Off The Air

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As I am writing this post our blog is “Off the Air.” It is a strange feeling and one I’ve never experienced since becoming a blogger.

We’ve had a minor issue with some people not being able to access our site. I’ve been in communication with our tech support for the past couple of weeks trying to fix the problem, but each time I call the problem only gets worse. I don’t think it can get much worse than “off the air.”

I’m waiting for customer support to open, and since they’re on the west coast it seems I’ve been waiting forever! Hopefully, this problem will be resolved. If not, we may be support shopping very soon. An option I am glad I have.

Our marriage can face times of being disconnected too. A conflict arises that is too big to resolve in one sitting. It takes lots of time listening, asking questions, doing what needs to be done and committing to the required changes. We can go “off the air” with each other, so to speak, but when we do we are no longer connected the way our covenant requires.

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I remember many nights early in our marriage when Tom and I would go to sleep with our backs to each other. Not because that was the most comfortable position, mind you, but because we wanted to create distance – even as we slept. This is wrong! After 33 years of marriage we have learned to stay on-line with each other and not put the other On Hold. This isn’t easy when you’re upset, but it is the grown-up way to behave.

Too many of us act like children when we don’t get out own way – we pout and hide. How can we change? Only by God’s grace enabling us to say NO to this behavior. God desires us to grow up in all things – to be mature – to be weaned from needing milk and eat the solid word of truth. Yes, it takes time. No, it isn’t easy. But being disconnected for long periods of time from the one with whom you’re in a covenant relationship is even worse.

Now I’m just praying we get back On The Air so you can actually read this post!

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6 Responses to Off The Air

  1. Sharon O says:

    This is incredibly true. In our early years we did that same thing, not go to bed mad but just go to bed not talking with a thick wall between us. We shared the same house but we were not ‘tighly knit’ together. In time it has all changed and God has brought us to a new and good place.
    I give him all the Glory …

  2. Ah, I am so glad you are now back on “cable”, so I can enjoy your tidbits.
    I have a statue in my home with movable parts. And, I use(d) it to display the “marital temperature”. You see, it’s comprised of a woman and man who fit (or don’t) together in various positions. It serve(d) as a starting point for discussion as to why one would feel that way…

    Critical concepts for when both of us (you) are busy beavers leaving at various hours of the day or night- and sometimes travel and sometimes return between the pumpkin’s return and the morning crow.

    • Debi Walter says:

      Thanks for the welcome back, Roy! Your statue sounds very interesting – I’m sure it’s a conversation starter!

    • Debi Walter says:

      Thank you – it’s great to be back after four hours this morning of non-stop….I have no words. It wasn’t so much fun. But at least it paid off thanks to a friend of a twitter follower who was kind enough to help me. God is good! Have a great weekend!

  3. Welcome back, though you are never gone from me!

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