Keeping It Real–Worth The Effort

If you haven’t figured it out by now, I love parties. I love holidays. I love surprises. I love celebrations. Since Tom has retired it makes it very difficult to surprise him. He is almost always home when I’m home. Except for yesterday! 🙂

He had to run errands that were going to take most of the day, and I was elated! Not because he would be gone mind you, but because I could surprise him!

Our bedroom has been a mess since early spring when I decided to go through our library and get rid of the books we no longer wanted. I also intended to move the bookshelf from our bedroom into Tom’s office, but it was too big. I didn’t know what to do, so I did nothing…for months! <sigh>

Tom is a very patient man. He never complains about unfinished projects, but he will give me (what Gary Thomas calls)  a “bid” every now and then. A few days ago he mentioned that he’d love to get our bedroom back sometime, and yesterday was the day I was able to catch his bid.

I spent a few hours going through the books we wanted to donate and organizing the ones we would keep. I made the bed, cleaned, vacuumed (one of Tom’s favorite things), turned on the lamps as well as smooth jazz for added effect. His surprise was ready and waiting for him to come home; I was so excited!

When he walked in the door he did what I hoped; he went to our room to change. I said nothing but let him see for himself. He was blown away! Makes me wonder how many times I miss what’s important to him because I’m not listening.

Let’s purpose to pay attention to the ways in which we can bless our spouse. It may not mean much to us, but if it’s important to them it’s absolutely worth it! 


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Monday Date Night Prompts – On The Water

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Summer is in full-swing and it’s finally warm enough to enjoy time on the water, which brings us to our date night prompt for this week!

We live in Florida where water is a part of our lives all year long. We especially enjoy:

But this past weekend we brought our water themed date home. We bought new loungers to relax in our pool, which allowed us to slow down and talk. It was exactly what we needed after the busy season we’ve had, which is the point of date nights, right?

Leena Arif has said, “In every drop of water there is a story of life.” And so on dates with our spouse, water can provide a chance to write more of our story.

What water options are near you? Try discovering something new and see if it doesn’t become your new go-to place for the summer.

Happy dating…


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5 Marriage Blogger Husband’s Answer This Question…

Why is Sex Important? Part One

Listen in on this podcast as my husband, Tom, and the following men discuss this vital aspect of Sex in a healthy Marriage:

Paul Byerly, The Generous Husband and The XY Code

Scott Means, Heaven Made Marriage

Brad Aldrich, One Flesh Marriage

Doug Taylor, Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife



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Lesson Learned

There was a time in our marriage when Tom said something that hurt me deeply. It wasn’t the intent of his heart to hurt me, but because of the verse above I insisted that something was in his heart that he insisted wasn’t. We had stalemate for the first time in our marriage and it was stifling. 

This cloud of suspicion and angst followed me everywhere I went. I had opened the door to a very ugly side of me and I didn’t know how to close it. 

Thankfully, the Lord in His faithfulness led us through that very difficult year. And the best of news–He changed me!

A few mornings ago I awoke with this revelation about that season of our life. 

God revealed to me how I had used this verse wrongly and because I did, it led us down a very dark road. He reminded me of this parable Jesus shared during His Sermon on the Mount…

“”Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:1-5‬ ‭ESV‬‬

It is dangerous to think we know what is in our spouse’s heart by the words they say. How often have I said something and regretted it the moment it left my lips? What if a guard was standing there not ready to help me, but to judge me and slap a sentence with no mercy? 

God doesn’t treat us that way. In fact, through Christ He did the opposite.

“He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭103:10-12‬ ‭ESV‬‬

It is my responsibility to guard my own heart and what I speak. I realize now that if I had used the verse in Luke to judge my own heart I would have discovered the lesson God was teaching me right away without having to drag Tom through the mud with me to get there.

I am grateful for that year and what God showed us, but I am even more grateful for how God allowed me to reflect back on what happened to show me there was a better way. 

The moral of this story is: Don’t assume that the verse that comes to your mind during a conflict is for your spouse. It may be the Holy Spirit trying to get your attention before you say something you’ll regret.

