Anytime life becomes predictable there can be a temptation to find it boring. This in itself isn’t necessarily bad. It’s okay to be bored from time to time. It’s what we do to fill the boredom that matters.
Consider King David. When he was in Jerusalem one afternoon while all his soldiers were out fighting the Ammorites, he went for a walk on the rooftop. He noticed a beautiful woman bathing below. Her name was Bathsheba, and the story goes downhill from there. Had David gone to battle as he should have, this temptation would have never happened. But he chose to stay behind. We don’t know if it was because he was bored, but he certainly could have been.
Procrastination can be an indicator of boredom as well. If there is something in your marriage you know you should be working on, but you keep putting it off, this can pave the way for all sorts of trouble in your relationship:
- It could tempt your spouse to be angry with you.
- It could show a lack of consideration and selfless love for your spouse.
- It could reveal an area of unfaithfulness in the little things.
The adage is true: Don’t put off until tomorrow what you could do today.
Does your marriage seem boring right now? Has it become predictable? With what are you tempted to fill the emptiness boredom creates? Talk with your spouse about your answers, and see if they feel the same way.
Healthy communication is a married couples’ greatest weapon. Use it often and watch your relationship grow.