How Kind Of You, Ay?

Posted on October 1, 2025 by Debi Walter

While in Canada we noticed something quite unusual and it made us happy and sad; the Canadian drivers are incredibly polite.

For example, Tom needed to get over a lane but there were a lot of cars. He put on his blinker without hope of getting over in time. Then, the unthinkable happened! The driver in the left lane stepped on his brake to let us over.

This happened repeatedly to where we couldn’t help but notice. Kudos to Canada for promoting such kindness!

It made us sad to realize how tourists must feel when they encounter drivers in Florida. What has happened in our state to make drivers so rude?

I saw a meme that said “It’s better to be kind, than to be happy.” This is true because being kind focuses on others; being happy focuses on me.

Of course happiness is important, but not at the expense of others. We must consider others more important than ourselves.

In marriage this is no different.

I’ve known couples where one spouse plans all the fun things they want to do without considering if their spouse is okay with it; e.g. stop after work and have a drink with the boys or go out for dinner with friends and tell your spouse rather than ask them.

This is rude at best and selfish at worst.

Selfishness is hard-wired into our brain since the fall of man in the Garden of Eden. It is our default, so if we don’t purpose to be kind, we will end up being selfish in one way or another.

Ask your spouse if they ever feel you are being selfish or inconsiderate. Then listen to what they say and take it seriously. Probably no one knows you better than your spouse and they are good at being honest with such questions.

“Better are the wounds of a friend, than the kisses of an enemy.” Proverbs 27:6

Your spouse should be your best and closest friend. Let them share how they see you in regard to kindness vs. selfishness. But be prepared for their honest observations.

Finally, I am purposing to be kind on the road. Today I was letting a car pull in front of me, but they weren’t paying attention. They expected to have to wait a long time, given the amount of traffic on the road, and missed my kind offer.

This won’t deter me. Will you join me?

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We are grateful you are here. It means you believe your marriage matters; and it does! We pray our posts bring needed encouragement, inspiration and tweaking as needed. Marriage isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Mood Setters

Posted on September 29, 2025 by Debi Walter

I have created a tradition in our home; I decorate for the seasons.

We don’t get the color New England is known for until January. Nor do we get the cooler weather our family in Georgia and Tennessee enjoys. So we buy it. (sigh)

I like to have my “fall” in place Labor Day weekend, but it didn’t happen this year; Fall arrived in our home yesterday. And as anticipated, I felt my mood change.

I settled into the coziness of the season; Fall leaves, pumpkins, garlands, pine cones and lots of candles now don our living and dining rooms. Blankets are ready to wrap ourselves with as we cheer on our Buffalo Bills. To say this is my favorite season would be an understatement; I look forward to it all year.

Setting appropriate moods in the home are a gift to marriage. It helps take ordinary seasons and make them extraordinary.

Other seasons I find worth setting moods for are: Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Easter, and 4th of July. Each one brings its own delight.

Of course, there are the romantic mood setters marriages need too. Keeping the bedroom for the two of you alone—free from work distractions, kids toys and clutter of things needing to be done—goes a long way in setting the mood for romance.

When our kids were home and money for date nights was tight, I would plan a special dinner. Then I set up a table in our bedroom for us to enjoy a romantic, candlelit dinner for two. It is surprising how just changing the location of something ordinary, like eating dinner, can change your mood.

These are some of our favorite ways to set the mood in our home.

“The light is what guides you home, the warmth is what keeps you there.” – Ellie Rodriguez

How do you make your home warm and inviting?

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We are back from our two week vacation to Canada (Banff National Patk) and Montana (Glacier National Park). It was better than we could have imagined, but as always, it is good to be home.

Thank you for dropping by. We hope you have a blessed week looking for ways to set the mood of your home.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Joy In Endings

Posted on September 22, 2025 by Debi Walter

Today we start our trip home. It has been an incredible time away seeing parts of God’s creation of which we had only heard. The words weren’t adequate in describing it. Even my camera fell short in capturing what my eyes saw.

