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Tag Archives: Conflict in Marriage
Learning Curve
Tom and I have been learning about difficult issues in marriage that we didn’t know happened. We realize how we have been spared many heartaches in our 45 years of marriage. Not that we didn’t have our own to deal … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Forgiveness, Keeping It Real, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Blame-shifting, Conflict in Marriage, Humility, marriage
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Are You An Irrigator Or An Irritator?
We just had our irrigation system’s annual inspection. Not all areas were working well; some sprinkler heads were broken; some were spraying in the wrong direction and some didn’t have enough water pressure because of leaking pipes. Our friend, who … Continue reading
Pruning A Marriage Is Hard Work
It is Spring in FL and everything in our garden needs pruning, weeding, mulching, fertilizing and/or repotting. It can be overwhelming when looked at as a whole. But Tom and I have found that focusing on one thing and completing … Continue reading
A Dormant Season
We have a huge, very healthy bougainvillea in our backyard. It is so large it is pushing our new fence and making it difficult to walk by it without getting scratched by it’s enormous thorns. We needed to prune it, … Continue reading
Dealing with Conflict in Marriage
This post was originally published on our church’s website. We want to share it here as well. It is unavoidable in marriage. How we deal with conflict makes all the difference in how healthy and strong our marriage becomes. There … Continue reading
Physical Intimacy – Let No One Put Asunder
We recently shared a video on our Facebook page that stirred an interesting conversation. We wanted to continue it here. First, click over to our Facebook page and scroll down to the video titled, If Your Relationship Has Changed. While … Continue reading
Five Friday Favorites – Difficult Topics in Marriage
So often in marriage the way the enemy works against us it to make us uncomfortable talking about important topics. The only way to counter this attack is to do the difficult thing and talk about them. We are privileged … Continue reading
If My Spouse Would Just…
Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading
Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire
Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading
Here Comes The Judge
Our pastor preached on Romans 8 this past Sunday. It was a good reminder of the freedom we have in Christ, and an encouragement to no longer live in condemnation. He said something at the end though, that made me … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Keeping It Real
Tagged Condemnation, Conflict in Marriage, Critical Judgments, Romans 8
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Pinched Nerve
Tom has been struggling with a pinched nerve in his back the past couple of days. It’s making normal tasks nearly impossible because he gets a sharp stab saying, “No, you don’t!” I hate seeing him in pain, and I’m … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Avoiding Conflict, Conflict in Marriage, Pinched Nerve
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What a Black and Blue Dress Can Teach Us About Marriage
As most of you are probably aware, social media is ablaze with a debate about whether this dress white and gold or black and blue? Ask everyone near your computer and you’ll most likely get both answers. How.is.this.possible? It’s a … Continue reading
Can We Talk?
Last night at our small group meeting a couple shared something they had recently gone through that they thought would be helpful to the rest of us. It was. It provided a spring board for an entire evening of dialogue. … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Can We Talk, communication, Conflict in Marriage, Fruit of the Spirit
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Are You A Weed-Puller Or A Weed-Ignorer?
I’m sitting at my computer and I can hardly move. Why? Because I spent and hour and a half weeding my garden this morning before it got too hot. Every time I weed I wonder why it is that I … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Priorities, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, Garden, God, Lord, marriage, Resolving Conflicts, Rose, Thought, Weed, Weed control
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Is Your Spouse A Prisoner Of Your Expectations?
Imagine you’re having a conversation with your spouse when something doesn’t quite sit right with you. You ask your spouse a question to clarify what you heard them say. They don’t respond right away. There is, what we call, a … Continue reading
I Don’t Need Hot Sauce Running Into My Eyes
Welcome our son, Jason, if you didn’t already know it was him by the title! 🙂 I wonder what the world would be like if humans had their mouths connected directly to their brains—right in the center of the forehead. … Continue reading
Part 4 – One Simple Key to Resolving Quarrels
What if there was a simple key to help us unlock the door of conflict resolution? Imagine how quickly those doors that slammed shut in your face could be reopened allowing the sun to shine on your marriage again. Wouldn’t … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Diapers, Toddlers & Romance, Oh My, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Parenting, Romance in Marriage, Seasons of Life, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Christian, Conflict in Marriage, Conflict resolution, Defense of Marriage Act, English Standard Version, Ephesians 4:26, Epistle to the Ephesians, God, James 4:1, Jesus, marriage, Relationships
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What’s Eating You Anyway?
About nine years ago we did an addition on our house after much deliberation as to whether we should do it or move. Since we live in a neighborhood with about a dozen close friends from our church, we decided … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, God, Lord, marriage, Soil, Termite, Termites, Wood, Wood Rot
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Cravings Underlie Conflict
It’s bound to occur at some point – a wonderful date night has been planned and greatly anticipated. Hopes are high for love and unfettered romance, then it happens – a fight ensues, and the evening ends up a far … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Dating Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged C.J. Mahaney, Conflict in Marriage
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