What We Didn’t Know Going In To Our Marriage
When we said our marriage vows we had no idea of what lay ahead of us. We didn’t know… In our first year we would move to the one city neither of us wanted to live. I would face health … Continue reading
A Closer Look at What Bores You
Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading
My Marriage Is Mediocre—Now What?
In our last post we shared 11 possible indicators your marriage might be mediocre. Today we want to offer some practical tips to help get you out of this trap. As a reminder here is our list: Your life revolves … Continue reading
11 Possible Indicators You Have A Mediocre Marriage
MEDIOCRE. Just the sound of it is blah, don’t you think? I looked up the definition and found this interesting… One of the things that is remarkable about mediocre is the extent to which it has retained its meaning over … Continue reading
Indescribable
Being a native Floridian, I have always loved watching storms roll in from a distance. Our skies are big making it easy to see when a storm is brewing. Hurricanes are the most powerful storms I’ve witnessed, and Irma is … Continue reading
What Diving In A Green Pool Reveals About Marriage
As most of you have probably witnessed the Olympic Divers have had quite an unusual distraction, at least for athletes of their ability. They have had to dive into a murky, green pool. They have had to trust that the … Continue reading
“It’s Not What I Thought It Would Be!”
All marriages at some point come to this conclusion. You never expected it to look like this, and how did you get here in the first place? It’s certainly not what you thought it would be. Where’s the romance? Where’s … Continue reading
Red Lights, Green Lights, And Smoke Screens
Our marriage community group is going through a book and DVD series titled, Grace-Filled Marriage, by Tim and Darcy Kimmel. In our last session the topic was Grace-Filled Sex, and he told a story I’d like to share with you, paraphrased … Continue reading
The Discouragement Of Besetting Sin
Our pastor shared something recently that has stuck with me. It’s regarding the idea that we are called as Christians to crucify the flesh with all its passions. While most well-taught Christians get this, we don’t all go after our … Continue reading
Anger Crouching At The Door
Anger. It crouches at the door of marriage and seeks a way to attack. If we’re not aware of its intent, we could be assaulted without knowing what hit us until the damage has been done. It’s claws come in … Continue reading
Trials In Marriage – Loving The Addict
Last week we talked to those who are caught in the web of addictions. This week we want to talk about the spouse married to the addict. This is a tough one because the trial you find yourself in often … Continue reading
Trials In Marriage – Addictions
“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” – Galatians 5:1 ESV My purpose in highlighting this particular trial is not to bring condemnation to those caught in this vicious cycle. Addictions are … Continue reading
Do You Wish You Could Quit?
If you answered yes to this question, I get it. Marriage is hard work. But the problem isn’t that marriage is too hard; the problem is we didn’t fully understand what marriage entailed when we stood on the altar giving … Continue reading
4 Encouragements For The Discouraged Marriage
Marriages can go through all sorts of ups and downs as the years pass. This is expected to some degree, for it’s shared in most wedding vows: for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. Knowing … Continue reading
The Guilt Caused By Marriage Blogs
When Tom and I first started The Romantic Vineyard there weren’t many marriage blogs focusing on the positives of married life–romancing your spouse, date night ideas, honoring and respecting your spouse. Most were focused on the struggles marriages encounter and … Continue reading
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If Our Thoughts Were Pictures–Would You Want Your Spouse To Look At Them?
A picture captures a moment in time to help us remember the experience, the people or the place photographed. I love to look at pictures as much as I like to take them. I see it as a type of … Continue reading
4 Ways We Should Never Settle In Marriage
There are times when settling is a good thing, like when you find a place to call home, or when you’re finally able to settle a long-standing argument. Settling on a purchase price of something means both parties are … Continue reading
Needed Nuggets Of Wisdom From A Marriage Of 55 Years
My ears perked up when I heard her say, “We just celebrated our 55th anniversary and you know how we got here?” I was compelled to listen intently. Charlotte loves Jesus. Her husband, Rocko, loves him too. They both serve … Continue reading
When You’re Not Living Your Happily Ever After
Face it. Most of us married with rose-colored glasses on. We expected our love would carry us through whatever storms life sent our way. But.life.is.hard. Tom and I married when I was only 19 and he was 24. I moved … Continue reading
