Foodie Fridays – Lasagna and Sunday Dinners

Posted on September 5, 2025 by Debi Walter

Tom and I love having people over for dinner; I think we’ve made this obvious. But there is something we have decided to bring back from my growing up years—Sunday Dinners

In my parent’s home weekday meals were called “supper”, but the Sunday meal after church was called “dinner”.

My Mom was famous for her roast beef, mashed potatoes and brown gravy. Whenever I make her recipe, it takes me back to my childhood when I was eagerly waiting to hear, “Dinner’s ready!”

We started this new tradition last Sunday with four friends.

I made lasagna, which I haven’t made in years. I always seem to resort to Baked Ziti. I think it tastes the same, without all the layering, but there is something special about a huge pan of steaming hot lasagna that can’t compare to ziti.

I made my lasagna the day before, then put it in the oven on time bake before we left for church. We’ve had this oven for 16 years and sadly, I have never used the time-bake feature! This is one blessing that makes Sunday dinners easier.

I normally make homemade sauce, but I made my lasagna long before I knew how to make sauce from scratch. I still use Tom’s Italian Mom’s recipe, but my lasagna sauce is none other than…Ragu garden-style with tomatoes, garlic and onions.

First, I browned ground beef and then added the Ragu with extra Italian spices, oregano, garlic, sautéed onions and a splash of red wine. Let the sauce cook down over low heat until it reduces by a third and thickens. Set aside.

Next mix 2 lbs. whole ricotta cheese with 3 eggs, 1/4 cup parmesan romano cheese, salt and pepper, pinch of sugar and 2 teaspoons of chopped fresh parsley. Set aside.

Cook the lasagna noodles according to package directions. I prefer Barilla. Drain and lay flat on parchment paper to cool.

Finally, it’s time to assemble.

  • Start with a layer of sauce on the bottom of a well greased pan.
  • Add a layer of noodles length-wise, over-lapping by a fourth
  • Next spread half of the cheese mixture over the noodles
  • Spread a layer of sauce over the cheese mixture
  • Sprinkle with Parmesan and Romano cheese
  • Repeat the steps starting with the noodles laid width-wise this time. Alternating how the noodles are set helps keep the lasagna from sliding when served.
  • Add another layer of noodles length-wise, followed by a layer of meat sauce
  • Sprinkle with Parmesan Romano cheese
  • Cover with foil

Bake in a preheated 400° oven for 45 minutes. Then remove the foil and top with shredded mozzarella cheese. Bake an additional 15 minutes, or until cheese is melted. (For timed-bake ovens, follow your oven’s guide).

Sunday Dinners aren’t about the food really, it’s about the gathering together with friends around the table to share love, laughter and a satisfying meal.

Shauna Niequist in her excellent book, Bread and Wine, has been a huge inspiration to me.

“Many of the most sacred moments in my life, the ones in which I feel God’s presence most profoundly, when I feel the goodness of the world most arrestingly, take place around the table. Something extraordinary happens when we slow down, open our homes, look into one another’s faces, and listen to one another’s stories around the table.” – Shauna Niequist

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We are happy to welcome you here to our vineyard. It’s a place to feed your marriage with soul-satisfying ways to love each other well. Like a good meal, marriage takes lots of elements to make it satisfying to both of you. Let’s discover more together.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Good Advice

Posted on September 3, 2025 by Debi Walter
Frances Louis Carnes

Our daughter-in-love shared something with me I’ve never forgotten. Shortly after her grandmother died, she explained the reason for her long, well-lived life. Her grandmother purposed every day to laugh out loud—not just a chuckle—but the deep belly laugh that makes your cheeks hurt.

What a goal!

It made me question how often Tom and I do this. Life can get busy or boring, depending on your stage in life, making such laughter random.

The next question is how do you make yourself laugh like this?

Some couples excel at laughter because one is a natural comedian. Some couples are more laid back and laughter may or may not be as normal. And yet other couples are stoic and laughter rarely happens.

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17‬:‭22‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Tom and I fall more in the second category, but we’ve gotten better at it.