“Christ died for you. Will you live for Him?”

Isn’t this like God? When someone tells you about Him, it is hard to comprehend that grace could be so beautiful. But when you experience the renewing of your mind and heart through surrender, it takes your breath away. God’s grace is amazing.

“What is Grace?” Bill Maher asked his guest, Charlie Kirk…

“Justice is getting what you deserve. Mercy is getting less than you deserve. But grace is having someone else take your place (Jesus Christ) allowing you to walk away free from the wrath of God.”

What a great explanation of the Truth in which, we as Christians live.

Add this to a marriage where both husband and wife are pursuing God privately and together; this creates a relationship that glorifies Him, as the heavens declare day after day.

Tom and I have walked with the Lord for over 50 years now. We were part of the Jesus Revolution of the 70’s. We never tire of recounting His goodness to us. Even in the darkest times, God’s grace shines brighter. He is the one constant in our marriage and the reason we are still together.

The grace God also allows us to say no to ungodliness:

“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.”

Titus 2:11-14 ESV

As this vacation ends, we are returning full of joy in all that God has done—in creation and in us. He is good!

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How has God’s grace impacted your marriage? It’s a good question to discuss on your next date. You may be surprised at how it draws you closer together in gratefulness.

We are glad you stopped by today. We pray your week is filled with unexpected joys as you live for Him.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Remember…

Posted on September 19, 2025 by Debi Walter

Have a blessed weekend!

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Bucket List Moments

Posted on September 15, 2025 by Debi Walter

We have been in Canada for a week now and have experienced Canadian kindness on many levels.

Our Airbnb hosts provided us with fresh flowers, pastries and muffins. The people in stores and restaurants have been courteous and helpful when we were not sure where we were or where we were going. Even the drivers on the road have been quite polite. It has made our visit all the more meaningful; especially given the events of this past week.

Park Ranger

Our only disappointment so far is the lack of wildlife sightings. We have seen deer and ground squirrels and lots of horses. That’s it!

Ground squirrels

I even resorted to a trick a good friend of our’s uses to attract birds—playing the call of a moose on my iPhone to attract a moose to the marsh we were hiking. It didn’t work, but it made me laugh out loud—a daily goal!

These are the bucket list moments I’ll cherish:

Lake Louise in Banff
The Fairmont Chateau at Lake Louise
Walking along the shore of Lake Louise
Relaxing as the sun kisses the day, “Adieu!”

Hikes we could physically handle, thanks Eric!
Seeing the Hoodoos.
Climbing up stairs that used to be a challenge for us.

And how can we not mention the food?

Ah-mazing, like this pizza
BBQ Brisket Poutine (Canadian comfort food)

It has been such a great week.

Tomorrow we head for Glacier National Park for a week, where we pray we’ll see more wildlife. But if not, we will bask in the glory of God’s creation. He does all things well and this is enough to fill my bucket to the brim!

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We are grateful for your desire to grow your marriage. We pray our posts are helpful to that end.

Blessings to you from the Canadian Rockies!

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Steak Fajitas

Posted on September 12, 2025 by Debi Walter

We are on vacation and are cooking in many of our dinners. It’s a way to save money and we love visiting grocery stores from other countries—this week it’s Canada.

The first night we celebrated with steaks on the grill we had bought from Costco in Calgary. That is quite fun seeing what they sell at Canadian Costcos; not surprising—lots of cold weather clothing!

We had two steaks leftover and decided to make a batch of Big Mama’s chili with one steak the next night. Tonight we will finish off the last steak by making fajitas.

Steak is expensive, but when you can get three or four meals out of one purchase it makes it more affordable.

I am going to use the recipe I found on Add A Pinch website.

Our first meal on vacation

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Thanks for being a part of our vineyard. This vacation to visit Banff, Alberta, Canada and Glacier National Park in Montana has been on our list for decades. To actually be here is amazing. You can see our photos on Instagram if you’d like.