Lesson Learned ✔️

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Loving v. Virginia – 50 Years of Interracial Marriage

John Piper has written an outstanding tribute to the pivotal anniversary celebrated today. It was on June 12, 1967 when the United States Supreme Court declared unconstitutional all state laws that prohibited interracial marriage. But it didn’t change in America instantly. In fact, the last state to finally adopt this new law was Alabama in the year 2000!

We won’t take the time to rewrite what Mr. Piper has already written so well. But we will highlight his 5 Points of the Beauty of Interracial Marriage.

  1. The biblical description of how so-called racial differences emerged from one pair of human beings, Adam and Eve, shows that interracial marriage does not contradict God’s purpose for diversity in this world and the next.

  2. The Bible forbids intermarriage between believer and unbeliever — not between races or ethnic groups.

  3. In Christ, our oneness is profound and transforms racial and social differences from barriers to blessings.

  4. God severely disciplined the critics of one interracial marriage. (Read Numbers 12)

  5. In Christ, the good effects of interracial marriage are worth the challenges it can bring.

I’m happy to say that our church has always celebrated the union of interracial couples.

This past week at my Barefoot Ladies Retreat I was able to spend time with one wife who is in an interracial marriage and has been for over 20 years. I had never heard their story. It was hard to hear the heartache and the trouble they have endured, but even more amazing is how God has brought them to where they are today. We cried as she shared how her dad declared her dead and would not acknowledge her existence anymore. Then when their first child was born how God used this baby girl to restore what the enemy had tried to steal.

“Christians of every race should search their hearts and search the Scriptures, and bring their hearts, by the power of God’s Spirit into line with God’s word.” – John Piper

Take some time and read John Piper’s article. We pray it will be helpful to you as you consider what the Bible has to say about interracial marriages. 


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Monday Date Night Prompts – Date With A View

Today Tom and I will venture to one of our favorite places in the High Country–5506′ SkyBar. It sits on top of Beech Mountain Ski Resort and you can only get there by taking the ski lift to the top.

Summertime is when the snow skis are traded in for mountain bikes making the mountain just as popular of a place to gather and enjoy the view. What I love about 5506′ is that we can enjoy the view without having to risk hurting ourselves on the slopes or hike a long path to get there. With a little investment ($10 a lift) we can climb the heights and enjoy the long-range view.

Photo Credit: Skybar website

Our date night prompt this week encourages you to find a place nearby with a fantastic view. It may be a mountain top, on the beach front, overlooking a tranquil lake, or a rooftop restaurant overlooking the city. Wherever you go, pause to take in the big picture view and realize how small we are compared to God’s creation. Remember He cares for you; He cares for your spouse; and He certainly cares for your marriage. This is why date nights are important.

Please share with us your date with a view in the comments. We can’t wait to see the big picture from your eyes.

Happy Dating!


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Please Take Our Poll: How Do You Selfie?

Here’s one of our Selfies taken in the Netherlands.

We invite you to take our Selfie Survey.  Also, feel free to share a selfie photo in our comments if you’d like. 🙂

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We Remember

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Monday Date Night Prompts – Rendezvous

Photo Credit: The Grand Bohemian, Asheville Lobby

One of the thing that is so romantic about dating before you get married is meeting together in out of the way places to talk and get to know each other a little more.

Tom and I wanted to recapture a bit of that romance, so we met in a hotel lounge for appetizers and drinks after he got off of work one day. The best part was–he didn’t know we were going to do this until I texted him to meet me there at 5:30p.

I got all dressed up and got to the lounge early, so I’d be there to greet him when he walked in. We talked and flirted as if we had just met, thoroughly enjoying our little rendezvous until it was time to go home for dinner. If your budget allows it would be fun to surprise your spouse with a room upstairs, but if it doesn’t this date is still a win-win. There are so many beautiful hotels in our area that offer not only great ambiance, but also happy hour deals which make it quite affordable too.

Taking the time to connect on this intimate level in the middle of a busy schedule makes it even more unexpected and appreciated. Give it a try in the next week or so, and let us know how your rendezvous goes.

Happy Dating…


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The Core of Who We Are


When we began blogging in 2008, there were only a handful of marriage bloggers seeking to spread the encouragement that marriages can not only survive, but thrive.