It’s important to not take yourself so seriously and to be able to laugh at yourself.

I’ve done some really stupid things that provided a great opportunity for a belly laugh. But if I get offended when someone laughs at what I’ve done, a fight can often replace the laughter. I’m grateful through the years we have learned to laugh at the things we do.

For instance, Tom bought me a Smart Watch because I was always setting my phone down in the house and couldn’t find it. I must admit the “locate my phone button” is my favorite feature on this watch.

Well, one day I had misplaced my phone yet again. I was in our room, and I pushed the locate button; it was somewhere behind me. I turned around and looked, but no phone. So I pushed the button again. Now it was on the other side of my room, behind me. What in the world was happening? I pushed the button again and then realized—my phone was in my back pocket!

I immediately cracked up at how duped I was. I couldn’t wait to tell Tom because we all need a good belly laugh and this was a doozy. Even now writing about it makes me laugh.

When was the last time you and your spouse really laughed out loud? If you need help, we suggest looking up Nate Bargatze on You Tube. He is clean and hilarious. It’s a good start. It might help you learn to laugh at yourself, as he does well.

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Welcome to our new followers. It’s a privilege to come alongside and encourage you in your marriage. We all need this because marriage is hard work, but it can also be hilarious.

Blessings and laughter to you both,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Happy Labor Day

Posted on September 1, 2025 by Debi Walter

We’ve had a wonderfully slow morning on the Lake Apopka Wildlife Drive. Traveling at 10 mph with no sound but the bird’s welcoming the morning sun. We were content just to soak it all in. Even the gators took part.

These are a few photos we’ve taken through the years to give you an idea of the beauty found here. The best of news is the drive is FREE!

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Labor Day is a day to remember all who work hard every week of the year. It is a well-deserved break to enjoy the life you have been so graciously given by God.

We pray for you to have a day of rest and refreshment with your spouse and family, whatever you choose to do.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Our Favorites

Posted on August 29, 2025 by Debi Walter

This past week Orlando celebrated all the “Best of” businesses as voted by the public. It was fun to see many of our favorite restaurants on the list.

This got us thinking, why not share with you the places we love most in and around Central Florida? It won’t be an exhaustive list, but enough to help those who live here try new places with confidence. Or if you are planning to visit The City Beautiful, you will have an idea of some great places to try.

Italian

  • Antonio’s Market and Cafe in Maitland. This was our date night go-to during the pandemic. We ordered pizza to-go and enjoyed it on Lake Lily across the street.
  • Francesco’s – the owner and chef is Sicilian which is where Tom’s Mom was from. The atmosphere reminds us so much of his family. Hard to explain, but the food is outstanding.
  • Nonno’s – this is family-owned and when you walk in the welcome is like coming home. The pesto sauce served with fresh bread and is amazing.

Delicatessen

  • George’s Hideaway on Park Avenue in Winter Park. This used to be Brandywines, a place we enjoyed while dating. In recent years George’s relocated here from Lee Road and we couldn’t be happier. Their cheesesteak is our personal favorite. But anything on the menu is delicious. And don’t forget his cookies! (It helps to know they catered our youngest daughter’s wedding reception.
  • Yalaha Bakery located in Yalaha, Florida. German owners make this an authentic delicatessen. On the weekends they will often offer live music too. It’s a fun place and provides a long drive for good conversation. I love a good Reuben sandwich!

Burgers

  • MOOYAH in Winter Park. Their burgers are large enough to share and it comes with a huge mound of fries. Their Lemonade with turmeric is a must try too!

Fish and Chips

  • Fish Camp on Lake Eustis. A little bit of a drive from Orlando, but trust us it’s worth it. We go when the weather is mild to enjoy sitting on beautiful Lake Eustis. The place isn’t fancy, but the fish is fresh and oh so good.

Mexican

  • Garabaldi’s in Apopka. This place is always crowded, but worth the wait. They have lots of seating inside and out and the service is impeccable.

Diner

  • Johnnie’s Diner in Casselberry. This place has such a variety and it’s all so good. We especially love their breakfasts. The staff is incredibly friendly and efficient.