Make the most of your weekend together,

Tom and Debi

On the shore of Lake Louise
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Wordless Wednesday

Posted on September 10, 2025 by Debi Walter
Charlie Kirk 1993-2025
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Six Years Ago

Posted on September 8, 2025 by Debi Walter

Seeing this memory on my FB page today is timely.

Six years ago we had a trip of a lifetime booked with friends. We had reserved our lodging and airfare. It was only a matter of days before we would fly to Montana to visit Yellowstone and Glacier National Parks. But it wasn’t to be. Our 12 year old granddaughter was in a medical crisis that nearly took her life. We had to cancel everything! (The photo above was taken right before we were called to come help!)

We have a similar trip planned with the same friends; we fly out tomorrow. We decided to visit Banff, in Alberta, Canada, instead of Yellowstone.

We have wanted to see Banff and this is a great time of year to visit. After one week in Canada, we will drive south to Montana for six days visiting Glacier National Park and surrounding areas. We still can’t believe it’s happening!

Our granddaughter is now 18 and is doing extremely well.

For those of you who walked with us through this dark battle, we can’t thank you enough! God has given our granddaughter an amazing testimony that she uses often for God’s glory. We are so proud of her.

We will be sharing photos of God’s creation over the next two weeks and remembering with gratefulness what God has done in us and in her in the last six years!

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For more information about the beast our granddaughter battled, refer to our post, But God.

Blessings to you from our faithful God,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Lasagna and Sunday Dinners

Posted on September 5, 2025 by Debi Walter

Tom and I love having people over for dinner; I think we’ve made this obvious. But there is something we have decided to bring back from my growing up years—Sunday Dinners

In my parent’s home weekday meals were called “supper”, but the Sunday meal after church was called “dinner”.

My Mom was famous for her roast beef, mashed potatoes and brown gravy. Whenever I make her recipe, it takes me back to my childhood when I was eagerly waiting to hear, “Dinner’s ready!”

We started this new tradition last Sunday with four friends.

I made lasagna, which I haven’t made in years. I always seem to resort to Baked Ziti. I think it tastes the same, without all the layering, but there is something special about a huge pan of steaming hot lasagna that can’t compare to ziti.

I made my lasagna the day before, then put it in the oven on time bake before we left for church. We’ve had this oven for 16 years and sadly, I have never used the time-bake feature! This is one blessing that makes Sunday dinners easier.

I normally make homemade sauce, but I made my lasagna long before I knew how to make sauce from scratch. I still use Tom’s Italian Mom’s recipe, but my lasagna sauce is none other than…Ragu garden-style with tomatoes, garlic and onions.

First, I browned ground beef and then added the Ragu with extra Italian spices, oregano, garlic, sautéed onions and a splash of red wine. Let the sauce cook down over low heat until it reduces by a third and thickens. Set aside.

Next mix 2 lbs. whole ricotta cheese with 3 eggs, 1/4 cup parmesan romano cheese, salt and pepper, pinch of sugar and 2 teaspoons of chopped fresh parsley. Set aside.

Cook the lasagna noodles according to package directions. I prefer Barilla. Drain and lay flat on parchment paper to cool.

Finally, it’s time to assemble.

  • Start with a layer of sauce on the bottom of a well greased pan.
  • Add a layer of noodles length-wise, over-lapping by a fourth
  • Next spread half of the cheese mixture over the noodles
  • Spread a layer of sauce over the cheese mixture
  • Sprinkle with Parmesan and Romano cheese
  • Repeat the steps starting with the noodles laid width-wise this time. Alternating how the noodles are set helps keep the lasagna from sliding when served.
  • Add another layer of noodles length-wise, followed by a layer of meat sauce
  • Sprinkle with Parmesan Romano cheese
  • Cover with foil

Bake in a preheated 400° oven for 45 minutes. Then remove the foil and top with shredded mozzarella cheese. Bake an additional 15 minutes, or until cheese is melted. (For timed-bake ovens, follow your oven’s guide).

