In case you missed the beginning of this Sunday series our first two “sharing musts” were:
Our next absolute sharing must for a healthy marriage would seem to go without saying, but it is a real issue in some marriages. It is…
There is something that happens between a husband and wife in the night as we sleep next to each other. There is a connection made that is vital to a healthy marriage.
“Usually the answer is because even if you don’t get the best night’s sleep, you find comfort and emotional intimacy in sleeping together.”
- Disagreement about who gets which side of the bed
- Differing sleep positions
- Temperature of the room
- To cuddle or not to cuddle
- Sheet textures
- Tossing and turning
- Teeth grinding
- Degree of quietness
- Getting up in the middle of the night
- The size of the bed
- The firmness of the bed
- Having a window open
- Sleeping with children or pets
- Going to bed angry
- Sleep walking
- Amount of pillows
- Number of blankets
- Spousal arousal syndrome – what is this?
(Definition: Being awakened by your partner’s snoring, having your sleep disrupted many times throughout the night, and having your concentration at work being negatively affected by the resulting fatique is called spousal arousal syndrome.)
- Time to go to bed
- When to get up in the morning
Most married couples know it is important to share one another’s burdens. But do we actually make a point of drawing our spouse out on issues which are weighing them down? Or are we more upset by the inconvenience their burden is causing the relationship. I admit that early on in our marriage I was often more upset at with Tom’s burden than I was sympathetic because if he wasn’t on his A game I had to pick up the slack. Something my selfish heart hated. But through the years I have changed. What helped me change? It required me seeing this response as “sin.” Seeing it only as “the way I am,” left me no hope for change. Seeing it as sin gave me hope because there is a remedy for sin – Christ Jesus who came into the world to save sinners! All I needed to do was repent of my selfishness and ask God to enable me to love and care for Tom in the way I should.
How are you doing in your marriage in regards to sharing the same bed and sharing each other’s burdens?