Many couples we’ve talked to have areas in their marriage that are neglected simply because the husband or wife doesn’t do something that they could or should do?
- It may be because they don’t make it a priority on their calendar.
- It could be that they’re holding out because their partner isn’t doing something for them.
- It may be that you truly forgot because it wasn’t important to you.
Whatever the reason our encouragement is to stop! The only thing you’re hurting by neglect is your own marriage.
Think about it! By choosing to not do something that’s important to your spouse you’re saying that their requests aren’t important to you. Most likely you would never do this to your boss because your boss signs your paycheck. What value is this demonstrating? That money motivates, but my commitment and love for you and your happiness doesn’t? Ouch!
Sometimes the truth hurts. And many times hearing it from someone other than your spouse causes reason to flood a selfish heart.
So I ask you again, what is one thing your spouse is wanting you to do that you’ve neglected to do? Why not change the climate of your marriage by doing it. And then don’t draw attention to the fact that you did. Let them notice.
Chances are their response will motivate your desire to be faithful with the little things because it’s the little things that become big things when not addressed.