Sunday Dinners aren’t about the food really, it’s about the gathering together with friends around the table to share love, laughter and a satisfying meal.

Shauna Niequist in her excellent book, Bread and Wine, has been a huge inspiration to me.

“Many of the most sacred moments in my life, the ones in which I feel God’s presence most profoundly, when I feel the goodness of the world most arrestingly, take place around the table. Something extraordinary happens when we slow down, open our homes, look into one another’s faces, and listen to one another’s stories around the table.” – Shauna Niequist

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We are happy to welcome you here to our vineyard. It’s a place to feed your marriage with soul-satisfying ways to love each other well. Like a good meal, marriage takes lots of elements to make it satisfying to both of you. Let’s discover more together.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Good Advice

Posted on September 3, 2025 by Debi Walter
Frances Louis Carnes

Our daughter-in-love shared something with me I’ve never forgotten. Shortly after her grandmother died, she explained the reason for her long, well-lived life. Her grandmother purposed every day to laugh out loud—not just a chuckle—but the deep belly laugh that makes your cheeks hurt.

What a goal!

It made me question how often Tom and I do this. Life can get busy or boring, depending on your stage in life, making such laughter random.

The next question is how do you make yourself laugh like this?

Some couples excel at laughter because one is a natural comedian. Some couples are more laid back and laughter may or may not be as normal. And yet other couples are stoic and laughter rarely happens.

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17‬:‭22‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Tom and I fall more in the second category, but we’ve gotten better at it.

It’s important to not take yourself so seriously and to be able to laugh at yourself.

I’ve done some really stupid things that provided a great opportunity for a belly laugh. But if I get offended when someone laughs at what I’ve done, a fight can often replace the laughter. I’m grateful through the years we have learned to laugh at the things we do.

For instance, Tom bought me a Smart Watch because I was always setting my phone down in the house and couldn’t find it. I must admit the “locate my phone button” is my favorite feature on this watch.

Well, one day I had misplaced my phone yet again. I was in our room, and I pushed the locate button; it was somewhere behind me. I turned around and looked, but no phone. So I pushed the button again. Now it was on the other side of my room, behind me. What in the world was happening? I pushed the button again and then realized—my phone was in my back pocket!

I immediately cracked up at how duped I was. I couldn’t wait to tell Tom because we all need a good belly laugh and this was a doozy. Even now writing about it makes me laugh.

When was the last time you and your spouse really laughed out loud? If you need help, we suggest looking up Nate Bargatze on You Tube. He is clean and hilarious. It’s a good start. It might help you learn to laugh at yourself, as he does well.

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Welcome to our new followers. It’s a privilege to come alongside and encourage you in your marriage. We all need this because marriage is hard work, but it can also be hilarious.

Blessings and laughter to you both,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Happy Labor Day

Posted on September 1, 2025 by Debi Walter

We’ve had a wonderfully slow morning on the Lake Apopka Wildlife Drive. Traveling at 10 mph with no sound but the bird’s welcoming the morning sun. We were content just to soak it all in. Even the gators took part.

These are a few photos we’ve taken through the years to give you an idea of the beauty found here. The best of news is the drive is FREE!

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Labor Day is a day to remember all who work hard every week of the year. It is a well-deserved break to enjoy the life you have been so graciously given by God.

We pray for you to have a day of rest and refreshment with your spouse and family, whatever you choose to do.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Our Favorites

Posted on August 29, 2025 by Debi Walter

This past week Orlando celebrated all the “Best of” businesses as voted by the public. It was fun to see many of our favorite restaurants on the list.

This got us thinking, why not share with you the places we love most in and around Central Florida? It won’t be an exhaustive list, but enough to help those who live here try new places with confidence. Or if you are planning to visit The City Beautiful, you will have an idea of some great places to try.

