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Category Archives: communication
Men On Pause
Years ago our pastor jokingly referred to menopause as “Men On Pause.” I thought he was kidding at the very best, or I hoped he was exaggerating at the very least. Turns out he was quite right. <sigh> Based on … Continue reading
When Your Sex Drive Putters Out
Last week I pulled back the curtain, and I’m compelled to do the same with this post, but it is a lot more personal. However, I can’t shake the importance of this topic, so here goes… A few months ago … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Seasons of Life, Sexual Intimacy, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Christian, Cold-shoulder, God, Health, Lack of Sexual Desire, low libido, marriage, PMS, post-menopause, relationship, Sexual intimacy, Silent Treatment
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Happy Hour
Hard to believe it’s time for our Specials of the Week already. And this week we’re sharing several posts because we just couldn’t choose one blog to highlight. Take some time this weekend reading, gleaning and enjoying your marriage! Intimacy … Continue reading
Posted in Blog Love, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Date Night Ideas, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages, Happy Hour, Intimacy, Sexual Intimacy, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Advice, Christian, God, Intimate relationship, Lord, marriage, Relationships, Sexless marriage
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Confronting Confrontation
Such a harsh word, don’t you think? Con.fron.ta.tion. It sounds like it wants to pick a fight! And oftentimes it does in many marriages. But.what.if.we.were.to.think.differently? What if the next time our spouse mentions something in which they believe we need … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages, The Gospel & Marriage, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Biblical Confrontation, Confrontation, God, marriage, Marriage vows, Relationships
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25+ Ways To Bless Your Spouse When You’re Expecting
There is nothing that changes the dynamic of your marriage so quickly as hearing these two words: We’re pregnant! Within days the morning sickness (or all day sickness, in some cases) kicks in and the wife is taken out of her … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Diapers, Toddlers & Romance, Oh My, Encouraging Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages, Husbands, Newlyweds, Parenting, Priorities, Roles In Marriage, Seasons of Life, Showing Honor, The Gospel & Marriage, Wives
Tagged Christ, Fruit of the Holy Spirit, God, Holy Spirit, Lord, marriage, Marriage and Pregnancy, Pregnancy, We're Expecting, Wife
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Beware Of These 6 Little Foxes
Marriage is a privilege, a gift from God that allows us to reflect the love Christ has for the church. In our culture oftentimes the most important part of getting married is the wedding itself! Imagine if a vineyard owner … Continue reading
Honoring Your Spouse On Facebook
One of the things I love about Facebook is seeing how spouse’s honor one another by speaking highly of them in daily status updates. I thought it would be encouraging to all of us to read the ones I’ve found … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Growing Strong Marriages, Showing Honor
Tagged Facebook, God, Husband, Lord, marriage, relationship, Status Updates, Wife
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If Only My Spouse Would ______________!
If only my spouse would ______________! How you fill in the blank determines if you feed your spouse’s inner critic or inner encourager. Imagine these inner voices living on each shoulder whispering thoughts into your spouse’s ear. It’s our job … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Encouraging Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages, Roles In Marriage, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Bible, Christianity, English Standard Version, God, Hebrews 3:13, Inner Critic, Inner Encourager, Jesus, Lord, Prayer, Religion and Spirituality
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Recharging Your Date Nights
We all know what it’s like to have our cell phone, camera or tablet die on us right when we need it most. This can happen to our date nights too if we’re not careful. Imagine life has gotten too … Continue reading
Are You A Weed-Puller Or A Weed-Ignorer?
I’m sitting at my computer and I can hardly move. Why? Because I spent and hour and a half weeding my garden this morning before it got too hot. Every time I weed I wonder why it is that I … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Priorities, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Conflict in Marriage, Garden, God, Lord, marriage, Resolving Conflicts, Rose, Thought, Weed, Weed control
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What If My Marriage Has Disappointed me?
This post continues the conversation that began with our post You Could Be Dissing Your Marriage And Not Know It. I’ve been thinking a lot about disappointments and how detrimental they can be to a marriage. If you have a … Continue reading
You Could Be Dissing Your Marriage And Not Know It
To diss someone is to: —v.t. 1. to show disrespect for; affront. 2. to disparage; belittle. As you can see to dis your spouse is not the way God intends for husbands and wives to relate. We are to show high regard and honor for … Continue reading
50 Daily Kindnesses
Pour their coffee in the morning and take it to them before they get out of bed. Write an encouraging Bible verse on the shower wall. Pray specifically for your spouse’s day and write a note telling them you … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Growing Strong Marriages, Romance, Romance in Marriage, romancing your husband, romancing your spouse, romancing your wife, Thankfulness
Tagged Be Kind One To Another, Bible, Chapters and verses of the Bible, Christianity, Kindnesses, Outdo one another, relationship, Snuggle
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The Long Tomorrow
We have good friends who are busy planning a huge celebration for their parent’s 65th wedding anniversary. Can you imagine? 65 years together, walking through all kinds of changes. They were married in 1948. Most likely before any of us … Continue reading
The Advantage of Vantage Points
Vantage Point is the name of a movie that came out in 2008. In it, the attempted assassination of an American President is shown over and over from different vantage points. It showed how each person saw the same thing, … Continue reading
What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do
Now that’s a title! And it’s one most of us face at one time or another in our marriage. There are times when we don’t have a clue what is best for us in certain situations. Maybe your spouse feels … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Leadership, Roles In Marriage, Submission, The Gospel & Marriage, Wives
Tagged God, Husband, Jesus, John Piper, Lord's Prayer, marriage, On Earth As It Is in Heaven, Prayer, What to do when you don't know what to do
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What It Means To Be A Helper To Your Husband
I was talking with some ladies a while ago when the conversation led to our role as our husband’s helper. It was a good discussion with friends who have strong marriages that have lasted decades. There were some who shared … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Roles In Marriage, Submission, The Gospel & Marriage, Wives
Tagged Christ, Christian, conversation, Elyse Fitzpatrick, God, Helper by Design, Husband, Lord, marriage, relationship, Submission in Marriage
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15+ Tips For Great Communication In Marriage
We had a reader ask us if we would post some tips on how to have healthy communication in your marriage. What a lofty goal to put such wise advice into our daily Healthy Marriage Tips. So we’ve decided it … Continue reading