Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

How Advent Informs our Marriage with Joy

This post is my heart in black and white. It has been a difficult year and a half in our family. We have faced circumstances that have revealed things in my heart that are hard to bear. My husband has … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage | 2 Comments

How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Love

If it weren’t for Christ coming to earth as a baby, we wouldn’t be able to express true love to our spouse. He paved the way in the darkness to bring light and love to all who believe in Him. … Continue reading

Posted in Advent in Marriage, Christmas | Tagged , | Leave a comment

How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Peace

Peace. We all long for peace. But peace isn’t what many of us expect. It isn’t silence or a lack of any thing that irritates or troubles us. This is one of our favorite scenes from the movie, What About … Continue reading

Posted in Advent in Marriage, Christian Marriage, Christmas, Difficulty, Encouraging Your Spouse, Holidays | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Hope

We are in the first week of Advent where we are encouraged to focus on the Hope of the Gospel. Jesus was born of a virgin bringing with Him the hope of the world. It is a lasting hope that … Continue reading

Posted in Advent in Marriage, Christian Marriage, Christmas, Growing Strong Marriages, Holidays | Tagged , | Leave a comment

When Thanksgiving Isn’t Happy

It happens, and most are more aware after this year’s events, of how life can look completely different than you expected or hoped. Who would have ever anticipated a pandemic that altered normal life for the entire world? It has … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Holidays, thanksgiving | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

The Well Seasoned Marriage

I find it interesting that Fall brings me such joy. I’ve heard many others say Fall is their favorite season as well. But when it comes to the seasons of marriage I have to ask myself, do I enjoy the … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Growing Strong Marriages, Seasons of Life | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

No Tricks—All Treats This Halloween

I’ve started to write a post several times and my mind goes blank. Life has been unpredictable this year, and it keeps coming at us. Our youngest daughter gave birth to her first baby at 24 weeks and 5 days … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Caring for Parents, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Grandparenting, Growing Strong Marriages, Halloween, Keeping It Real, Seasons of Life | Tagged , , , | 6 Comments

What Is Your Endurance Level in Marriage?

Life has made it very difficult for me to work out on a consistent basis. I do it just enough to be really sore afterwards–for days. My endurance is lacking. How do I increase my endurance? By doing what I … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Emotional, Intellectual, Intimacy, Physical, Spiritual | Tagged , | 1 Comment

Introducing Simon and Eden

Tom and I have enjoyed the new series on the life and ministry of Jesus titled, The Chosen. If you haven’t seen it yet, we highly recommend it. It’s unlike any production of this nature. It provides insight into the … Continue reading

Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

Vintage Post – Constrained or Compromised?

Originally posted March 2011 Driving down the road they stand as deformed sentinels declaring to everyone, “I was here first!”  Yet progress moves forward without regard for the hows, whys or who’s in the way.  I’m talking about beautiful trees … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Priorities, Vintage Posts | Tagged , | Leave a comment

What’s The Big Deal About Marriage Anyway?

Marriage. It seems to be old-fashioned to many in our culture. Kind of a romantic gesture that is optional for co-habitating couples, but not necessary. I’ve heard some say, “Marriage is just a piece of paper that doesn’t prove anything. … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage | 1 Comment

Pandemic Marriage Check Up

Tension. Every marriage faces it. It comes from no where and sometimes settles so thick you could cut it with a knife. Many use words instead, which cuts deeper and always leaves a scar. Pandemics are like a boiler keeping … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages | Tagged , | 2 Comments

Unexpected Expectations

Have you ever been caught off guard by unrealistic or unfair expectation of your spouse? Have you ever been surprised that you even had expectations? I have, sadly, and I regret what I put Tom through. Thankfully I have a … Continue reading

Posted in Birthdays, Celebration Dates, Celebrations, Christian Marriage, Keeping It Real | Tagged , , , | 3 Comments

10 Habits of Highly Romantic Couples

Romance is simply thinking of your spouse above all others when it comes to time, attention, generosity and kindness. Your spouse should never feel that they come in second place to your other priorities. Of course there are seasons when … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Romance in Marriage | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

Praying Reveals The Heart

I remember a time in our marriage where we rarely prayed aloud together. It wasn’t that we didn’t want to, just that life was often too loud to even think of it. And once we got in the habit it … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Prayer, Spiritual Intimacy | Tagged , , , | 4 Comments

Make Your Home Welcoming To Others

We have all been spending lots of time in our homes lately. It’s easy to neglect things because you no longer see them as visitors do. So this post is an encouragement to look at your home with fresh eyes. … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, Growing Strong Marriages, Open Nest, Seasons of Life, Showing Honor | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

Bookends Of Our Marriage

Bookends. Their sole purpose is to hold up the books standing in-between them. You can have a bookshelf without bookends, but they won’t stand tall. Most likely they will fall over as mine always do. Bookends come in all sizes … Continue reading

Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Encouraging Your Spouse | Tagged , , , | 2 Comments

Looking Outward Together

We spend much of our posts talking about how to make your relationship stronger to last through the years. This requires intentionality in pursuing intimacy with your spouse—spiritual, emotional, physical, as well as cherishing each other. This will make your … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Date Night Ideas, Free Dates, Intimacy | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

Five Cooking Dates to Make Your Mouth Water

Tom and I love to cook. We love to cook for each other, and we love to cook together. When we had our kitchen renovated the designer laid out our kitchen to make the best use of space for us … Continue reading

Posted in Christian Marriage | Leave a comment

The Annoying Hiccups of Marriage

In this season of quarantines being relaxed and then restricted again, it can become disconcerting. But let’s remember the one constant in our life…our marriage. Whatever restrictions we face, we are in this together. Hiccups and all! Two are better … Continue reading

Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Cherishing, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict | Tagged , , , | 4 Comments