It seems more and more couples are sharing with us the current lack of health in their marriage. We can see the pain and disappointment in their eyes. It grieves us because we know this is not how marriage is supposed to be. God intended marriage to be the one relationship we could count on in this life to allow us a safe place to grow and mature.
Why is marriage so difficult if it’s supposed to be so good?
The answer is simple–we aren’t perfect, our spouse isn’t either! But our differences are intended to help strengthen us not tear us apart.
Most couples are opposites on every level. You may share common interests, but most likely the way you go about doing things is completely opposite.
Tom and I have learned to laugh at how opposite we are. For example, we are getting ready to make deliveries to different counties in our state. As we were discussing the route we would take, it was no surprise that Tom imagined us covering the counties in a North to South pattern. I had envisioned us going East to West! It’s this way with nearly every decision we make or task we complete.
If we don’t communicate about our differences these lighthearted disagreements can become full-blown irritations. I know because we have been there many times, I’m sorry to say!
How is your marriage in regard to:
- Your finances?
- Your communication?
- Your parenting?
- Your schedules?
- Your goals?
- Your intimacy?
- Your priorities?
If any of the above caused your eyes to roll or your heart to sink, please seek help! Even if you’re committed to a life-long marriage, don’t settle for mediocrity. Pursue the best marriage God designed for you for the sake of your growth as a couple, for the sake of your children and most of all for the example your marriage is to the watching world.
If you’re not sure how to begin, please feel free to contact us with your questions. We will do our best to point you in the right direction. This time I’m quite sure Tom and I will be in agreement. It’s one area where we really do think alike! And I thank God for that!