10 Questions for Oldyweds About Romance

You’re most likely familiar with the Newlywed Game. It’s where couples married under a year are asked questions separately to see how well they know each other.

Paul Byerly has challenged Christian Marriage Bloggers to post 10 questions about any topic near and dear to them to help “mature” couples see how much they have learned in that area.

Challenge accepted!

Here are the questions we want to pose to all couples who have been married 25+ years in regard to romance…

  1. What would you say it looks like to be romantic?
  2. What is your favorite romantic memory from the early years?
  3. What are you currently doing to pursue each other romantically?
  4. What are you doing to give away the experience and lessons you’ve learned in your years of marriage?
  5. What is one thing you’d like to do this year that would add to your romantic memories list?
  6. What song best describes your marriage from your perspective?
  7. What hobby would you like to pursue in retirement?
  8. What do you know now that you wish you knew when you were younger in regards to romance in your relationship?
  9. If you could do anything over what would it be and why?
  10. What have you found is vital to keeping the romance alive in your marriage?

BONUS: Share your answers to these questions with a couple who has been married under five years. Or post them as a comment to this post. Let’s learn from each other.

Other CMBA Marriage Blogger’s posts about the 10 Question Challenge:

♥ Hot, Holy and Humorous – 10 Questions to Ask About Your (Mature) Sex Life

♥ The Forgiven Wife – 10 Questions (for a Husband Who Doesn’t Like Questions)

♥ The Generous Wife – 10 Questions for AnyTime-Weds

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Monday Date Night Prompts

If you’ve read our blog long, you know that Monday has always been our date night–for as long as I can remember. We chose Mondays because it was our pastor’s day off and no church meetings were ever scheduled on that night. We knew we had a better chance of keeping our date nights if there weren’t scheduling conflicts to deal with. And it worked!

We can’t express the value this one commitment has had on our marriage. No matter how busy we were, I knew as a young mom I would have my husband’s full attention on Monday nights. And he knew he would have mine as well. This is a vital part of a healthy marriage–having time to just be together as husband and wife.

We think it would be a good idea to provide weekly Monday posts providing Date Night prompts to help you develop your own weekly habit of connecting with each other. Some of these will be reminders of past posts we’ve shared. Some will be fresh ideas. And some may be ideas we’ve gleaned from other friends or bloggers. At any rate, we hope you’ll find something to do together that works for you and makes a memory.

Monday Date Night Prompt

Since today is National “Joe” Day, plan to visit a local coffee shop for an hour or two to enjoy a cup o joe together. While there, choose one or two questions from our Date Night Questions tab to insure your conversation is meaningful.

Can’t find a sitter? Then, do this date in your home after the kids are in bed. Set up a cozy corner with soft lighting and music and turn off the electronics for one to two hours. The idea is simple. Check out one of our previous posts to give you more ideas.

Orlando Coffee Shops besides Starbucks:

 

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Happy Hour

I know it’s been awhile since I’ve posted up some of my favorite marriage blog posts from the week, and I’m sorry. It’s certainly not because there aren’t any I’d recommend. On the contrary! There are so many excellent Christian marriage bloggers available today that just weren’t there in 2008 when we began doing this.

No, the lack has been due to my schedule. We are in the throes of doing much needed repairs and maintenance around the house. And for whatever reason, writing seems to get pushed aside first, well, that and housework. 😉 So I apologize.

Here are some of my favorites this week…Have a great weekend!

Gary Thomas’ Blog

Hot, Holy and Humorous

Intimacy In Marriage

  • 3 Ways To Improve Sex In Your Marriage Now – Julie narrows this challenging topic down into three easy ways to make improvements today. And can I just say, you can trust Julie to speak biblically and wisely on this topic.

The Forgiven Wife

The Generous Husband

  • Ten Questions for Oldyweds – Great questions to take on your next date night. I’d say if you’ve been married 25+ years you qualify as an oldywed.

The Generous Wife 

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Paying Attention To The Nudges

Photo Credit: Kimberly Vardeman from Lubbock, TX, USA

Nudges. 

They are easy to miss if we’re not paying attention.

A couple of weeks ago, Tom and I were watching television, and saw a commercial for chocolate chip cookies. He commented how good those looked. (nudge)

I got up a few minutes later and threw together cookie dough, and in no time Tom was enjoying what his appetite was craving.

What a privilege to live this close to someone day in and day out, to hear their desires, dreams and cravings. And then to be able to assist in making them happen.