Italian

  • Antonio’s Market and Cafe in Maitland. This was our date night go-to during the pandemic. We ordered pizza to-go and enjoyed it on Lake Lily across the street.
  • Francesco’s – the owner and chef is Sicilian which is where Tom’s Mom was from. The atmosphere reminds us so much of his family. Hard to explain, but the food is outstanding.
  • Nonno’s – this is family-owned and when you walk in the welcome is like coming home. The pesto sauce served with fresh bread and is amazing.

Delicatessen

  • George’s Hideaway on Park Avenue in Winter Park. This used to be Brandywines, a place we enjoyed while dating. In recent years George’s relocated here from Lee Road and we couldn’t be happier. Their cheesesteak is our personal favorite. But anything on the menu is delicious. And don’t forget his cookies! (It helps to know they catered our youngest daughter’s wedding reception.
  • Yalaha Bakery located in Yalaha, Florida. German owners make this an authentic delicatessen. On the weekends they will often offer live music too. It’s a fun place and provides a long drive for good conversation. I love a good Reuben sandwich!

Burgers

  • MOOYAH in Winter Park. Their burgers are large enough to share and it comes with a huge mound of fries. Their Lemonade with turmeric is a must try too!

Fish and Chips

  • Fish Camp on Lake Eustis. A little bit of a drive from Orlando, but trust us it’s worth it. We go when the weather is mild to enjoy sitting on beautiful Lake Eustis. The place isn’t fancy, but the fish is fresh and oh so good.

Mexican

  • Garabaldi’s in Apopka. This place is always crowded, but worth the wait. They have lots of seating inside and out and the service is impeccable.

Diner

  • Johnnie’s Diner in Casselberry. This place has such a variety and it’s all so good. We especially love their breakfasts. The staff is incredibly friendly and efficient.

Seafood

  • JB’s Fish Camp in New Smyrna Beach. Not only is the seafood fresh and delicious, but the outdoor seating is right on the Intercoastal Waterway. It faces west providing spectacular sunsets. They offer live music on an outdoor stage, a good happy hour and kayak rentals where you can row alongside manatees and dolphins.

Boat Rentals

  • Hontoon Landing Resort and Marina – This is a family favorite whenever our grandkids are visiting. We rent a pontoon boat for 1/2 day and drive it to Blue Springs State Park. There we park the boat and walk to the spring via a nice boardwalk. You can rent a tube and float down the springs where the water temp is always 72°. We usually pack a picnic and make a day of it.

Wildlife Sighting

  • Lake Apopka Wildlife Drive – This is a must see experience for anyone visiting our area. I was born here and am very familiar with this part of Florida. But if you’ve never seen a gator in the wild—this is that place. The drive takes about 2 hours to complete. It’s a one way drive on a one lane dirt road with water on both sides. Numerous species of water fowl grace the water and skies. Roll your windows down and let their calls lull your thoughts to sleep. This is the place to unplug and connect with nature. It’s even better shared with someone you love. Bring your cameras and binoculars and you’ll see so much more. Tom and I even spent a Christmas morning on this drive when none of our kids were living in state. It is a Christmas I’ll never forget. (Please note: The drive is only opened Friday-Sunday and on National holidays.)

Desserts

  • The Glass Knife in Winter Park has a phenomenal selection of everything sweet. But it’s not what you’d expect. Each dessert is a work of art. They even use gold leaf on their cakes. The flakes are placed with precision taking the experience to the next level of WOW!
  • Paris Baguette also in Winter Park. Here you are offered a cafeteria tray with tongs as you enter to select from the gorgeous display of pastries. Be warned—it’s hard to choose. They also serve excellent coffee which reminds me of an authentic Paris Cafe where life slows and each bite is an experience. Parking is in the back.

Farmer’s Markets

  • Winter Garden Farmer’s Market in Winter Garden. There are no words to describe this experience. It happens every Saturday from 8:00 am to 1:00 pm. There is entertainment, crafts, plants, flowers, produce and lots of food choices. Come early and have breakfast.