Seafood

  • JB’s Fish Camp in New Smyrna Beach. Not only is the seafood fresh and delicious, but the outdoor seating is right on the Intercoastal Waterway. It faces west providing spectacular sunsets. They offer live music on an outdoor stage, a good happy hour and kayak rentals where you can row alongside manatees and dolphins.

Boat Rentals

  • Hontoon Landing Resort and Marina – This is a family favorite whenever our grandkids are visiting. We rent a pontoon boat for 1/2 day and drive it to Blue Springs State Park. There we park the boat and walk to the spring via a nice boardwalk. You can rent a tube and float down the springs where the water temp is always 72°. We usually pack a picnic and make a day of it.

Wildlife Sighting

  • Lake Apopka Wildlife Drive – This is a must see experience for anyone visiting our area. I was born here and am very familiar with this part of Florida. But if you’ve never seen a gator in the wild—this is that place. The drive takes about 2 hours to complete. It’s a one way drive on a one lane dirt road with water on both sides. Numerous species of water fowl grace the water and skies. Roll your windows down and let their calls lull your thoughts to sleep. This is the place to unplug and connect with nature. It’s even better shared with someone you love. Bring your cameras and binoculars and you’ll see so much more. Tom and I even spent a Christmas morning on this drive when none of our kids were living in state. It is a Christmas I’ll never forget. (Please note: The drive is only opened Friday-Sunday and on National holidays.)

Desserts

  • The Glass Knife in Winter Park has a phenomenal selection of everything sweet. But it’s not what you’d expect. Each dessert is a work of art. They even use gold leaf on their cakes. The flakes are placed with precision taking the experience to the next level of WOW!
  • Paris Baguette also in Winter Park. Here you are offered a cafeteria tray with tongs as you enter to select from the gorgeous display of pastries. Be warned—it’s hard to choose. They also serve excellent coffee which reminds me of an authentic Paris Cafe where life slows and each bite is an experience. Parking is in the back.

Farmer’s Markets

  • Winter Garden Farmer’s Market in Winter Garden. There are no words to describe this experience. It happens every Saturday from 8:00 am to 1:00 pm. There is entertainment, crafts, plants, flowers, produce and lots of food choices. Come early and have breakfast.

Rails to Trails

  • West Orange Trail – also in Winter Garden, you can rent bikes and take the trail as long as your body is able. Right through the middle of the town, the trail brings you to a beautiful fountain dedicated to Winter Garden’s citrus industry. It is surrounded by swings and cascading wisteria. Beautiful! If you want to experience the lazy side of Orlando, this is the place. Ride at your own pace and enjoy the many restaurants and ice cream choices in downtown Winter Garden.

Vineyards

  • Lakeside Vineyards offers a beautiful view of gorgeous Lake County in Clermont. This is where Debi’s grandparent’s settled in Florida from Oklahoma in 1922. This is an enjoyable way to slow down and unwind. They offer tours of their facility daily.

We could go on and on, but this is an excellent list to start with. Of course you can always ask us for more suggestions.

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Tomorrow is our youngest granddaughter’s 1st birthday party. I’ve been busy today helping with the preparations. The theme is sweet one—and that she is. I love that she loves Papa as much as I do; her face lights up when she sees him. So sweet!

Have a blessed Labor Day weekend!

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Rest

Posted on August 27, 2025 by Debi Walter

This word can either make you sigh with a smile because you understand the benefit of rest. Or it can ache like a pebble in your shoe, wanting it but never getting relief to find it.

Why is rest so vital for a healthy marriage?

We weren’t meant to go pedal to metal 7 days a week every day of the year. Time to rest must be planned into your routine or it will only happen when you’re laid up with sickness or a broken bone.

What does true rest look like?

I believe it starts in the mind. Where do your thoughts go when you awake in the morning? Are you rested after a good night’s sleep and wake with gratitude for another day? Or do you wake after hitting the snooze button several times, running out the door barely saying, “Good morning?”

How we begin the morning often sets the tone for the rest of the day.