If you’re like me, I often miss the nudge because I’m preoccupied with other things, or I put it off and then forget. I’m posting this today as a reminder to listen to the nudges your spouse either knowingly or unknowingly sends your way. Do all you can to surprise them and you’ll bless them for doing so, but more so for paying attention to the nudge.

 

 

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Cherish – From Obligation To Delight

Hey. Tom here this time sharing with you my review of a new book written by Gary Thomas. You know him for his excellent book titled, Sacred Marriage, I hope you’ll get to know him even more by buying and reading this book. A great investment in your marriage for which your spouse will thank you!

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It was our annual business gathering and the location this year was in New Orleans. Some business friends of ours were celebrating their 40th anniversary and invited us to join them for dinner. We had no idea of the treat in store for us.

They told us to meet them at The Commander’s Palace. If you’re familiar with the culinary world, this is where Emeril Lagasse began his career. Just eating there would be amazing, but this time we had reservations, and not just any reservations! We had a table for four reserved at the Chef’s Table located in the kitchen across from the Sous Chef!

We were served a multi-course meal complete with wine pairings and an in-depth explanation from the Sous Chef of what went into the preparation of each dish. It was entertaining. It was delicious. It was the experience of a lifetime.

Soft-Shell Crab Photo Credit: Kathy White

This is what Gary Thomas’ new book, Cherish, was like for me. I’ve read countless marriage books through the years, but this book resonated with a conviction I’ve held for a long time. Cherishing my wife is not only a vow I made to Debi on our wedding day, but it is a choice I must make everyday following.

“Love is the nourishing aspect of marriage, while cherish is the tasting aspect of marriage. Love meets the need; cherish tickles the tongue.” page 26

We  have eaten in thousands of restaurants, and nice ones too, but none compare to the experience we had at The Commander’s Palace. This is what cherish is to love; it takes the experience much further and makes it more enjoyable.

“Learning to truly cherish each other turns marriage from an obligation into a delight. It lifts marriage above a commitment to a precious priority.” page 17

Gary Thomas offers this question on page 25 that I hope will intrigue you enough to read if for yourself and for the good of your spouse…

“In our marriage vows, we promise to love and cherish each other, so why do we talk so much about love and so little about cherish?”

We all have differing answers to this question, but one rings loud and clear–we don’t talk about something we don’t understand.

If I were to stand with the Sous Chef and try to explain each recipe in detail the way he did with us that night, you would miss out because I just don’t have the knowledge needed. It’s the same for cherishing our spouse. We can’t practice something we don’t know well, and we won’t know it well if we don’t take time to learn it in the first place.

As an incentive we’re going to have a contest–the first for us in awhile. Debi loves contests, so here’s the deal:

  • Share with us your favorite dining experience in the comments below. It can just be the name and location if you like.
  • Include a picture for a bonus point.
  • Share this post on Social Media for another bonus point. (be sure to tell us)
  • We’ll do a random drawing for a free copy of Cherish on Friday, March 24th.

Let’s make the most of this thing called marriage. We can eat to live, or we can dine at the Chef’s Table, which is better by far! Cherishing your spouse is the “better by far” part missing from many marriages. Thank you, Gary, for filling in this missing piece.

 

 

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The Beauty of a Crimson Stained Marriage

Photo Credit: Monterey Bay Aquarium of Hess Winery, Napa Valley, CA

The year was predicted to yield a bumper crop, a winemaker’s dream. The vines had experienced near perfect growing conditions all summer, and harvest was just beginning.

At 3:20a. on the morning of August 24th, the unimaginable happened. An earthquake measuring 6.0 rocked the Napa Valley in California wreaking havoc on the vineyards at the worst possible time of the growing season.

Precious hours that were normally spent hauling in the grapes now had to be given to assessing and repairing the damage. The cellars where the grapes were brought in were covered with fallen and broken barrels of wine leaving no room to store the harvest.

Tom and I had just visited the Valley only two weeks prior to the quake. One winery in particular, The Hess Collection, experienced devastating losses. Two 20,000 gallon steel drums holding the wine harvested in 2013, were tossed around like a ping-pong balls.

One broke and sent its contents pouring down the steps and into the courtyard of the winery. What was once a beautiful stone terrace, is now stained crimson red with Cabernet Sauvignon. A scar that will not easily fade.

The wine that made it through unharmed was now more valuable than ever because of what it endured.

What a great metaphor for marriage.