Rails to Trails

  • West Orange Trail – also in Winter Garden, you can rent bikes and take the trail as long as your body is able. Right through the middle of the town, the trail brings you to a beautiful fountain dedicated to Winter Garden’s citrus industry. It is surrounded by swings and cascading wisteria. Beautiful! If you want to experience the lazy side of Orlando, this is the place. Ride at your own pace and enjoy the many restaurants and ice cream choices in downtown Winter Garden.

Vineyards

  • Lakeside Vineyards offers a beautiful view of gorgeous Lake County in Clermont. This is where Debi’s grandparent’s settled in Florida from Oklahoma in 1922. This is an enjoyable way to slow down and unwind. They offer tours of their facility daily.

We could go on and on, but this is an excellent list to start with. Of course you can always ask us for more suggestions.

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Tomorrow is our youngest granddaughter’s 1st birthday party. I’ve been busy today helping with the preparations. The theme is sweet one—and that she is. I love that she loves Papa as much as I do; her face lights up when she sees him. So sweet!

Have a blessed Labor Day weekend!

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Rest

Posted on August 27, 2025 by Debi Walter

This word can either make you sigh with a smile because you understand the benefit of rest. Or it can ache like a pebble in your shoe, wanting it but never getting relief to find it.

Why is rest so vital for a healthy marriage?

We weren’t meant to go pedal to metal 7 days a week every day of the year. Time to rest must be planned into your routine or it will only happen when you’re laid up with sickness or a broken bone.

What does true rest look like?

I believe it starts in the mind. Where do your thoughts go when you awake in the morning? Are you rested after a good night’s sleep and wake with gratitude for another day? Or do you wake after hitting the snooze button several times, running out the door barely saying, “Good morning?”

How we begin the morning often sets the tone for the rest of the day.

Christy Nockels is known for her gifts as a song-writer and worship leader. Several years ago God called her to slow down and refocus her heart and mind to God first, and foremost, and on those closest He had given her to love—her family. What came from this decision was more than she imagined.

“As we look to God—eyes up, palms up, casting our cares on Him—we see Him in a new light, we see ourselves in a new light, and imagine how it frees us to see others in a new light! It changes us from the inside out to live inside out. Sure, our to-do list isn’t going to get done on its own, but our day is reordered around first things first as we’re propelled to work from rest.” The Life You Long For, pg. 82.

Working from a heart of rest makes all the difference in our marriages. We are less likely to be short-tempered, and when we are, we apologize quickly. We choose to do everything possible to guard the rest we have in God.

“The most beautiful and effective way to change lives around you is to let God change you. The best way you can love others is to let God love you.” Christy Nockels, pg. 84

Today is a new day. Let’s purpose to start our mornings eyes up, palms up casting our cares on God. He is our place of rest, and it is from Him that all blessings flow.

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Tom and I have had a very busy few weeks and this reminder to rest is serving us well. We invite you to join us in this pursuit.

Blessings and rest to you and yours,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Are You Prepared For A Marriage Hurricane?

Posted on August 25, 2025 by Debi Walter

It’s nearing the peak of hurricane season in Florida (September 10th). The newest families to call Florida home are the ones most likely to panic as a storm approaches.

As a native Floridian, we don’t panic, but we prepare.

We have boards to cover our windows if the storm is a Category 2 or higher. We make sure we have enough essentials: batteries, flashlights, food in the pantry, etc. We bring in patio furniture and anything loose in the yard. And secure a generator in case the power goes out.

Then we wait and watch.

Marriages have hurricanes as well. Some more than others, but it is imperative for all of us to prepare for them.

What if we take the steps of hurricane preparedness and apply it to our relationship? How would it impact our next conflict?

First and foremost, when the high winds of adversity hit your marriage, it is good to cover your heart with the truth. Remember you are both on the same team fighting the storm together. Protection looks like thinking the best of your spouse when the situation looks otherwise.

