Your Past No Longer Defines You

Your past no longer defines you. For the Christian Marriage, this makes all the difference in how you relate to each other.

Did you know that if you are a Christian your past sins no longer define you? You are a new creation! If this is true, which I believe it is–why do we live as if our sin is who we are? I hear people say, “I’m lazy!” or “I’m no good!” or “I’m an idiot!” Our words have power to speak life or death and these words are not life giving!

I remember a season when I disqualified myself from helping other young moms because I felt all I had to offer them was a bad example. What I was really doing was allowing my sin to silence God’s grace in my life. We are all imperfect sinners saved by the grace and mercy of God. We can boast in our weaknesses and failures because of what Christ has done!

Am I perfect? Absolutely not! But I am His and that makes all the difference. If God sees me in Christ, shouldn’t I?

So many times I see the look of defeat and discouragement on faces. It can be men, women, or marriages. They are listening to the wrong voice. Our sin has a remedy and it is found in the cross of Jesus Christ. He nailed everyone of them there on that dark day in history. Who are we to take it back down and lament what has already been crucified?

Are you discouraged today in your marriage? Does it seem as if the same besetting sins are having their way with you and/or your spouse? Then I encourage you to repent if needed. But if you are being tormented by the accuser who constantly reminds you of the past, then stand tall and declare you are no longer bound by that sin! You are beautifully bought with the precious blood of Christ.

If it seems too much to unpack yourself, then seek help. Don’t delay. Your life and marriage is too precious to waste it wallowing in self-pity and despair.

I realize that if you are not a Christian, this post can be confusing. That is not in my heart for you. If you would like to know more about being free from the past and its failures please email me. This year I will celebrate my 50th year as a Christian, and I can’t imagine living any other way.

“He whom the Son sets free is free indeed!” – John 8:36


This is our last post for our National Marriage Week Challenge to post each day leading up to Valentine’s Day. #NationalMarriageWeek2019 🙂

About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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6 Responses to Your Past No Longer Defines You

  1. I’m not a slave unto the past
    nor time’s puppet on a string,
    but in the flames of this last
    season, I have learned something.
    All I ever had and was
    prepared me for the fight
    against the maul of cancer’s claws,
    against the fall of night.
    For in these days of bloody wrath
    there is a core of love
    that sets me on a grace-filled path,
    a peaceful warrior dove.
    Days of yore that formed my soul,
    the clay with which God made me whole.

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