No matter how strong your marriage all of us go through hard times. It can make quite a mess of our plans and dreams, especially when the conflict catches you off guard. Some difficult seasons we’ve experienced have left us wondering what happened?  How did we get here? And will we make it through?

 Thankfully, by God’s grace, we did.

I imagine those workers in the winery wished the quake had never happened, but the good news is that the unbroken bottles’ value has increased significantly.

Visitor’s to the Hess Collection come to see the crimson stained terrace, making it a much-sought-after tourist stop. Not only is the wine worth more today than it was on August 23rd, but what it endured tells a story people want to hear.

If your marriage was a vineyard, what stories would it tell of survival and worth? I know ours is stained crimson red from many adversities that were meant to destroy us. We would never want to go through those times again, but we love to tell the story of what God did in our marriage as a result.

Chris Tomlin has a song titled, Love Ran Red, and I love this line most of all…“Where Your love ran red and my sin washed white, I’m in awe of You, Jesus.”  

Tweet This: If your marriage was a vineyard, what stories would it tell of survival? I know ours is stained crimson red, and we love to tell the story!

 

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When Marriage Is No Longer Fun


If you’ve been married longer than a few months you’ve most likely come to this place. Marriage for a lifetime covers the whole gamut of life experiences: the good, the boring, and the horrible. Your marriage is no exception. Knowing this at the beginning will keep you off the roller coaster of blaming each other for the trouble.

Love is messy. Love can break your heart. Love can cause suffering on a level nothing else can.

So how do we navigate the pain and disappointment?

If you are a Christian the answer lies in this truth…

Jesus overcame sin by suffering on the cross for our freedom. In the same way He is telling us that it is through a suffering of sorts–laying down our lives, our desires, our preferences, for the good of another where we will find peace. This is the path to a healthy marriage.

“But,” you may say, “you don’t know what my spouse has done, or failed to do!”**

No, I don’t know the specifics, but God does. And He wants to impart faith to us while we are standing smack dab in the middle of the mess.

Ann Voskamp in her new book, The Broken Way, says, “Faith thanks God in the middle of the story.”

Easy words to type, but not as easy to do.

What is your story right now? Are you finding it difficult to thank God for the beautiful mess? 

May I lift your eyes for a moment to consider what Christ, in God has done for you? He suffered for the joy that was set before Him. He did it for love–love of His Father and love for you and me! This is the Gospel and it’s the Gospel we need applied to our marriage when the fun has left your house leaving only strife in its wake.

“Love will always make you suffer. Love only asks, ‘Who am I willing to suffer for?’ This is the severe grace of love making me real. Real love is patient and it bites the tongue…picking up your cross feels most like patience.” Ann Voskamp

Patience?! Remember in 1 Corinthians 13 the very first definition for love is patient!

Patiently embrace the struggle and let God take your love deeper. Love that costs you something is precious. Your marriage is precious and worth fighting for through all the days you will face together. 

No longer fun? That’s okay. Stay faithful to your spouse and patiently endure the mess and you’ll discover that a fulfilling marriage is more satisfying than fun could ever be.

**If you are in an abusive relationship please seek help. God never intended you to endure oppression from your spouse. 

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When Tom told me he was taking me away for our anniversary…


Happy weekend to us!

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I’m A Better Me Because Of We

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This is the week we celebrate our 38th wedding anniversary. It’s full of memories, thanksgivings, laughter and just plain gratefulness to God for allowing us to travel this far together.

Last week we were talking with a shoe salesman and the conversation came up about marriage. That happens often, probably because we’re looking for ways to draw people out regarding their own relationships. 

Here’s how our conversation went…

Tom: We’re about to celebrate 38 years of marriage.

Salesman: For real?

Me: Yeah, he’s had five wives, but only one marriage.

Salesman: (Does a double take) Huh? Oh, I get it! (Laughing, but not sure)

Tom: My wife isn’t the same woman she was when I married her. And I’m not the same either. We have to keep falling in love with the person he/she has become in order to keep our marriage strong and growing.

Salesman: Wow. That’s so good. Thanks for sharing that!

We found out our salesman wasn’t married, but hopefully we planted a seed for his future. 

Conversations like these happen frequently. Our prayer is that our words and our example will infuse hope that a life-long marriage is possible by and through the grace of God. 

Tom loved our Valentine’s weekend, and I’m sure whatever Tom has planned for us this weekend will be just as special. 

Our pastor says often, “Constant change is here to stay.” And marriage is no exception. Plan for the changes and they won’t take you by surprise.

