We do well to take thought of how our marriage and our commitment to it influences the lives and choices our children and their children will make.
Today was her day for all of her 90 years. My grandmother was born on March 2, 1889, in the small town of Neodesha, Kansas. I know much about her because I’ve been working on a book based on her life for the past 10 years. It has been quite the journey for me as a writer, but even more so as her youngest granddaughter who carried much regret with not getting to know her better while she was alive.
But her faith and commitment has spoken volumes to me after her death. As will ours to our children, if we let it.
I come from quite a legacy of marriage.
My grandparents were married for 57 years before my grandfather passed away in 1963. My parents were also married for 57 years before my Dad passed away in 2004. My sister and her husband will celebrate their 39th anniversary this summer, and my brother and his wife were married 5 weeks after Tom and me. They will celebrate their 33rd on April 1st.
I’ll never forget the realization of this legacy as we all sat together at my parent’s 50th wedding anniversary party on July 5, 1997. What a legacy. Have our marriages been perfect – certainly not. But we all have one thing in common – commitment, and this by God’s grace at work in our lives to help us stay the course.
I believe my marriage is bearing the fruit of my grandmother’s prayers. She prayed I would marry someone like Tom, who would love me and care for me. She lived to meet him and died only 4 months after our wedding day. There isn’t a year that goes by when on March 2nd I don’t remember her and offer a prayer of thanks to God for her example in my life and the legacy of marriage I’ve been given.
Now it’s my turn to pass it on to my children and their children. I’d say we’re off to a good start – our daughter will celebrate her 7th anniversary this May and our son will celebrate his 6th anniversary this June. Isn’t God good?
What legacy are you leaving for those who are coming along behind you?