Now 9 years later there are 130 marriage blogs who have committed to join us on our mission–to glorify God in our marriages for as long as we both shall live and to tell others of the hope that can be found in Christ alone. We are a part of the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association (CMBA) whose values hold up the standard found in the Holy Word of God. This isn’t our idea–God created marriages to reflect His relationship to the church. This is why it matters how we choose to live our lives. It’s not about us! It’s about being a part of the bigger picture of God’s redemption story.

This weekend we are hosting our first CMBA Core Team retreat at our cabin in North Carolina.

To say Tom and I are excited would be huge understatement. We are ecstatic to welcome these dear friends into our home as we share face to face with each other our hopes, plans and dreams. We will laugh, eat and worship God together. We will talk about our vision for our ministries and seek to encourage each other every day as long as it is still called today. We will pray for each other and seek to help discern what it is God is saying to us regarding CMBA. It is a privilege and a blessing that we don’t take lightly.

Today I want to highlight the blogs of those who will be attending our retreat this weekend. I hope you are already quite familiar with them for what they have to share is valuable for all marriages. 

Heaven Made Marriage – Scott and Jenni Means

One Flesh Marriage – Brad and Kate Aldrich

The Forgiven Wife – Chris and (Doug) Taylor

The Generous Husband – Paul Byerly

The Generous Wife – Lori Byerly (companion blog to above)

The Marriage Bed – Paul and Lori’s Marriage website with message board and articles

Not Attending this retreat is Julie Sibert and her husband, Rand. How we wish they were able to join us, but I don’t want to miss an opportunity to highlight her blog: Intimacy In Marriage as well.

As you can see these are some outstanding blogs worth your time reading and gleaning from their years of experience and training.

Also, if you haven’t noticed this weekend is Memorial Day. We offer lots of ideas on how to romance your spouse on this special holiday. Be sure to check them out on the Wives Only and Husbands Only tabs above.

Please pray for us as the Lord reminds you. We have never been more aware of our need for God’s direction and sustaining grace in our lives. The time is short and we are working hard to do what God has called us to do. Your prayers are appreciated.


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Monday Date Night Prompt – Catching Bids

You may be wondering what in the world we mean by “catching bids”. It’s not a new technique for shopping on eBay; It has to do with cherishing your spouse in a very personal way. 

We can’t take credit for this idea. Gary Thomas, in his new book Cherish, does an outstanding job of explaining it by quoting Dr. John Gottman…

“…throughout each person’s day, one partner will make regular “bids” for the other’s attention. In our marriage, we could describe these bids as the question, “Do you still cherish me?”

“What the spouse does in response to these bids has a huge impact on marital connection and happiness.” 

Gary Thomas goes on to further explain…

“…whenever my wife expresses an opinion, reads something interesting from the local paper, or makes an observation, I am either cherishing her or neglecting her. There is no middle ground here. Her bid is either met or rejected. Cherishing is expressed, or it’s not. Intimacy is built, or it is assaulted, even in the most mundane marital conversations.” 

Intimacy is built by practicing this on a daily basis. But it’s not easy.

I remember once when I mentioned to Tom that he didn’t look at me when I talked. His comment, though intending to be funny, had a sting to it.

“If I looked at you every time you talked I’d never get anything done.”

At that point we knew we had work to do. I needed to work on the timing, and Tom needed to work on the listening. 

But catching bids is not always about conversations that need to be shared, it’s also about sharing dreams and desires. 

My son did this well as a new husband caring for his pregnant wife. It was late one night and he heard her mention how much she wanted something they didn’t have. Before she knew it he was out the door to purchase what she was craving. That’s cherishing! And that is how you build intimacy that not only lasts, but warms the heart and soul.

So this week let’s purpose to be bid catchers. Instead of lamenting the bids we’ve lost, we can win by catching each other’s bids and cherishing them in creative ways. You may be surprised how many you find. We love to hear your stories, so please come back and share your catches with us! 

Happy Dating!



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Monday Date Night Prompts – Puzzled

When was the last time you purchased a jigsaw puzzle? I can’t remember when I did, which has led me to consider doing this for our prompt this week.

