One of the best gifts you can give your spouse is yourself.
As Gary Thomas says often, “Your wife is your Eve–the only woman in the world created by God for you. In the same way, your husband is your Adam–the only man in the world created by God for you.”
Imagine receiving a gift this Christmas from someone who keeps putting you off when you ask to open it. They keep saying, “Not yet,” or “Not today.” Pretty soon you would grow weary of asking. What was meant to bless you ends up doing the opposite.
Many treat their spouse this way when it comes to sex in marriage.
If you say no more often than you say yes to Physical intimacy it may be time to ask yourself why? Don’t let months or years go by hiding behind your no.
I remembering hearing of one wife who was inspired by God to begin saying yes to her husband whenever he was desiring her. Her motivation was to say YES to SEX to BLESS him. I was inspired by her heart. The unexpected blessing was that this attitude spilled over into all areas of their marriage.
Of course this can go both ways. Not all husbands have the stronger sex drive.
There are couples who find it difficult to relate to marriage material for this reason; The husband relates to what is shared toward the women and the wife relates to what is shared toward the men. This can be embarrassing in itself, and cause them to hide their struggles. If this is your situation, you are welcome to send us your questions for help and hope.
What if this Christmas you were to give your spouse the gift of yourself? And when they ask to unwrap you they hear an enthusiastic YES!
I have a sense this would be their favorite gift!
For more ways to bless your spouse for Christmas, see our Romantic Christmas Ideas under the Only Husbands or Only Wives tab at the top of the blog.
May this final week before Christmas be filled with anticipation of the blessing Christ is to us in our marriage.
Resources to help you further from Marriage Bloggers we know and trust:
5 Things To Guard Against As A Wife With A High Sex Drive
How Libido Works, For Women That Is
There is a place where the only thing left to unwrap is honesty.
I’ve never thought my life a grace,
‘cept maybe to the dogs;
I’m something that can be replaced,
a small and minor cog.
Yes, I now the Lord God said
‘fearfully, wonderfully made’,
but my life’s gone in the red
and I just don’t make the grade.
I’ve done my best, and of that,
no doubt, and my head is high,
but intentions, sometimes they fall flat
now that time has come to die.
If you remember me at all,
let it be as a failure who yet stood tall.