Overlook Ahead

Have you ever thought about overlooking an offense instead of plunging, head-first into an argument?

Consider these scenarios…You spent a lot of time explaining something vey important to your spouse. Then, you realize they weren’t listening to you.

  • You’ve asked your spouse to do something for you while you’re away only to discover when you get home that they didn’t do it.
  • Your spouse is tired and says something very uncharacteristic for them. It hurts and you are tempted to apply all sorts of motives of why they said what they said.

Here’s an idea–overlook it! I know, I know, in the heat of the moment it is difficult, and sometimes seems impossible, to do this. But recently I’ve been choosing to overlook minor things that don’t feel minor at the time. And you know what I’ve discovered? God honors this choice, and removes it from my memory.

My husband told me last week that he was mad at me for something that was not that big a deal. He decided to overlook it. The next day he told me he couldn’t even remember why he was mad at me in the first place.

I wonder how much conflict we could avoid if we would pause for 24 hours and ask God to help us overlook the offense?If it goes away, you know it wasn’t important. If it doesn’t, then it’s something you need to discuss together.

In the mountains when we stop to take in the view of an overlook, our focus is on the big picture beauty of God’s creation. In the same way, when we pause and choose to overlook, we see the big picture truth that our spouse loves us and is for us. We are on the same team.

Let’s choose to overlook more than we nitpick. The view is incredible!


About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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