I have concluded that I’m a better me because of the daily input of Tom’s love, care and wisdom. This is why I’ve changed and I pray it’s been for the better.

As Glenda sings in my favorite Broadway production, Wicked, “I have been changed for good!”

In what ways have you changed for good throughout your marriage?

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Answering the Why of Marriage


We had dinner with friends last night and the conversation landed on what we hope to do in the remaining years of our lives. It seems we spend most of our time dreaming and working towards the last years of life and when they arrive you can feel lost, bewildered even, not sure if now is the time to actually do what we’ve dreamed about.

Our friend said he was looking forward to going back to school and learning more. He said he wanted to take that knowledge and teach young men what he learns on top of the experience he has gained over decades. 

Then came the clincher…

Tom asked what his first class would be, and he said to answer this question, “Why are you here?” Because when life gets hard and doesn’t go according to your plan, knowing the why will keep you going and not quitting.

Sage advice!

So this begs the question: Why are you here–in this marriage, on this blog, looking for answers to your current struggle?

I can’t answer this for you. But I can share our why with you and maybe, just maybe, it will help you discover yours.

When we first got married, our passion and hope was to help other marriages grow strong and last for a lifetime.  Passions are usually born through suffering, and this passion for Tom was a result of his parents divorcing when he was 18. He decided when he got married that he would do all he could to keep our marriage alive regardless of the difficulties we would face. And his passion led to our Why.

  • We don’t do this for our own comfort, although a lasting marriage can become quite comfortable.
  • We don’t do this for others, although others benefit from our faithfulness to our marriage.
  • We don’t do this just to keep our vows, although our vows help us remember what we promised at the beginning.

We do this for God’s glory.

God created marriage. He made it a covenant where two become one flesh. He made it to be a reflection of His great and lasting love for His bride–the Church! This is our Why and it is so much bigger than the day to day struggles we face. It keeps us focused on a conviction when our emotions and circumstances may make our relationship feel numb and cold. 

So what is your WHY? Answer this and you may discover a secret to a marriage that not only survives, but thrives!

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Happy Hour

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It’s time to share with you some of our favorite blog posts from this past week. Take some time this weekend to check them out–your marriage will thank you! Have a blessed weekend.

Bonnie’s Oyster Bed

Gary Thomas’ Blog

Intimacy In Marriage

Life Travelers

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Great Valentine’s Idea for Less than $12

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You know I love Valentine’s Day. You know I love to surprise my husband. You know I love creative date ideas. I happened upon this blog at the recommendation of a friend, and I can’t tell you how much I love what was shared. This is brilliant!

Read it and be inspired!

Eleven Bucks Later, The Best Valentine’s Day Ever!

Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours. 

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Take H.E.A.R.T. My Love (Valentine’s Idea)


Valentines Schmalentines. So many people are anti Valentine’s Day–even my son who explained why to me this past weekend.

“I enjoy my wife everyday, not just one day a year because Hallmark or ProFlowers tells me to do so.”

I get that. No one wants to feel manipulated to express their love and devotion. But–if you already do this throughout the year–what’s one more day? I say, any opportunity to set aside time for each other is worth the effort. Just don’t buy a card if that’s not your thing. Boycotting Valentine’s Day? Not going to happen here! Romance happens to be my love language. 🙂 (NOTE: My son remembered that he doesn’t really boycott Valentine’s Day. He takes his two oldest daughters out on a date with Dad. I didn’t want you to get the wrong impression about him. He’s an awesome husband, dad and son.)

My husband says I’m a party waiting to happen. And it’s true; I love to celebrate just about anything, and this year we need it more than ever! Life can get so busy and/or complicated. Valentine’s Day is perfectly set 6 weeks after the holidays and by now we’re ready for some US time. This year is no exception. I believe Tom could use some extra TLC so this is what I plan to do…

TAKE HEART MY LOVE

Take Heart this Valentine’s Day. Five days leading up to Valentine’s Day do something special starting with that letter. Either buy (sorry Jason) or make 5 cards to give to your spouse, one each day starting this Friday. The first day would be the letter H, second day the letter E, and so on…

H – Half a dozen heart-shaped donuts to his work. You can write in your card things you appreciate about him/her that begin with the letter H, like hard worker, helps around the house, happy, honest, humble.

E – Expectations to a new level and drop hints of what you plan to do with him the next night. Use visuals or small gifts to build his expectations. It doesn’t have to be sexual, but then again… 😉 (E words to express to your love: experienced, excited, excellent _______?, encourager.