Christy Nockels is known for her gifts as a song-writer and worship leader. Several years ago God called her to slow down and refocus her heart and mind to God first, and foremost, and on those closest He had given her to love—her family. What came from this decision was more than she imagined.

“As we look to God—eyes up, palms up, casting our cares on Him—we see Him in a new light, we see ourselves in a new light, and imagine how it frees us to see others in a new light! It changes us from the inside out to live inside out. Sure, our to-do list isn’t going to get done on its own, but our day is reordered around first things first as we’re propelled to work from rest.” The Life You Long For, pg. 82.

Working from a heart of rest makes all the difference in our marriages. We are less likely to be short-tempered, and when we are, we apologize quickly. We choose to do everything possible to guard the rest we have in God.

“The most beautiful and effective way to change lives around you is to let God change you. The best way you can love others is to let God love you.” Christy Nockels, pg. 84

Today is a new day. Let’s purpose to start our mornings eyes up, palms up casting our cares on God. He is our place of rest, and it is from Him that all blessings flow.

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Tom and I have had a very busy few weeks and this reminder to rest is serving us well. We invite you to join us in this pursuit.

Blessings and rest to you and yours,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Are You Prepared For A Marriage Hurricane?

Posted on August 25, 2025 by Debi Walter

It’s nearing the peak of hurricane season in Florida (September 10th). The newest families to call Florida home are the ones most likely to panic as a storm approaches.

As a native Floridian, we don’t panic, but we prepare.

We have boards to cover our windows if the storm is a Category 2 or higher. We make sure we have enough essentials: batteries, flashlights, food in the pantry, etc. We bring in patio furniture and anything loose in the yard. And secure a generator in case the power goes out.

Then we wait and watch.

Marriages have hurricanes as well. Some more than others, but it is imperative for all of us to prepare for them.

What if we take the steps of hurricane preparedness and apply it to our relationship? How would it impact our next conflict?

First and foremost, when the high winds of adversity hit your marriage, it is good to cover your heart with the truth. Remember you are both on the same team fighting the storm together. Protection looks like thinking the best of your spouse when the situation looks otherwise.

These are the essentials needed when a hurricane of conflict is building on the horizon:

  • a listening ear
  • being slow to speak
  • shining the light of truth on every thought allowing God’s Word to be your guide
  • Good counsel—this helps your marriage stay nourished instead of famished.
  • Quickly resolve little irritations. These can go flying when the high winds of trouble increase.
  • Maintain a healthy relationship with the Lord. He is our anchor in every situation we will face as a couple. He keeps the lights on when darkness is trying to blind us from understanding each other.

Hurricanes are a force to be reckoned with in Florida, and conflict is a formidable foe in marriage. How much you prepare during the seasons of plenty will determine how well you endure the season of want.

The best part of a hurricane are the days that follow the storm. The humidity drops clearing the air of the oppressive, summer heat. The cloudless skies even seem bluer.

So too in marriage. We may kiss and make up, but the fresh air of understanding deepens our intimacy in a way only forgiveness can.

So this begs the question, are you prepared for a marriage hurricane?

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Welcome to our new followers. Our intent is to post every Monday and Wednesday with posts to help your marriage vineyard grow. Foodie Fridays we share what we’ve been cooking in the kitchen.

Tom and I both enjoy cooking and eating delicious food. I tease Tom that food is his hobby, and I’m not wrong. 😂 Cooking and baking is mine so we make a good team in the kitchen

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Monday Blessings to you both,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Today Is Special

Posted on August 18, 2025 by Debi Walter

This is the day my husband was born and it will always be special. He is a gift to me, our family and all who know him.

He is a faithful man who cares deeply for those he loves. He is capable of fixing things too, and is generous with his time to help others. I love his heart to serve.

He makes me laugh often which is a gift I’m thankful for the older we get.

We got up early to take friends to the airport. We decided to keep going from there to the beach. We saw the crescent moon lined up with Venus and Jupiter in the eastern sky that was awe-inspiring.

The sun rise over the ocean never disappoints.

We finished with a delicious breakfast, Tom’s favorite!