  • Go to the store and buy a 1000 piece puzzle.
  • Set out the pieces on your dining room table. If you don’t have a usable table for this purpose, set up a card table. 
  • Make it your goal to get the outside pieces in place the first night. Then see how long it takes you to fill in the middle.

The great thing about doing a puzzle together is you can’t be on social media at the same time, and it lends time for you to actually talk.

When you finish your puzzle, share a photo of your completed puzzle with us in the comments. Who knows? There may be a drawing for a prize in store for those who do. 

For a more creative way to enjoy a jigsaw puzzle together, try this idea.

Happy Dating!

Summer is not obligatory. We can start an infernally hard jigsaw puzzle in June with the knowledge that, if there are enough rainy days, we may just finish it by Labor Day, but if not, there’s no harm, no penalty. We may have better things to do. 

– Nancy Gibbs

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Make The Most Of Time

One of the advantages of our season of life is having time to do things we wouldn’t have normally had time to do.

We are on our way home from a 9 day trip to Ukraine and The Netherlands where we encouraged local churches in their walk with Christ. And often the topic of marriage came up.

We stayed with one couple who has lived in their 1880 home for the past 34 years. They are praying about downsizing, but they’re not sure if they’re ready to close this chapter of their lives. We talked about memories, parenting, regrets, occupations and all sorts of other of life’s experiences.

But our favorite was sitting at their table and reading God’s Word together They shared what God was saying to them, and we shared what God was saying to us. It was sweet fellowship with new friends who I believe will become old friends. 

Miles don’t separate those whom the Spirit has joined together in relationship and for this we are grateful. 

Who is God having you reach out to in an effort to encourage their growth in Christ? Even if you can’t travel, the distance between two hearts is only a phone call away. We must make the most of the time we’ve been given.

As I write this we are sitting in a restaurant in the Manchester airport having breakfast. The servers are wearing T-shirts that read: 

Don’t kill time, make the most of it!

Need we say more?

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Monday Date Night Prompts – Picnic Ideas To Mix and Match

Photo Credit: Food For Life

I’m sure you’ve enjoyed a picnic or two since you’ve been married. But today’s prompt mixes up the traditional picnic to make it something special.

Pick Your Menu

  • Hot Meal from a favorite restaurant picked up while on your way to your location
  • Cold chicken, assorted salads and fruit
  • Sandwiches, either homemade or store bought, chips and cookies

Photo Credit: Maine-Inspired Picnic

Pick Your Location

  • Beach
  • Lakefront
  • City Park
  • Backyard

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Pick Your Style

  • Casual – on a blanket with paper products and plasticware
  • Festive – use a theme based on the time of year e.g. Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Summer or Fall
  • Special – Pack a folding table with tablecloth and napkins. Bring a nice candle or lamp and extension cord if there is electrical outlet nearby. Have music too, using a portable speaker with your Spotify or Amazon Music playlist.

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As you can see, picnics don’t have to be the same old, same old. With a little thought and planning you can take your next picnic up a notch. Try it! You may just discover a new way to picnic that you both love.

For more ideas on how to make your picnic easier and more enjoyable check out these ideas. Also see our Pinterest Board: Not Your Normal Picnic Ideas

What is your most memorable picnic?

Happy Dating!

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Flowers Tell A Story

I love flowers–all kinds. My photo library is filled with them. They make me happy, and none more so that when they are growing in the dirt. God puts them on display everyday for our enjoyment and they’re breathtaking if we pause to notice.

This past Sunday a dear friend that we’ve known most of his life was ordained as a pastor in our church. It was a huge celebration of the faithfulness of God. His wife was standing by his side, proud and thrilled that his day of recognition had finally come.

As I was praying for them, I sensed the Lord wanted to bless his wife with a bouquet of blue irises. I knew this was the Lord as I don’t go around thinking about giving people flowers necessarily. I tried to find some for her, but they must not be in season. Since I didn’t have time to go to a florist I opted to tell her instead .

Flowers have meanings, and I love to discover what different ones mean. The blue iris represents faith and hope–two words that have had special significance in her life. Such a sweet reminder from her Father. What I didn’t know was that when their first child was born 16 years ago, her husband brought her a bouquet of blue irises! It signified new life to them, and now as they are embarking on new life in their ministry, God was saying you have My blessing.

