Last night I attended a Ladies meeting at our church. The theme was Rhythms of Life and it was eye-opening as to the importance of the rhythms that define us.

We had an exercise where we were to list rhythms or habits that we practice regarding our heart, soul, mind and strength. It was something I hadn’t considered in this way before.

This morning I wondered how it would apply to our marriages.

We all have rhythms that define us and make us unique. Think of it—two people coming together as one new family must learn how to relate with each other.

What was normal for you growing up with your parents, won’t be normal for your spouse, and vice versa. The foods you enjoy, the routines of your day, are all challenged by your spouse doing it another way. If you don’t see this coming on your wedding day, you will see it after the honeymoon. This is part of the leaving and cleaving process of a new marriage.

It is not an easy process. Without giving serious thought to it, the marriage will be stifled.

We were asked the following question last night, “What connects you and feeds you with the things of God?”

Let’s consider this for our marriage.

• What connects you with your spouse?
• What eases your mind?
• What fills your heart with joy?
• What energizes you?
• What connects you with God?
• What refreshes your soul?

These are good questions to help us understand our spouse on a deeper level than, “What do you want for dinner?”

God has made every marriage special by the gifts and desires we both bring to the relationship.

Sadly many couples spend more time arguing over their differences than talking about the strengths their differences bring to the relationship.

What if we were to devote a night this week to talk over these questions considering habits and rhythms we have developed since we said, “I do?”

Maybe we would come to a healthy place of understanding each other.

Maybe we would discover things we are doing well.

Maybe we would appreciate our uniqueness that God gifted us with for His purposes.

Maybe the things we have argued or complained about will become the things for which we thank God.

Since retiring Tom and I enjoy our slow morning routines that include reading the Bible, drinking our coffee and tea, talking over what God shows us and praying for what concerns us. This is a rhythm we both enjoy in our current season.

We would love to hear how your rhythms are helping you in your marriage.

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May this week be one of eye-opening conversations between you and your spouse.

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Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️🙏