“I enjoy my wife everyday, not just one day a year because Hallmark or ProFlowers tells me to do so.”
I get that. No one wants to feel manipulated to express their love and devotion. But–if you already do this throughout the year–what’s one more day? I say, any opportunity to set aside time for each other is worth the effort. Just don’t buy a card if that’s not your thing. Boycotting Valentine’s Day? Not going to happen here! Romance happens to be my love language. 🙂 (NOTE: My son remembered that he doesn’t really boycott Valentine’s Day. He takes his two oldest daughters out on a date with Dad. I didn’t want you to get the wrong impression about him. He’s an awesome husband, dad and son.)
My husband says I’m a party waiting to happen. And it’s true; I love to celebrate just about anything, and this year we need it more than ever! Life can get so busy and/or complicated. Valentine’s Day is perfectly set 6 weeks after the holidays and by now we’re ready for some US time. This year is no exception. I believe Tom could use some extra TLC so this is what I plan to do…
TAKE HEART MY LOVE
Take Heart this Valentine’s Day. Five days leading up to Valentine’s Day do something special starting with that letter. Either buy (sorry Jason) or make 5 cards to give to your spouse, one each day starting this Friday. The first day would be the letter H, second day the letter E, and so on…
H – Half a dozen heart-shaped donuts to his work. You can write in your card things you appreciate about him/her that begin with the letter H, like hard worker, helps around the house, happy, honest, humble.
E – Expectations to a new level and drop hints of what you plan to do with him the next night. Use visuals or small gifts to build his expectations. It doesn’t have to be sexual, but then again… 😉 (E words to express to your love: experienced, excited, excellent _______?, encourager.
A – Action. Follow through on your promises from the night before. 🙂 (A words to express your love: attitude, able, accountable, accessable, approachable, available.
R – Retreat. Help him relax by having his favorite things ready when he gets home. It can include drinks, snacks, desserts, back rub, hot bath, whatever makes him happy. (R words to express your love: respectable, reserved, refined, relatable, really handsome/hot, robust.
T – Time together to Talk. Plan a nice candlelit dinner at home with conversation starters to help you talk about things others than work, kids, ministry and finances. You might remember what caused you to love each other so much in the first place. (T words to express your love: titillating, talkative, well-tempered.
I encourage you to tweak this idea and make it your own. After all it really is “ValenMINES Day” Enjoy!