Maybe you would like to share your heartfelt sentiments to your wife using flowers as your words. Here is a quick reference to discover how to say what you want to say:

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Monday Date Night Prompts – Yelping It

Do you ever get tired of doing the same old things, going to the same places for dates because it’s all you know? I get that! Tom and I certainly have our favorite restaurants–I’ll post about them later.

But what about when you’re in an unfamiliar town? Or passing through and need to eat? What about when you’re ready to break out of the norm and try some place new?

Tom and I were returning from NC Saturday and about the time we were hungry for lunch, nothing on the road signs sounded good. What were we to do? We Yelped it!

Yelp is an app that lets you know what restaurants (or any business for that matter) are nearby and allows you to see how other customers have rated them on a scale of 1 to 5.

We discovered a little hole-in-the-wall place in Yemassee, SC, called Fletcher’s Finds and Finest. It was a restaurant, an antique store, a Persian rug merchant and a distillery all in one. And they had a cute outdoor patio for diners to come and sit a spell. And that we did!

You should know that Tom loves to make good time when we’re on the road, but this time he stopped for me so I could enjoy exploring someplace new–so thoughtful and romantic!

We listened to the owner’s father as he told story after story to the diners seated  at the table with him. It felt like we were in an episode of Andy Griffith, visiting a place where time slows down and conversations are long and meaningful. And the food was delicious! I had a Reuben with fried okra!

After lunch we walked over to the “legal” distillery where the distiller was there providing tasting and sharing their story. He made sure we knew that he thought his product was the best thing to ever touch his lips to which my husband replied, “She’s the best thing to ever touch MY lips!” ❤

He said, “Oh, that’s good! I’ll have to remember that one!” 😊

Try Yelping It on your next date and see if you don’t make a special memory!

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3 Ways Easter Makes A Difference In Marriage

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Easter is without a doubt the most important date on the calendar for Christians, because if there was no Easter, Christmas would have no meaning.

But Easter occurred and this informs our marriage that we have hope.

Hope that there is life after death, victory after defeat, joy after sadness, and comfort after suffering. But it goes a step further and teaches us that we can actually have life in our dying to self, victory when experiencing defeating circumstances, joy in the midst of our sadness over loss, and comfort while suffering through relational conflicts.

Paul Tripp is one of our favorite authors. He sent out a Wednesday’s Word encouragement today with a challenge for us to apply this question to our lives. We want to use this challenge to apply them to our marriages:

He asks, “What will you do with Easter now that Easter is gone?”

Read 1 Corinthians 15 for Paul addresses how we are to live as a result of Easter. Mr. Tripp provides three Truths to consider in thinking of our marriage… (inserts mine)

  1. The Empty Tomb comforts us. Difficult and unpredictable realities of life in a fallen world are guaranteed, but we can “be steadfast and immovable” even when we don’t understand (our spouse), because our Risen Savior rules over everything that would confuse us.
  2. The Empty Tomb motivates us. If Christ rose from death, reigns in power, and is coming back again, we should be the most motivated community (marriage) on earth, “always abounding in the work of the Lord.” Enough of mere survival–we should help others (our spouse and other marriages) thrive right here, right now, because we believe in victory, redemption, and transformation.
  3. The Empty Tomb assures us. If the Resurrection guarantees eternity, then we believe that our suffering (in marriage) and ministry “is not in vain.” Life (marriage) will get discouraging–at times, it won’t seem like there is an end in sight, or progress is invisible. But a Second Coming is coming, and we will be rewarded for our faith.

Such Good News! Yes, the empty tomb gives us hope in all of life, but we must apply these truths to our everyday experiences, not just remind ourselves of them one Sunday in the Spring.

Let it inform your financial burdens, your relational conflicts, your sexual temptations and struggles, your parenting dilemmas, and all other trouble. Easter occurred to give us life and not only life, but abundant life. This Good News can’t help but affect our marriages if we will let it.