A – Action. Follow through on your promises from the night before. 🙂 (A words to express your love: attitude, able, accountable, accessable, approachable, available.

R – Retreat. Help him relax by having his favorite things ready when he gets home. It can include drinks, snacks, desserts, back rub, hot bath, whatever makes him happy. (R words to express your love: respectable, reserved, refined, relatable, really handsome/hot, robust.

T – Time together to Talk. Plan a nice candlelit dinner at home with conversation starters to help you talk about things others than work, kids, ministry and finances. You might remember what caused you to love each other so much in the first place. (T words to express your love: titillating, talkative, well-tempered.

I encourage you to tweak this idea and make it your own. After all it really is “ValenMINES Day”  Enjoy!

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A Time For Everything…

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Every marriage faces different seasons. Some you see coming and others take you by surprise with a phone call. Being aware of this helps us adjust when the winds change–rather than get blown away by the emotional roller coaster, we cling to each other holding on tight until the wind subsides.

Tom and I have been in such a season.

It began on October 25th when we got a phone call from a hospital in Belize. His Mom and Stepdad had been on a cruise when she fell and broke her hip. After being airlifted from Belize to Ft. Lauderdale, Tom had to leave right away in order to meet their arriving flight. He stayed with them until she had surgery and was released to travel back to Orlando via a non-emergency medical transportation service.

Suddenly all our plans were canceled and a new urgency was put on us–caring for his mom and stepdad. He was focused on them, and I was focused on him. Decisions were weighty and the waiting was numbing. Prayers were constant and God’s help never felt nearer. We took life one day at a time. We had no idea if this would be a short season or a long season, but we were confident in the One who knew. So we did what we had to do each day.

On Saturday, January 28th shortly before 10p. the winds stilled and his Mom took her last breath. The fight was over and she was at peace. One season ended and another one began–grieving the loss of someone whom we loved deeply and was our biggest fan.

I didn’t meet Tom’s mom until the week of our wedding in 1979. I was afraid it would be awkward and that she wouldn’t accept me. I couldn’t have been more wrong.  She loved me because her Tommy loved me, and anyone he loved she was sure to love as well.  I realized then I didn’t have a Mother-in-LAW. God had blessed me with a Mother-in-LOVE, and for almost four decades she has been gift to me.

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Tom has called her every morning for as long as I can remember. He honored her. He cared for her. He enjoyed sharing his moments with her no matter where we were, whether on a mountain top or standing by the sea. He included her in his joy.

She loved to cook and she was good at it too. She loved to see us well-fed and happy. I never tired of getting a call from her thanking me for loving her Tommy the way I do. In fact, I still have a voicemail on my phone with these words…

“I don’t want to forget to tell you this, and I’m forgetting a lot these days…thank you for sharing your Tommy with me today. I love you very much.”

I will miss her. Tom’s only sister is also a Debbie so she called her “My Debbie”, and I was affectionately called, “Tommy’s Debi”. I love the way she loved all of us, and our lives are the better for it.

I love you, Mom. Thank you for raising such a man who knows how to love deeply. I am grateful to God for you. You will be missed, especially in the mornings when Tom used to call you. But we will  never forget you or the influence you’ve had on our lives. We are better for it! Until we meet again, I remain…

Affectionately His,

Tommy’s Debi

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Part Two of our Daughter’s Story

Click here to read: Choosejoy365

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Where We’ve Been


We are well into 2017, yet our Christmas tree still stands decorated in our living room. We just returned from GA where we’ve been helping our daughter since Christmas. 

Rather than write out the details of all that we’ve been through the last two weeks, we thought you’d like to hear it from her. Tracy started a blog this last year titled, ChooseJoy365, and we are thrilled to say the least. We love the way she writes, and we pray you will as well!

Part One: My Hysterectomy Story

A hysterectomy at 32. It is not something you really associate with women that age. But for me, it has been on my mind since I was 20. My doctor told me at the young age I would be “begging for a hysterectomy by 30″…I laughed at him. I thought to myself that a hysterectomy was only for people with cancer or wimps who cannot handle pain and I clearly was not one of them. I am a fighter, after all my name means: brave, warrior, fighter and courageous. Learning how to push through the pain was just a part of me I had learned how to accept. It was a challenge, but I thrive on challenge. At least I thought I was thriving…. (Continue reading)

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20 Practical Romantic Resolutions For The Unromantic Husband


Here we are at the start of a new year and everyone either embraces resolutions or runs from them as fast as they can. I get that. It seems resolutions set us up to fail, especially when what we set out to do is out of our reach, like losing 100 lbs. when we struggle to say no to our favorite treat. Or working out everyday when we haven’t been to the gym once in years.