Happy birthday, Tom. You will always be my favorite. I will love you forever.

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Foodie Fridays – Creamed Corn on the Cob

Posted on August 15, 2025 by Debi Walter

Tom found this recipe and we had to try it.

One of my only memories of my grandfather was his creamed corn. I was only four years old when he died, but I loved this dish and I loved him!

At the end of harvest, corn on the cob can be tasteless and dry. This method adds the sweetness and moisture missing this time of year.

We absolutely loved it.

I didn’t have fresh chives, so I used dried chives instead. It was so good.

The summer will soon come to an end. But while we wait for the shorter days and cooler nights, let’s enjoy the food summer provides.

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We are grateful you’ve taken the time to follow our vineyard. It’s a passion Tom and I share—to help marriages grow stronger year after year. The fact that you are here is evidence of your desire.

May this summer find you more in love on purpose, for God’s glory.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Everyday Ways to Nurture Your Marriage

Posted on August 13, 2025 by Debi Walter

On Monday we talked about treating your spouse well above all else. Today we want to share some ideas to help you keep the motivation going. Pick one a week for the next few weeks without telling your spouse. Let them notice the special attention. This will be fun!

  • Organize a sock or underwear drawer.
  • Leave a love note or funny meme somewhere that will surprise them to find.
  • Pay attention to small requests and do it immediately e.g. “I’ve got a sweet tooth.” If possible make them something or order Uber delivery.
  • Mail your spouse a card with a gift card in it to their favorite fast food or coffee shop.
  • Compliment your spouse when with friends.
  • Never underestimate the joy of a spontaneous shoulder/foot massage or back scratching session.
  • Give them a lasting kiss when they least expect it.
  • Write out a prayer for them that shows how you are taking their concerns to the Lord and give it to them when they need the encouragement.
  • Your turn____________________________.

Add your ideas to the list in the comments. Let’s take the Dog Days of Summer to intentionally nurture our marriage.

“A word in season, how good it is.” Proverbs 15:23b ESV

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That’s all for today. If we purpose to do these small acts of encouragement imagine the effect it will have in our homes. This is our prayer for you today.

Enjoy the challenge,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Above All

Posted on August 11, 2025 by Debi Walter

When life gets busy, priorities often suffer. That’s when we need the Word of God to bring clarity and correction to our marriage.

Colossians 3:14 says,

“And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”

How are you doing in showing love to your spouse? It shows itself in the little things we do like, making coffee or running an errand without being asked. These small acts of love are most important because they go unseen by others. It is a special bond that strengthens our marriage and brings peaceful unity.

Do you believe this? This scripture is written as a promise. And promises are meant to be held onto, but it starts with me.

How can I treat my spouse today “above all”?

I can’t answer that question for you, but God can!

If you are serious about taking the next step in making your marriage the priority it deserves, then pray this prayer:

Father, thank you for my spouse and the years we have shared together. I realize that there are many ways I miss giving my spouse the priority they deserve. Will you open my eyes to see these areas where I can show them how much they mean to me? I need your help to make our marriage strong and “above all” in my life.

Thank you for giving me the desire to take the next step in growing my marriage to look more like you, Jesus, and your love for the church.

In your precious name I pray, Amen.

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We always want to take this time to welcome our new followers. You are special to us because you are purposing to make your marriage a priority. That is a gift born by the Holy Spirit. We thank God for you!

Have a blessed week,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Vacation Food Favorites

Posted on August 8, 2025 by Debi Walter
Playing golf—our favorite

We took a spontaneous trip to the High Country of North Carolina to escape the extreme August heat in Florida. When you’re retired you can do this!

There is no way we can choose just one dish, so we decided to share photos of our favorites. I have new inspiration for recipes to try at home now—can’t wait!

