I’ve been thinking how challenging communicating about hard things can be in marriage.

– Maybe you don’t agree on your budget limitations.

– Maybe you are hurt over something your spouse said, but you’re afraid to tell them.

– Maybe you’re worried about what your spouse may or may not do, or you’re angry about something they did.

– Maybe you feel unseen or unheard, invisible when it comes to your perspective.

All of these are difficult topics in a strong marriage. So if any of these hit home in your heart…

Let this post be a nudge.

The enemy is seeking to destroy marriages and one of the ways he works is to keep us from talking. We must lean in towards our spouse rather than pull away from them; even when we don’t want to.

Some difficulties can’t be avoided, and ignoring them only feeds the enemy and encourages him to keep stirring it up.

If your heart is racing right now at the thought of talking to your spouse, pray this way…

Father,

Thank you for being the creator of marriage and the family. It was your idea to make two different people come together as one in marriage. You heard our vows knowing what adversity we would face in the years to come. And here I am afraid to be open and honest with my spouse. I ask for courage to speak truthfully. I ask for assurance that You are with me. And I pray for my spouse that he or she would have ears to hear what I’m saying and not react.

Help me do what seems impossible and no longer hide in the shadows of unresolved conflict. I know You will give me peace and strength to lean in for the good of our relationship. Thank you for being an ever present help when I need it most.

In Jesus name, Amen

Now let me ask you again, “Why not now?