We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose.
If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light.
If I’m wanting to read I’ll put it on the second light.
But if I need to take a close look at fine print or sew a button on a shirt, I have to put it on the brightest setting.
There was a day when no lamp was needed for any of these tasks. I can still hear my grandmother reproving me for reading in the dark. “You’re going to ruin your eyes!” She would say. I wonder if my need for reading glasses and bright lights to read is her prophecy fulfilled, or if it’s just what happens as we age. At any rate, light is necessary.
Marriage is similar in that we need to shed more light on our relationship the older we get.
When we were newlyweds, it didn’t take much to talk or to romance each other. It was all fresh, new and fun for the most part. Maybe it was because we were on the lower setting only and everything had a warm glow about it.
As the years pass we get to know each other on a deeper level. More light is shed on areas that may have not been noticed before. Things irritate us, and we have to talk more and learn what motivates our disagreements. And when we don’t like what we discover? We must turn the light of God’s Word upon our hearts and see what He want us to see in the conflict. The brightest setting is for those who wish to grow their marriage beyond the “we look good, so we must be good,” stage. That is superficial and leads no where.
What setting is your lamp currently? It may be time to take it up a notch and see what you discover. Check out our Date Night Questions on the tab above to help you in the process.
“No one after lighting a lamp puts it in a cellar or under a basket, but on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light. Luke 11:33 ESV
This is our fifth post for our National Marriage Week Challenge to post each day leading up to Valentine’s Day. #NationalMarriageWeek2019