Bourbon Burger with caramelized onions and jalapeños
Crab claws
Chicken Quesadilla
Beautiful Margarita
Salted hot-buttered rolls
Hokkaido Scallops with romesco
Crab and Lobster bisque with Parmesan foam
Halibut
Veal Sugo with ricotta gnocchi
Blueberry muffin with blackberry ice cream
Fresh peaches with bourbon granola and vanilla ice cream
Curry Up pie
Cheese Steak pie
Cucumber and Tomato salad
Butter finger ice cream
Corn salsa and pepper jack cheese nachos

What a wonderful and rested time we’ve had away. When was the last time you were able to pull away and relax together. It only happens if you plan it as a priority.

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We are grateful that you would take the time to visit our vineyard. We hope our posts help your marriage flourish for God’s glory alone.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Fog In Marriage

Posted on August 6, 2025 by Debi Walter

On Monday’s post I shared about the plans we expect vs. what we’re given. It has been a week of asking God to help me see what He gives as a blessing, rather than a disappointment. When I complain about my disappointments, I usually miss what God may be trying to teach me.

So I started asking.

As we were driving out of the cloud to lower elevation I noticed how the clouds softened the hard scapes around me. Rough tree trunks looked soft like suede. Crinkled leaves looked like wispy feathers dancing in the breeze. The ground below looked like cushioned carpet. All the colors were muted with gray undertones. It was beautiful.

For the first time, instead of looking at the fog I looked through it to see what was before me. Nothing had changed except how I was seeing it.

Fog happens in marriage.

This made me think of times when my view of a conflict was muted. I didn’t see clearly what was in front of me because I was focused on the fog.

Fog softens hard things, but it can also hide what is real in front of you. Ask God to help you see the hard places through the softer lens fog provides, but don’t focus on the fog or it may ruin not only your view but your day.

When God appeared to Moses on Mt. Sinai He came in a thick cloud. His presence was veiled, but His power was clear. This account helps me thank God for His presence no matter the weather. He is with me and if I choose to thank Him for it instead of complaining I may like Moses, see God. He is enough!

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Welcome to our new followers. We count it a privilege to have you join us in making our marriage vineyards fruitful for a lifetime.

Blessings to you,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Expected vs. Given

Posted on August 4, 2025 by Debi Walter
Expected view

We’ve all been there; we have great expectations for a date, a vacation, a party or even weather. And when the time comes it is “less than”.

This summer Tom and I had great expectations for time away in New England. We wanted a break from the Florida heat. Instead, we took the heat with us!

Vermont and Maine had a 70 year record-breaking heat wave. We couldn’t help but think we had brought it with us. We still made the most of our time, but if we are honest, it was disappointing.

What do we do with these set backs? We thank God!

You heard that right. It glorifies God when we thank Him for what’s given over what is expected.

As I write this we are possibly facing another disappointment, so this is more a reminder for us than it may be for you.

Whatever expectations you may have right now—offer them to God in humble surrender. Ultimately we want His will over ours. And these momentary afflictions are creating a way for us to glorify Him in ways we might never choose.

We are away this week, and we will see if this time goes as we hoped or if God chooses something better. Either way we win.

Current view

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Thank you for continually visiting our vineyard. We are grateful for your desire to make the most of the time you’ve been given as husband and wife. Everyday is an adventure whether expected or not!

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Friday – Fried Rice

Posted on August 1, 2025 by Debi Walter

Fried rice is a favorite of mine because it uses up leftovers in a fresh way. And there is no limit to the varieties you can make.

Last week Tom was making chicken wings and fried rice seemed the perfect side. The only problem—I didn’t have any leftover rice. So I made some and cooked it. Then I placed it on a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper and placed in the freezer for 15 minutes.

While the rice was chilling, I prepped the other ingredients by dicing them: white onions, green onions, garlic, jalapeños, carrots and celery. I also had leftover green peas to add as well as chopped parsley for a garnish.

It turned out better than I remembered. I must make this more often—it’s that good! If you would like to try it you’ll find the recipe on the Gimme Some Oven website.

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Welcome to our new followers. We hope you’ll be encouraged in your marriage as well as inspired in the kitchen. We are foodies who love to cook and eat! And we love sharing what we love with you. Thanks for stopping by.

Buon Appetito,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Just Sayin’…

Posted on July 30, 2025 by Debi Walter

Hump Day is hump day! Let your imagination prompt you!