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Monday Date Night Prompts – A Night (Day) at the Museum

This past week we went to a local museum that we’ve known about for years, but had never visited. And it just so happened we went on a day with free admission! 

Albin Polasek Museum and Sculpture Garden did not disappoint. Upon our arrival we were welcomed by the docent who knew his story well. She explained how he came to America from the Czech Republic prior to World War I. 

He loved America for the opportunity it gave him to grow in his love and study of sculpture. His museum was also his home until he died in 1965. 

His work is on display in the home and throughout the garden. Sculptures of stone, bronze and wood showcase his world-renowned talent.

His favorite and most recognized piece is called, 

Man Carving His Own Destiny

Which he described as being a sort of biographical piece. He often said he came to America as a block of stone from the Czech Mountains and carved his own future.

We were there on Good Friday which made hearing the story of the following commissioned piece more heartfelt…

The Victorious Christ

He explained that he had seen so much art depicting the agony of Jesus on the Cross, but he wanted to show Him Victorious as He pleaded with The Father, “Forgive them. They don’t know what they are doing.”  I had a hard time restraining the tears.

Museums have a way of opening the door to emotions and conversations you might not have otherwise. 

My favorite piece was called, 

A Mother Crying Over The World.

He witnessed the effects war had on the mothers who sent their sons and daughters out to fight. Although you can’t see her face, you can feel the deep emotion through her body language, something Polasek was a genius portraying.

What museums are near you that you’ve never taken the time to visit? We encourage you to go and learn something new together. It may leave a lasting impression, like these sculptures, worth remembering.

Happy Dating!

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Monday Date Night Prompts – Skyward


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I am a Florida native and have grown up with the Space Program in my backyard. I have many precious memories watching rockets, space shuttles and satellites being launched into orbit. As an added bonus, we have a great view from our backyard of night launches which are spectacular, if you ever get the chance to see one.

Now that the Space Shuttle program has ended (I still am sad about that), we have taken to looking skyward for something anyone can see when it happens to be crossing over your region of the country.

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It’s the International Space Station. Did you know that Nasa sends out alerts to those who wish to see the Space Station when it’s passing overhead? Tom and I have been doing this for a while now, and we rarely miss an opportunity to look skyward on those nights or early mornings.

The space station has no light of its own, so it can only be seen when the rising or setting sun is reflecting on it’s surface.

This week’s Date Night Prompt is to…

Try it for yourself. Sign up to receive the alerts as to when you can spot the station. Then plan a date around the experience. The station is only visible for 4-6 minutes, but you could also watch Apollo 13 or Gravity afterwards. It’s sure to be a time worth looking together skyward.

Happy Dating!

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We’ve had a front row seat to the magnificent ocean off the coast of Mexico all week long. It has been a soothing rhythm providing peace to our souls. 

I was praying and God reminded me how much the ocean is like Him:

  1. He is constant in His love, wave after wave.
  2. He is powerful, able to fell the mightiest of ships with wind and water alone
  3. He is merciful, keeping His power reigned in for our sake.
  4. He is beautiful, providing nourishment to all who enter in.
  5. He is vast and more than we can fathom, but He is good.

Such Truth that informs my heart!

Emotions can seem much the same for those who are held captive by its torment.

  • They can come upon you in waves.
  • They can bring you to your knees.
  • They can be difficult to reign in.
  • They can feed our souls with lies and distortions
  • They can be more than we can handle at times.

I have been tossed about on a sea of “emoceans” more than I care to admit. Tormenting and even frightening at times.

This can cause even strong marriages to struggle! A marriage on the brink before an emotional test comes can capsize causing all hope to disappear of ever finding a safe marriage haven.

But there is hope! God in His ocean-sized mercy is greater than our fickle, storm-tossed emoceans. The key is finding the time to talk with each other about the emotions which torment us. 

It could be a job change or loss, financial insecurity, difficult children who don’t sleep, hormone fluctuations, etc. or it could be something lacking in your marriage. This type of emotional torment can be the hardest to reign in unless someone you know and trust is willing to help.

The first step is seeing the problem, then second, admitting you need help. There is no need for you to continue tossed about on the sea of emoceans. Jesus calmed the storm tossed sea and He can do the same for your marriage. 

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