Ask any woman who has experienced natural childbirth what transition was like and you’ll most likely get a grimace.

Transitions are hard and there is usually no way around them but through.

When our son was born my labor progressed fast, not to mention he came 10 days early. We weren’t ready; I wasn’t ready.

When my labor nurse said, “You have to breathe through the urge to push until the doctor arrives!” I panicked. Transition is when you are fully dilated and ready to push hard in order for new life to be born.

Transitions don’t only happen in childbirth. We experience transitions going from one stage of life to another; e.g. life changes like job loss, new baby, retirement, and change from one normal to a new normal. A hard time is followed by new and better life. Sadly many couples give up in the transition stage thinking this is all there is.

After 42 years of marriage we have experienced every type of transition—from childbirth to the death of parents; from buying a business to selling the same business bringing unexpected changes; from having our family all in one city to having them scattered over 3 states. Every transition required a new level of leaning in and choosing to try to understand each other.

What transitions have you faced in your marriage? Knowing they’re coming will help you prepare for the urge to push and keep going. It is worth the effort.

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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4 Responses to Transitions

  1. Good word for today! When you’re in the middle of it, you don’t necessarily realize it. For us, moving to a new town and starting my own business. I’ve always punched someone else’s time clock until September 1st! Now, I’m watching God bring in the customers and provide the increase. It’s amazing and a bit scary.

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    • Seth Lytle says:

      Same! Transitioning to being a business owner has many ripple effects that cause us to grow, or be forced to! Waking up at 5am is one of them 😉

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    • Debi Walter says:

      The most important thing for marriage in transitions is to lean in to understand each other more and love the new person they’re becoming. Change is hard, but is part of married life—the for better or worse promise made on Day One. Thanks for your encouragement.


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