Grateful that there is only one who can fulfill all the longings of your heart—spirit, soul and body. God has joined you as one…enjoy the gift of oneness.

Have a great Hump Day!

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Can We Encourage You Today?

Posted on July 28, 2025 by Debi Walter

This past week was our last community group meeting for the summer. Our church has groups that meet for three months and then takes one off. August is an “off” month.

Our CG leader decided to have us spend this last night sharing encouragements with each other. We had no particular order, but by the end of the evening the goal was for everyone to be filled with encouragement—hearing about qualities others see in you.

It was a good exercise, as it says in Hebrews:

“But exhort [encourage] one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭3‬:‭13‬ ‭ESV‬‬ (emphasis mine)

This leads to a challenge we want to make, that is if you and your spouse are up for it.

Plan a date night either at home, a quiet park, a coffee shop or any place where you aren’t distracted. The purpose is to encourage each other sincerely with things you love and appreciate about your spouse. So often we think these things, but never purpose to say them. Let’s change that!

Your marriage will benefit from encouragement, as flowers do that are well-watered.

Here are some questions to get you started:

  • What is something your spouse does regularly that makes your life easier?
  • What is something they do that makes you laugh?
  • What do you admire most about your spouse, think character qualities.
  • What strengths does your spouse have that you depend on?

We pray this starts a new practice in all of our relationships, one where we build each other up on a regular basis.

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We can’t express how much it encourages us that you take the time to read, like and comment here. It represents your desire to have a healthy marriage—and this is our greatest desire.

We want to see marriages strengthened to glorify God. It is the one relationship that mirrors Christ and His love for the church!

Thank you for stopping by today!

We pray you are blessed,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Avoiding The Door

Posted on July 23, 2025 by Debi Walter

Imagine living in a house that had one door you never opened; one room ignored. It is avoided because neither spouse wants to go there. Instead both go the long way around it as they live their days together. The thought of going through that door would open up a mess they aren’t willing to see, much less clean. But it would also open up more space in which to enjoy life together.

There is one question, when asked sincerely, opens up a door of conversation you either really need to have to help your marriage heal, or to confirm your marriage is in a good place and healthy. You won’t know unless you open the door.

First, you must ask yourself, “Do I really want to know the answer?” Humility is required in order to answer “yes.” This makes it possible to hear your spouse’s heart, even if they share a perspective you may not see nor agree with.

Okay, so what’s the big question?

When you share an observation about me or our relationship, do you feel heard or do you feel disregarded?

Disregard means to pay no attention to it, to ignore it, or to treat it as unimportant or unworthy of consideration.

If they answer that they feel disregarded, you have work to do. Your spouse should never feel invisible. Ask them for examples of when this happens, not in a defensive way, but sincerely. The goal is to come to a place of mutual understanding.

It isn’t always easy to get there. But anything worth having is worth doing hard things and having difficult conversations.

Marriages grow as the years pass for those who are willing to lean in and dig deeper rather than pull away. If you dig in and insist you are right, your marriage will suffer.

We pray we all will continue to lean in. Tom and I can testify that a healthy marriage is worth opening those scary doors of communication.

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Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Lessons from Yoda

Posted on July 21, 2025 by Debi Walter

We had a conversation with a young husband and father whom we have known since he was born. It was one of those talks where both of us were being encouraged; we were encouraging him with the gift God has given him and the numerous ways he has been faithful with it; and he was encouraging us for sharing our life’s history with honesty and humility.

Even though he was alive for much of the stories we shared, he was a child. Now as an adult, it was as if he was hearing it for the first time.

But yesterday he said something that made us ask him to say it again. It was a quote from Yoda, of Star Wars fame.

“Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

He used it as an example of how it has transformed his marriage and parenting. He said recently he was angry with his kids, and it seemed a good reason. But then he asked himself, “What am I afraid of?” He realized he was afraid they would get hurt. It opened up an honest conversation with his teens that gave him a chance to repent, but also for them to understand the heart of their father’s love.

Powerful, this is! As Yoda would say in his unique way.

