What Are Your Top Two?

Talking to others about your current struggles is what all marriages need.

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We all have areas in our marriage that are in need of attention. What we do with these areas is the defining difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy marriage. Having a church community of friends who know and love us has helped us make it thus far. And we are doing our part to give away to younger couples what we have so generously received.

What does caring for other marriages look like for us?

  1. We have regular meetings in our home throughout the year encouraging couples in all stages of their marriage.
  2. Whenever we get with a married couple this question is asked, “How are you doing in your marriage?”
  3. After we ask the above question, we listen and ask more questions to understand their struggle. The conversation ends up being encouraging for all of us as we are reminded of the importance of marriage from God’s perspective.
  4. We read marriage books. We recommend them and we often give them away.
  5. We read other marriage blogs and look for ways to encourage their marriages as well. No marriage is exempt from needing encouragement and help.
  6. We realize we aren’t experts, but we care. Surrendering this to God allows us to be used as He desires, whenever and wherever He chooses.

We would love to be able to sit with you and your spouse to ask you how you are doing in your marriage? Since this isn’t possible, we did the next best thing; We have created a poll to find out your current struggles in marriage. Won’t you take a couple of minutes and answer the question honestly.

Our desire is for The Romantic Vineyard to be a place of hope and help in your relationship. Your answers will help us to that end as we will spend the rest of this month addressing the top two areas. So…

What are your top two?


About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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3 Responses to What Are Your Top Two?

  1. Adc says:

    I so wish We had at least one couple to talk to. At least one couple we could be completely honest with, without them judging or taking just one side. The only ones that have been trying to start a marriage ministry in my church is my parents(mostly my mom) and my wife’s aunt. The only problem is that talking to family about a problem isn’t the best idea(specially not my mom who is very protective of me). I hope my wife and I will grow in our intimacy on all levels and one day will be able to help young couples just as we needed it. Looking forward to see what you will be focusing on


    • Debi Walter says:

      It can be hard finding someone to confide in for help with your marriage. But it is necessary for your growth as a couple. We would encourage you to read Sacred Marriage, by Gary Thomas together. Take your time and talk about the issues that surface as you read. If we didn’t have real people to confide in we would seek the help and advice of those who have studied and written about what God has shown them.
      Also, pray and ask God to bring a godly mentor into your life. He loves to answers such prayers.
      Thank you for responding to our survey. Intimacy on all levels is what it takes to have a healthy Marriage.
      Praying for you and your wife.
      Tom and Debi


  2. What I’d most like to tell you,
    what I would like to ask:
    please understand I have tomorrow
    and I’m not just looking back.
    You swim in life’s fast river;
    cancer’s left me on the shore.
    There’s so much I can’t deliver,
    and I feel, at times, a bore.
    I do not know the chic cafes;
    I do not know your friends.
    But there is fulfillment in these days
    of hard and painful ends.
    Perhaps this is MY ministry,
    that I might, somehow, help you see.

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