Your Story Is Your History

Barefoot Cabin in Banner Elk, NC

Sitting on our porch at Barefoot Cabin I had the thought—how many days have we shared since we were married? One of the best parts of Google is being able to find the answer quickly to such random questions.

We were married on February 24, 1979. That’s a total of 15,571 days!

There is much history made each and every day. I have kept a journal since 1989–ten years after our story began. But many memories are recalled because I took the time to write them down. Many more are forgotten, but I know I can find them by flipping through my journals.

It’s fun to challenge your spouse with questions about your history. You can do this in a trivia format or with word association. see if your memories are the same. Many times they will differ—Tom will remember something I forgot and vice versa.

Many couples make choices to end their marriage due to incompatibility, irreconcilable differences, or a lost conviction that marriage vows matter before God.

What they fail to realize is the history that is lost in the process. This is why we do what we do.

Has our marriage always been great? No. Has it always been easy? Not by a long shot. But we have stayed consistent in one thing—in our commitment to make it work no matter how difficult. Why? Because we realize our vows were made before God, and a triple braided cord isn’t easily broken.

Start this week with gratefulness for the history you and your spouse share.

Make plans to play the word association game by picking words that represent something you both experienced. See if this doesn’t elevate your awareness of the gift it is to share history—it’s your story!

How many days have you been married? Let us celebrate with you by sharing your number in the comments.

About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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10 Responses to Your Story Is Your History

  1. 11,804 days for Kathleen and I. You’re right, that’s a lot of history together. But even more interesting is that we have been best friends since we were 9 years old. There’s an old old song that says “If I had it to do all over again I’d do it with you! “ Thank you for your time to and commitment to this community!


    • Debi Walter says:

      David, That is a lot of days!! How cool that you’ve been friends most of your life. There is nothing better than being married to your best friend. Maybe a good reason to celebrate your history together this week.
      And thanks for being a part of our community. We all need the encouragement.
      Tom and Debi


  2. Bob and Laurie says:

    11,335 days today for Laurie and I. We often talk about how that could sound like such a long time yet feel like not very long at all. So much history still to be made! Thanks for the reminder….

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  3. Jim says:

    16,125 days and counting. Mostly great. I wish we had a journal for all those days.

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  4. Randy and Vickie Bale says:

    15,430 days for us and I’m thankful for them all. No, they haven’t all been easy but we’re stronger for the hard days and because God is our help and strength, we’ve made it this far and looking forward to the rest of the days God has in store for us. Thank you for encouraging us to keep on keeping on.

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  5. Kelli says:

    And I agree, it’s NOT easy, but God! So very thankful for our commitment to Him & each other. Thank you for the encouragement of your blog❣️

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