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Check Your Headlights
Headlights on cars are important. Without them it’s difficult to see what’s in front of you. Worse, it’s impossible for oncoming traffic to see you. We have noticed more cars on the road recently without their headlights on after dark. … Continue reading
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Tagged Check you Headlights, communication, marriage
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Do You Feel Understood?
How well do you understand your spouse? When they experience loss or disappointment, are you surprised at their expression or lack of expression? We tend to judge our spouse based on how we would respond thinking we’re being helpful. We … Continue reading
That’s A Good Question
As I’m writing this post, the leaves are falling at my feet with cool temperatures and sunny skies. It is a perfect picture of a crisp, fall day in the mountains. But the scenery doesn’t matter when it comes to … Continue reading
Posted in Anniversaries, Christian Marriage, communication, Date Night Ideas
Tagged communication, Date Night Ideas, Fall leaves, good question, marriage
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Is It Safe To Be Real?
I was the youngest of three growing up in the 60’s. Our lively conversations at the table were often filled with laughter and teasing. But because I was 5 and 6 years younger than my brother and sister (respectively), I … Continue reading
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Tagged communication, How our past influences our present, Is it safe to be real?, Marriage help
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Pruning A Marriage Is Hard Work
It is Spring in FL and everything in our garden needs pruning, weeding, mulching, fertilizing and/or repotting. It can be overwhelming when looked at as a whole. But Tom and I have found that focusing on one thing and completing … Continue reading
Road Trip Romance
Tom and I find ourselves on the road a lot these days. We are heading home today after two weeks visiting our kids and some friends. 2500 miles accumulated on the odometer and hours of time to talk. We’ve discovered … Continue reading
What Are Your Top Two?
We all have areas in our marriage that are in need of attention. What we do with these areas is the defining difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy marriage. Having a church community of friends who know and … Continue reading
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Tagged Benefits of Church Community, Can We Talk, communication, mentoring
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Stop Chasing Squirrels
I love watching Tom do those things for which he is passionate, like lead our marriage community group. When someone asks him about their marriage he lights up and never fails to offer wise, biblically-based counsel. And the older he … Continue reading
Vintage Post – The Verbs Of Your Marriage
(Originally posted on August 21, 2014) I love words and how they have power to help us understand our marriage. Most of us don’t give much thought to the words we use and why. But we should. Words reveal. Words … Continue reading
Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours
Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading
Erasing Your Spouse
Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Priorities
Tagged Being intentional, communication, Don’t be an eraser, marriage
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Unexpected Expectations
Tom and I recently had a conflict that we didn’t see coming. The conversation grew tense, yet there wasn’t anything said to cause the conflict. We didn’t quite know how to fix it since the issue wasn’t obvious to us. … Continue reading
Vintage Post – Ten Commandments For Better Communication
(First published on May 22, 2009) Communication is the foundation of all marriage relationships – the key is establishing a good and strong foundation that will support your relationship through all difficulties. Those who lack good communication skills find their … Continue reading
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Tagged 10 Commandments for Marriage, communication, marriage
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Can We Talk?
Last night at our small group meeting a couple shared something they had recently gone through that they thought would be helpful to the rest of us. It was. It provided a spring board for an entire evening of dialogue. … Continue reading
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Tagged Can We Talk, communication, Conflict in Marriage, Fruit of the Spirit
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Measuring Trust In Your Marriage
Trust is one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. With it the marriage can grow and change as prompted by the Lord without difficulty. The benefits will be enjoyed by both husband and wife. Without it the … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Broken trust in marriage, Business, communication, Covey, Lord, marriage, Stephen Covey, Stephen M. R. Covey, The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything, Trust in Marriage
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Boring Communication And How To Avoid It In Your Marriage
Have you ever been in conversation with someone who was obviously bored with the topic? I have. In fact the person actually closed their eyes while I was talking. It wasn’t until his head fell backwards that he was shaken … Continue reading
Missed Connection
We had it all planned. I would visit our daughter and her family for a couple of days until Tom finished with a trade show. On his way home he would pass through Atlanta where I would meet him at … Continue reading
Hit Or Miss
When schedules are demanding and time to connect is lacking, it is easy to find our communication either hitting or missing the mark. Have you ever said one thing only to have your spouse interpret what you said, how you … Continue reading
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Tagged Christian, communication, God, marriage, relationship
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Ten Commandments for Better Communication
Communication is the foundation of all marriage relationships – the key is establishing a good and strong foundation that will support your relationship through all difficulties. Those who lack good communication skills find their days are full of bumps and … Continue reading
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The Romantic Vineyard 