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Category Archives: Conflict
Do You Do This?
Tom and I have been married for nearly 47 years. But we are facing a challenge we haven’t dealt with in years. The issue is who gets to defer to the other. For example, it may be choosing where we … Continue reading
Posted in Cherishing, Christian Marriage, Conflict
Tagged Romancing your spouse, to defer or not defer
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Are You Prepared For A Marriage Hurricane?
It’s nearing the peak of hurricane season in Florida (September 10th). The newest families to call Florida home are the ones most likely to panic as a storm approaches. As a native Floridian, we don’t panic, but we prepare. We … Continue reading
Lessons from Yoda
We had a conversation with a young husband and father whom we have known since he was born. It was one of those talks where both of us were being encouraged; we were encouraging him with the gift God has … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages, Keeping It Real
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, Lessons from Yoda, Name your fear
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Fighting Fair
Fighting looks different for every marriage. * Some are silent fighters—the cold shoulder is their weapon of choice. * Some are score keepers—their weapon of choice is a list of wrongs suffered. * Some are angry—their weapon of choice is … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged Cherish, Fighting Fair, Gary Thomas
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Marriage Forecast
Summer has begun in Florida with temperatures already reaching to the mid-90’s. These temps usually encourage afternoon thunderstorms. The cool ocean breeze blows in from the east and collides with the warmer Gulf breezes coming from the west. The result … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged marriage forecast
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Required
There is one thing required for a marriage to grow strong and healthy. Without it a marriage ends up with a lot more conflicts and disagreements. This one thing is humility. It isn’t thinking less of yourself—as in self-deprecation—but it … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Keeping It Real
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, Humility, marriage
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Vintage Post – Trigger Words
Mark Twain said, “The difference between the right word and the almost right word is “the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.” I suppose the reverse of this could be said as well – using the wrong words when … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Repentance, Vintage Posts
Tagged fighting words, Grace, Mark Twain, trigger words
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Time to Kneel
Tom and I have had projects on our to-do list for years that we simply haven’t made or had the time to accomplish well. Things that living in the same home for 32 years demand, e.g. cleaning out and organizing … Continue reading
Solid Rock
Yesterday we shared the importance of dealing with offenses as they happen. And happen they will! Today I was reminded of another One who left His mark on our marriage—etched in stone, as it were. Jesus is our solid rock, … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged 1 Timothy 1:15, Firm Foundation, Marriage offenses, Solid Rock
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Humility
“Unity grows where humility flows.” David Bush Tom and I had the privilege this Sunday to attend a grand opening celebration. It was for a church in Miami that our church planted 28 years ago. They just acquired a permanent … Continue reading
Posted in Celebrations, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged church plants, faithfulness, Humility, marriage, unity
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Vintage Post – Near Miss and our Blogiversary
We received a congratulations from WordPress this week. It was 17 years ago that we signed up to begin The Romantic Vineyard. This post about a near miss we experienced is from November 2020. It is a good reminder for … Continue reading
Posted in anniversaries, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Vintage Posts
Tagged Date Night Questions, marriage, Near Miss
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Fresh Air
We’ve been absent the last couple of weeks. We had two hurricanes, a daughter healing from a c-section, a newborn granddaughter and sweet Elias to help care for. But we must say, you have all been on our mind. This … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict
Tagged Breathe Grace, Helene, Hurricanes, Milton, New Smyrna Beach, Storms of Marriage
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Just Kidding – Part 2
Reposted from 2012 and adds more examples and help on how to work through this kind of conflict. This is a phrase used often. It is said when the person really is just kidding. Laughter erupts with everyone in the … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Keeping It Real
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, Just Kidding
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Just Kidding
There are times when joking with friends the words can roll off the tongue without thinking. It may be that you say something you didn’t mean to say or you say it in a way that sounds mean. Often we … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Forgiveness, Keeping It Real
Tagged Apologize, Hurting Your Spouse, Just Kidding, Proverbs
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What’s Your Marriage Forecast?
Weather. We depend on it for so much of our activities. Will we do this or that? It all depends on the weather. No one wants to eat outside when it’s too cold or too hot. Nor do we plan … Continue reading
Why Not Now?
I’ve been thinking how challenging communicating about hard things can be in marriage. – Maybe you don’t agree on your budget limitations. – Maybe you are hurt over something your spouse said, but you’re afraid to tell them. – Maybe … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Keeping It Real
Tagged #tripwithlifelongfriends2024, fighting for your marriage, hard conversations, Leaning In, prayer for my marriage, pulling away, Why not now
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5 Words
We need to say these 5 words probably more often than we do. It’s a sure way to end an argument and the best way to restore intimacy. These 5 words have the ability to reset your marriage. It can … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged 5 Words, Forgiveness, powerful words
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How to build a FIT Marriage in 3 Easy Steps
It’s January and everyone is focused on losing weight, being active, embracing abandoned disciplines. Due to parties and family gatherings we may have neglected our normal routines. It’s time to pull in the reins and begin anew. Maybe your marriage … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged 3 Easy Steps for a Healthy Marriage, Fit Marriage, Marriage Goals 2023
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Vintage Post: Assumptions and Disregard
This is a series originally posted in November 2016. We share it as a Vintage post because it’s worth remembering. The last two practices you may or may not realize you’re doing. This is why we want to shine the … Continue reading
Posted in communication, Conflict, Vintage Posts
Tagged Assumptions, Disregard, Marriage help, Vintage Post
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Vintage Post: Critical Judgments
Originally posted in November 2016 You begin to share with your spouse about something that is really bothering you. Right as you are pouring your heart out to them, they ask a question about something else, revealing that they haven’t … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Growing Strong Marriages, Vintage Posts
Tagged Charitable Judgments, Critical Judgments, Grace-Filled Marriage, Ken Sande, Peacemakers, Tim Kimmel
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