These are the essentials needed when a hurricane of conflict is building on the horizon:

  • a listening ear
  • being slow to speak
  • shining the light of truth on every thought allowing God’s Word to be your guide
  • Good counsel—this helps your marriage stay nourished instead of famished.
  • Quickly resolve little irritations. These can go flying when the high winds of trouble increase.
  • Maintain a healthy relationship with the Lord. He is our anchor in every situation we will face as a couple. He keeps the lights on when darkness is trying to blind us from understanding each other.

Hurricanes are a force to be reckoned with in Florida, and conflict is a formidable foe in marriage. How much you prepare during the seasons of plenty will determine how well you endure the season of want.

The best part of a hurricane are the days that follow the storm. The humidity drops clearing the air of the oppressive, summer heat. The cloudless skies even seem bluer.

So too in marriage. We may kiss and make up, but the fresh air of understanding deepens our intimacy in a way only forgiveness can.

So this begs the question, are you prepared for a marriage hurricane?

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Welcome to our new followers. Our intent is to post every Monday and Wednesday with posts to help your marriage vineyard grow. Foodie Fridays we share what we’ve been cooking in the kitchen.

Tom and I both enjoy cooking and eating delicious food. I tease Tom that food is his hobby, and I’m not wrong. 😂 Cooking and baking is mine so we make a good team in the kitchen

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Monday Blessings to you both,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Today Is Special

Posted on August 18, 2025 by Debi Walter

This is the day my husband was born and it will always be special. He is a gift to me, our family and all who know him.

He is a faithful man who cares deeply for those he loves. He is capable of fixing things too, and is generous with his time to help others. I love his heart to serve.

He makes me laugh often which is a gift I’m thankful for the older we get.

We got up early to take friends to the airport. We decided to keep going from there to the beach. We saw the crescent moon lined up with Venus and Jupiter in the eastern sky that was awe-inspiring.

The sun rise over the ocean never disappoints.

We finished with a delicious breakfast, Tom’s favorite!

Happy birthday, Tom. You will always be my favorite. I will love you forever.

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Foodie Fridays – Creamed Corn on the Cob

Posted on August 15, 2025 by Debi Walter

Tom found this recipe and we had to try it.

One of my only memories of my grandfather was his creamed corn. I was only four years old when he died, but I loved this dish and I loved him!

At the end of harvest, corn on the cob can be tasteless and dry. This method adds the sweetness and moisture missing this time of year.

We absolutely loved it.

I didn’t have fresh chives, so I used dried chives instead. It was so good.

The summer will soon come to an end. But while we wait for the shorter days and cooler nights, let’s enjoy the food summer provides.

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We are grateful you’ve taken the time to follow our vineyard. It’s a passion Tom and I share—to help marriages grow stronger year after year. The fact that you are here is evidence of your desire.

May this summer find you more in love on purpose, for God’s glory.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Everyday Ways to Nurture Your Marriage

Posted on August 13, 2025 by Debi Walter

On Monday we talked about treating your spouse well above all else. Today we want to share some ideas to help you keep the motivation going. Pick one a week for the next few weeks without telling your spouse. Let them notice the special attention. This will be fun!

  • Organize a sock or underwear drawer.
  • Leave a love note or funny meme somewhere that will surprise them to find.
  • Pay attention to small requests and do it immediately e.g. “I’ve got a sweet tooth.” If possible make them something or order Uber delivery.
  • Mail your spouse a card with a gift card in it to their favorite fast food or coffee shop.
  • Compliment your spouse when with friends.
  • Never underestimate the joy of a spontaneous shoulder/foot massage or back scratching session.
  • Give them a lasting kiss when they least expect it.
  • Write out a prayer for them that shows how you are taking their concerns to the Lord and give it to them when they need the encouragement.
  • Your turn____________________________.

Add your ideas to the list in the comments. Let’s take the Dog Days of Summer to intentionally nurture our marriage.

