2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

An unexpected direction from God this year. We are excited and ready to follow His lead.

The view from our cabin’s front porch

It happened last week. I didn’t see it coming, but God knew all along.

Most of you know that Tom and I have a cabin in Banner Elk, NC. You may also know that I have had the privilege of hosting Barefoot Ladies Retreats each summer there since we bought the cabin in 2013. It has been such a rewarding experience to watch as God, our Father, loves on His daughters. And Tom has been so supportive through it all, making sure the cabin is in good shape for our guests.

In my quiet time last week I was praying about the dates and topic for this year’s retreats. It was at the moment when I was impressed by God to not have retreats this year! What? At first I rejected the idea; certainly God couldn’t be calling me to do nothing! But as I considered it further I realized this was my 7th year; I had hosted 15 retreats thus far, and God was indeed calling me to a year of rest. I felt an immediate peace.

When I mentioned this to Tom he said he had had similar impressions but didn’t think I would like the idea. This led us to discuss why he thought I would not accept it. It was a good conversation about my tendency to react rather than listen, and his tendency to avoid unnecessary conflict. Hearing that God had spoken the same word to both of us was a comfort and as well as a confirmation. I was also glad to bring clarity to my need for Tom’s input in my life, and to repent of reacting to His lead. We agreed to work on this area in our marriage.

As I’ve considered the significance of this year, there are four great reasons for me to rest:

  1. We will celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary (February 24),
  2. I will turn 60 (July 17)
  3. Tom will turn 65th (August 18).
  4. It will also be the 50th year since I asked Jesus to be my Savior in December.
  • Quite a year to pause and reflect on the goodness of God.
  • I share all this with you to bring home the fact that we never stop finding new ways to grow and change in our marriage. Let me ask you, how open and honest are you about such topics in your relationship? Can you talk about areas of resistance and learn from them? Or do you avoid the conflict altogether?

    Healthy marriages are constantly growing and changing as the years pass. We pray this describes your marriage.

    About Debi Walter

    Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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    4 Responses to 2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

    1. Tim Merwin says:

      I love this! Enjoy the rest!


    2. Vickie says:

      Love this and it’s timely for us. I relate to a lot of your posts as we have quite a bit in common. This year, I will turn 60 March 17th, our 40th anniversary is July 14th, and my honey turns 67 July 17th (he recently retired; more like refired into more volunteer ministry, less being employed). As far as how long I’ve loved Jesus, I honestly don’t remember a time I’ve not loved Jesus. Was in church 9 months before I was born and loved Jesus for as long as I can remember. God is so amazingly awesome and I love Him (and my husband) now more than ever before.


      • Debi Walter says:

        We do have a lot in common. Tom also retired this past April and we are loving the freedom that comes with it. And your husband and I share a birthday, how cool.
        Thank you for commenting. It helps to know that our posts are helpful and encouraging.
        Happy 2019!


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