Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

A Time For Everything.

Nine years ago we were embarking on a new adventure. Our eyes were full of faith as to what God had in store for us. My Mom had just entered eternity. Tom had just retired from owning a business and … Continue reading

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Wordless Wednesday – Farmer’s Market Date Day

When I sat down to write today’s post, I had no words. My camera lens oftentimes does a better job of telling a story than I do. So today I’m letting these photos speak. I hope you’ll pause for a … Continue reading

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Creative Dates for Parents

We recently read a great post by Dustin with Engaged Marriage blog. He provided a fun idea for parents to help spark creativity in your dates, but also to model what a healthy marriage looks like for them. Let us … Continue reading

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Favorite Numbers

We want to include you in our recent conversation that made us laugh out loud. How we’ve needed this. To know why the heavy heart—head over to my personal blog, Write From The Heart—to see. But here was our conversation … Continue reading

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Today

Today marks 15,695 days I have been a Mrs. Tom’s one and only Mrs. to be exact. I was 19. Tom was 24. We had our life ahead of us with all its twists, turns and unknowns. These 2242 weeks … Continue reading

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364

What is so special about this number? It’s how many days that fall between this Valentine’s Day and next Valentine’s Day. We have 364 more opportunities to let our spouse know how much they mean to us. In case you’re … Continue reading

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Vintage Post: A Dozen Valentines Ideas 4U

Valentine’s Day. Many people roll their eyes just thinking of it. You may think it is hokey. You may think it is a gimmick instigated by the card and chocolate industries to get you to part with your money. But … Continue reading

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This Man

He serves tirelessly. He works hard when someone is depending on him. He is faithful to complete any job well. And He does it with joy. We have had a hard few seasons back to back. We have lacked time … Continue reading

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One Night

Tom and I are away for a 24 hour getaway at the beach. He got an early check-in which gave us time to rest awhile before dinner. Our meal was at a local favorite called Millie’s, that uses local meats … Continue reading

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Passport Dinner Dates

Tom and I love to travel, but with the pandemic it has been impossible for most. Especially elective vacation travel. We shared this date idea in 2009 under our Top 10 Date Night Ideas, but we felt this date needs … Continue reading

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Kindness Check

Recently I was in the Starbucks drive thru waiting for my Christmas latte. Imagine my surprise when I got to the window to hear, “Your drink was paid for by the car in front of you, Merry Christmas!”? What? I … Continue reading

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Craving Intimacy

A new year is upon us. 2022. And we have another opportunity to be intentional in our pursuit of each other and God. Spiritual intimacy comes easier for some than others. What you do with the distance matters. You are … Continue reading

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Two Keys for Devotion in Marriage

Devotion. It’s one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. But it’s two-fold. Devotion to God. Tom and I committed our marriage to God—a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. What we promised matters because we said our … Continue reading

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Comfort and Joy

It’s Christmas week and we’ve been more aware in recent years of our need for comfort and joy. Tom’s stepdad is in the final stages of life with Hospice overseeing his comfort. He has lived a full life and at … Continue reading

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Physician or Prosecutor?

In one our favorite marriage books, Cherish, Gary Thomas uses a very helpful metaphor in how to help your spouse. We all have things we do wrong at some point in our relationship whether it is blatant sin against each … Continue reading

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Check Your Headlights

Headlights on cars are important. Without them it’s difficult to see what’s in front of you. Worse, it’s impossible for oncoming traffic to see you. We have noticed more cars on the road recently without their headlights on after dark. … Continue reading

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Focus

This has been a challenging season for most marriages. The reasons vary, but the pressure is similar. How can we turn our focus from what troubles us to what blesses us? Pray. Ask God to give you an idea on … Continue reading

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Building Spiritual Intimacy

Tom and I are in route to GA for Thanksgiving. The temps are dropping drastically and the trees are showing off their Fall wardrobe. It is another road trip for us where we can catch up on life. We love … Continue reading

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When The Roses Are Wilted And The Wine Is Flat

Most of you know how much we have been through the past few years. It has seemed that one crisis after another has continued since the beginning os 2019. Throw a pandemic in the middle of it all and it’s … Continue reading

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Do You Feel Understood?

How well do you understand your spouse? When they experience loss or disappointment, are you surprised at their expression or lack of expression? We tend to judge our spouse based on how we would respond thinking we’re being helpful. We … Continue reading

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