We share this to help us name our anger when conflicts arise. If it started from fear there is more to be discovered than just anger. This is how we grow in our understanding of what motivates arguments, which leads to understanding, which leads to more intimacy.

On the Goalcast website I found this quote interesting…

“Inspiration doesn’t always have to come from real-life people. We often find ourselves inspired by characters that live in the realms of the books we read, the movies we watch, the games we play…

“And while our beloved characters may have stemmed from their author’s vision, they are often anchored in real-life experiences and bear the wisdom of the person that served as inspiration for the character. Most great stories have a message that transcends into real life, passing on valuable lessons from complex and wise characters. Who better than Yoda to stand as proof of that?”

Have you ever thought of naming your anger to see from where it stems? It may just help take your marriage to a deeper level of intimacy.

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Have a great week,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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Foodie Fridays – Salmon Tacos with Mango Peach Salsa

Posted on July 18, 2025 by Debi Walter

We love good food, so you can imagine how excited we were to travel to New England. We had visions of lobster this and lobster that, but unfortunately the food left us wanting. We don’t know if it was us or the restaurants we chose. Either way we were disappointed.

When we got home we couldn’t wait to enjoy our own home cooking. And that’s what we did for an entire week!

This new recipe may just become a favorite summer meal.

I made the salsa the night before just to make it easier.

This recipe came together quickly. It was filling and refreshing with all the cool, sweet and spicy flavors competing for your palates attention. it worked and we loved it!

If you’d like to try the Salmon tacos, here’s the link. Also we added a cilantro lime crema to top it off. So so worth the time making it.

Taco sauce (cilantro-lime crema)

  • ⅓ cup Greek yogurt
  • ¼ cup mayonnaise
  • 2 tablespoons Dijon mustard
  • 1 tablespoon Sriracha
  • 1 lime medium size, freshly squeezed
  • ½ bunch fresh cilantro chopped

What are your favorite summer dishes?

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Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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How To Stay Emotionally Connected In Marriage

Posted on July 16, 2025 by Debi Walter

Let’s face it, this isn’t an easy task in any season of marriage. Emotions differ from day-to-day, and if there is no intentional plans to stay connected, drift will happen.

Drift is slow movement with no control of direction.

Hardly a good practice for a healthy marriage. Also, it’s been said that “to drift is to go downstream.”

Three Ways to Stay Connected

1. Connection requires time without distractions.

This has to include no screens, the biggest deterrent in my opinion. Before your time together, think of one or two open-ended questions to get your minds thinking. This way you will both be ready to talk about something other than kids, work, church or school. Really—you do have other things in common. It is why you got married in the first place. The key is to zone in on that level like you did when you were dating. Here is an example, “What one aspect or thing in your life are you most encouraged about or thankful for right now?”

2. Connection requires honesty.

We all have areas that are considered hot topics. We are afraid to “go there” for fear of ruining the night. But could this possibly be a ploy of the enemy to keep us from moving forward in understanding and forgiveness? I believe this is a high probability! How do we go there without having the same results? I would suggest praying together first asking God to help you have this hard conversation. If being heard or understood is a problem, try writing out your feelings on the topic. Have your spouse do the same and then read them aloud to each other. No interruptions are allowed either. If you don’t understand what they said or why they feel that way, ask more questions. Sadly, most of us assume we know the answers before we ask. This isn’t a fair way to treat the one person who is your closest friend in life—or at least should be.

3. Connection requires a willingness to admit you are wrong and also a willingness to change when needed.

Nothing shuts your emotional connection down more than one spouse blaming the other for everything wrong in the marriage! This requires humility where the grace of God floods your relationship with His power to see things you have never seen before.

“God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6

If this is a struggle for you, you may not realize it. Those who aren’t humble often think they are. Pride puffs up and makes us feel confident in areas where we should repent. I, (Debi), lived this way for far too long. Change came when God had me read Andrew Murray’s little book titled, “Humility”. It was the most painful and beautiful season of our marriage.

We pray these points help you on your continued journey toward connection or helps to get you back on track.

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Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️

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