Resolutions require something before they can succeed and that is a heart that wants to change and a mind willing to join forces to help the heart accomplish what it desires.

Romance is no different. To provide resolutions on romancing your spouse when you have neglected romantic gestures is simply unrealistic. But what if you desire it but your husband isn’t interested?  There is help for you to change.

We suggest you start with small acts of kindnesses. 

If your husband resists the idea of romance or rolls his eyes thinking it’s corny, we’re pretty sure he’ll enjoy the special attention this challenge will provide.

Below are 20 Romantic Ideas. Do one each week for five months and see if it doesn’t change the climate of your marriage and home.

  1. Purpose to only encourage your husband and take your complaints to God in prayer.
  2. Send your husband an encouraging or funny card “just because” to his work address.
  3. Plan time for him to go do something he has been wanting to do. Make all the arrangements and share it with him a few days before so he can anticipate it.
  4. Do one thing around the house for a week. Make it something he dreads doing.
  5. Anticipate his appetite and prepare a treat for him without him asking.
  6. Pay attention to what your husband says listening for things he wants or needs. Then do what you can to meet it.
  7. Spend time doing something your husband enjoys.
  8. Be quick to notice his strengths and express your gratitude for them.
  9. Compliment him in public – either in front of friends or your children. Make sure it’s sincere.
  10. Scratch his back or rub his shoulders while watching TV.
  11. Let him see you naked without him asking. Better yet flash him when he least expects it. 😊
  12. Organize his closet.
  13. Have his car detailed.
  14. Have lunch from a favorite place delivered to his work.
  15. Send him a text before he leaves work telling him to meet you for a drink somewhere on his commute home.
  16. Do something to make him smile–this one will vary, but you should know your husband well enough on this one.
  17. Find a movie on TV that he’s been wanting to see and record it for him. Make a special snack and set him up for a night at the movies.
  18. Purpose to give him eye-contact when he is talking to you for an entire week.
  19. Ask him what one thing that you do is of most importance to him, then purpose to make sure it is done consistently.
  20. Keep his laundry clean and organized.
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Keeping It Real This New Year…

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I want to post something because it’s been awhile since I have. But my reserves are low and my motivation even more so. We have been caught in the middle of many situations requiring our constant attention. It has divided our time to the place where we can barely connect with each other, let alone others with whom God has placed in our lives.

I don’t want to burden you with our struggles. We all have them. But what I do want you to know is that we still are committed to helping marriages grow stronger. Even though my keyboard has been silent, there isn’t a day that I’m not asking God if there is something He would have me share with you.

This season for us matches the weather outside–it’s gray, cold and dreary. We know the sun will shine again, but for now we’re doing what we need to do for us and for those to whom we are responsible.

Happy New Year, and thank you for understanding our lack of attention lately. If you think about us, we’d appreciate your prayers as we continue down this road.

Until next time…

 

 

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Christmas In Review


I know we still have two days left before the day is here. But I wanted to plant this idea in your mind now, so maybe you’ll remember to come back to this post next week. Please?

What I’d like is for the comments on this post to be filled with fresh inspiration of what you did specifically to make this Christmas special. 

I have shared my romantic ideas with you for years, and now it’s time for you to do the same for the benefit and blessing of others. In fact, I got my idea for Tom’s gift this year from a friend on Instagram. Thank you @dailymaintained. 😊

Honestly I didn’t think his gift would be much this year (as far as special goes) because we have been needed extensively in caring for his mom following an emergency surgery. And that’s ok because we wouldn’t have it any other way. But because someone was willing to share their idea it helped me get over the hump of the large looming question, “what can I do?”

If your spouse doesn’t read our blog, feel free to comment now with what you are giving or doing for your spouse this year. If they do read it, then please come back next week and share with us. Your idea may be the needed inspiration for someone in need. 

Merry Christmas to you and yours. 

Remember “Every day is a gift that’s why it’s called the PRESENT!”

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Thirsty For Romance

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Date nights can become routine, and during the Christmas season they can become non-existent. Why not plan something special this week while you’re out shopping together?

Romantic Tip for this week is to include our Mall Date Night idea we shared on The Generous Wife blog. It won’t take long, but the memory you’ll share will last forever. 

In case you’ve missed our other romantic tips for the week you can see them all here:

Romantic Tips

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