Headlights on cars are important. Without them it’s difficult to see what’s in front of you. Worse, it’s impossible for oncoming traffic to see you.

We have noticed more cars on the road recently without their headlights on after dark. We figure it’s because so many are driving rental cars in our vacation capital of the world, and they don’t realize the auto-on feature isn’t set. This is dangerous!

Communication is a lot like headlights. It helps you share with your spouse where you’re heading, and it helps them see what’s coming towards them. If you are depending on what has always worked in the past to get you through changing seasons you will be like those cars with the auto-on feature disabled.

There can be no communication vacation in marriage, no time-off, no set it and forget it feature.

A healthy marriage needs an air traffic controller. You need communication to relay back and forth how to land a good conversation. Or there will be serious injuries to your relationship.

When was the last time you had a good conversation that wasn’t rushed or interrupted? Maybe it’s time to check your headlights.