“A word in season, how good it is.” Proverbs 15:23b ESV

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That’s all for today. If we purpose to do these small acts of encouragement imagine the effect it will have in our homes. This is our prayer for you today.

Enjoy the challenge,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Above All

Posted on August 11, 2025 by Debi Walter

When life gets busy, priorities often suffer. That’s when we need the Word of God to bring clarity and correction to our marriage.

Colossians 3:14 says,

“And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”

How are you doing in showing love to your spouse? It shows itself in the little things we do like, making coffee or running an errand without being asked. These small acts of love are most important because they go unseen by others. It is a special bond that strengthens our marriage and brings peaceful unity.

Do you believe this? This scripture is written as a promise. And promises are meant to be held onto, but it starts with me.

How can I treat my spouse today “above all”?

I can’t answer that question for you, but God can!

If you are serious about taking the next step in making your marriage the priority it deserves, then pray this prayer:

Father, thank you for my spouse and the years we have shared together. I realize that there are many ways I miss giving my spouse the priority they deserve. Will you open my eyes to see these areas where I can show them how much they mean to me? I need your help to make our marriage strong and “above all” in my life.

Thank you for giving me the desire to take the next step in growing my marriage to look more like you, Jesus, and your love for the church.

In your precious name I pray, Amen.

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We always want to take this time to welcome our new followers. You are special to us because you are purposing to make your marriage a priority. That is a gift born by the Holy Spirit. We thank God for you!

Have a blessed week,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Vacation Food Favorites

Posted on August 8, 2025 by Debi Walter
Playing golf—our favorite

We took a spontaneous trip to the High Country of North Carolina to escape the extreme August heat in Florida. When you’re retired you can do this!

There is no way we can choose just one dish, so we decided to share photos of our favorites. I have new inspiration for recipes to try at home now—can’t wait!

Bourbon Burger with caramelized onions and jalapeños
Crab claws
Chicken Quesadilla
Beautiful Margarita
Salted hot-buttered rolls
Hokkaido Scallops with romesco
Crab and Lobster bisque with Parmesan foam
Halibut
Veal Sugo with ricotta gnocchi
Blueberry muffin with blackberry ice cream
Fresh peaches with bourbon granola and vanilla ice cream
Curry Up pie
Cheese Steak pie
Cucumber and Tomato salad
Butter finger ice cream
Corn salsa and pepper jack cheese nachos

What a wonderful and rested time we’ve had away. When was the last time you were able to pull away and relax together. It only happens if you plan it as a priority.

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We are grateful that you would take the time to visit our vineyard. We hope our posts help your marriage flourish for God’s glory alone.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Fog In Marriage

Posted on August 6, 2025 by Debi Walter

On Monday’s post I shared about the plans we expect vs. what we’re given. It has been a week of asking God to help me see what He gives as a blessing, rather than a disappointment. When I complain about my disappointments, I usually miss what God may be trying to teach me.

So I started asking.

As we were driving out of the cloud to lower elevation I noticed how the clouds softened the hard scapes around me. Rough tree trunks looked soft like suede. Crinkled leaves looked like wispy feathers dancing in the breeze. The ground below looked like cushioned carpet. All the colors were muted with gray undertones. It was beautiful.

For the first time, instead of looking at the fog I looked through it to see what was before me. Nothing had changed except how I was seeing it.

Fog happens in marriage.

This made me think of times when my view of a conflict was muted. I didn’t see clearly what was in front of me because I was focused on the fog.

Fog softens hard things, but it can also hide what is real in front of you. Ask God to help you see the hard places through the softer lens fog provides, but don’t focus on the fog or it may ruin not only your view but your day.

When God appeared to Moses on Mt. Sinai He came in a thick cloud. His presence was veiled, but His power was clear. This account helps me thank God for His presence no matter the weather. He is with me and if I choose to thank Him for it instead of complaining I may like Moses, see God. He is enough!

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Welcome to our new followers. We count it a privilege to have you join us in making our marriage vineyards fruitful for a lifetime.

Blessings to you,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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