I Choose Us

This post was originally published on August 22, 2012:

It was one of those date nights where you think it’s normal and predictable, but I was soon to learn otherwise. Tom and I had decided to watch a movie at home, something we rarely do on date nights because of the lack of conversation. But this movie sounded like it would be worth it.

The Family Man was the movie starring Nicolas Cage and Tia Leoni.

The story tells of man who had a woulda coulda shoulda moment and the lesson he learned in the process. I won’t spoil the story for you if you haven’t seen it and would like to. But there was one line “Kate” said that affected me deeply.

You see, at the time, Tom and I had lived in our home for nearly a decade. Our three children were in their teens and our house seemed much smaller than it did when we first bought it.

Tom was considering a move.

I was hoping for an addition.

Painting of our home – a gift from Tom’s Dad.

We live in a neighborhood surrounded by long-time friends, many of whom go to the same church we do. We do life together, and our memories are precious. I am the sentimental one in our marriage. I tend to cling tightly to people I love and the memories I hold dear. This is not necessarily a good thing. God is teaching me along with Tom’s help the importance of holding all things loosely and leaving God to decided what He will give and what He will take away. It isn’t easy, but peace always follows when I am willing to surrender to His will for my life.

Oh my, that was a rabbit trail. Sorry. I pray it was for someone who needed to be encouraged by my current challenge. Anyway, back to the movie. I was trying to follow Tom’s lead in the decision, but I was afraid he would choose for us to move. It was an emotionally charged season for me, for us.

I have heard it said that the reason movies or books resonate with us and maybe not others is because of the touchstones in the story. We all have them. Something is said or shown that triggers a special memory from your own life and suddenly you’re drawn into the story as if you were the main character. It’s happened to me countless times, this being one of them.

Kate, the female lead in the story was struggling to follow her husband’s lead in a decision as to where they would live. (See the touchstone? I was riveted!) Below is what she said:

You know, I think about the decision you made. Maybe I was being naive, but I believed that we would grow old together in this house, that we’d spend holidays here and have our grandchildren come visit us here. I had this image of us all gray and wrinkly, and me working in the garden, and you repainting the deck. But things change. If you need this, Jack, if you really need this, I will take these kids from a life they love, and I’ll take myself from the only home we’ve ever shared together and I’ll move wherever you need to go. I’ll do that because I love you. I love you, and that’s more important to me than our address. I choose us.

This link will allow you to see the scene from the movie–it’s a powerful demonstration of what marriage is meant to be, and we encourage you to take a moment to watch it.

I’m crying again just remembering it all. God spoke to me in that moment saying I could follow Tom anywhere because this was more important than my hopes and dreams for the future. I chose us!

And Tom was affected in a similar way. He ended up choosing for us to stay here in our home adding on some much needed space. This is the place where I can work in the garden and he can pressure wash our back deck and where we are welcoming our kids and grandkids into our home as often as they wish to come. <3

There is one special place in our family room that I insisted be built for the grandchildren we didn’t yet have. It is a padded window seat surrounded by fluffy pillows and all my favorite childhood books. I knew one day, if God so allowed, we would have grandchildren who would love this little spot in our cozy home.

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Now 9 years later, we have 5 grandchildren, and my dream has come true. They love their little corner built for them years before their parents were even married. Isn’t God good the way He leads us to the plan He has for us? Had we moved, I know God would have given me lots of memories in our new place. But I am grateful for the twenty years we’ve called this house our home. And today, TODAY, my newest granddaughter, Stella Grace will come to our house for the first time in her two months of life. This Nana is very excited to show her my window seat. :-)

What memories do you have of your home? Have you ever been affected by the touchstones in a movie or book as well? How did it help you or encourage you?

Update as of August 22, 2014: This post was published 2 years ago almost to the day, and we have added two more grandchildren to the mix: Vito and Brielle. In addition, our son has moved with his family to Tennessee. The touchstones in this post are ironic–and God knew I needed this reminder as my life doesn’t look anything like I had expected it would. But God knew, and He is good.

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The Verbs Of Your Marriage

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I love words and how they have power to help us understand our marriage. Most of us don’t give much thought to the words we use and why. But we should. Words reveal. Words have power. Words linger in the air of your relationship long after they’ve been spoken. And they can cause more damage than we know, and more health than we realize.

It matters what we say and how we say it.

I remember when I was homeschooling our children we were using an English curriculum that required my kids to dissect sentences starting in 3rd grade. This was something I never had to do, and it fascinated me. It proved there was structure to something I had never given much thought to. Wow. I see now how foolish I was to never give thought to the words that came out of my mouth.

fool‘s mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul. Proverbs 18:7 ESV

Sentence structure may be boring to you, but taking a closer look at the words that come out of our mouth will help us discover if we’re being wise or foolish in our communication with our spouse. Most of you reading this post are familiar with the following verses:

For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.  James 3: 2 – 5 ESV

How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!

Can you imagine there being a fire in your home and you doing nothing to extinguish the flames? Worse, can you imagine if you were the one to start the fire in the first place? It would be scandalous, yet when we choose “fighting words” we are doing this very thing.

I recently read a post about the Verbs Of Your Life on a Pastor’s Heart blog, and it got me thinking…What verbs are active in your marriage right now.

Verbs are action words. They reveal what we’re currently doing. By making a list of our verbs it will help us see if we’re being positive or negative towards our spouse, our marriage, and ultimately our life.

Here is a short list of some verbs that could reveal hot spots in your marriage:

  • yells
  • ignores
  • disregards
  • embarrasses
  • humiliates
  • assaults
  • cringes

On the other hand your list may include verbs that reveal what you’re doing right:

  • gives
  • honors
  • respects
  • romances
  • loves
  • cherishes
  • serves

Our words matter.

Practical Application: We encourage you to plan a night where you and your spouse can take some time and discuss the verbs in your marriage right now. Be honest, for honesty is like an fire extinguisher on the hot spots of your marriage, that is IF you’re saying those words with love and tender-care. Being honest just to dump on your spouse is not loving, and it lacks care. It’s much easier to do as the song says and “say what you need to say,” without considering how you should say it. Here’s a quick tip: Share your heart with your spouse in the way you would want them to share with you.

“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12 ESV

 

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Today Is Special…Why?

Tom's last salute to the 50's -- sharing a glass of Bin 50 tonight on his birthday eve. :-)

Tom’s last salute to the 50’s — sharing a glass of Bin 50 tonight on his birthday eve. :-)

Today is Tom’s 60th Birthday, and I have some special things planned. Two weeks ago I surprised him by having a small gathering of friends and family–some from out of town that he had no idea were in town. I love surprising him because he never expects it. Which is another thing I love about him. His humility is always front and center.

I can’t tell you what I did for him…yet. Because as you read this we’ll be in the middle of doing it.

But.I.will.tell.you.

For now, I would love it if you would take a minute and wish him a Happy Birthday in our comment section. As you know, 60 is a huge milestone, and I’m grateful for the years and memories God has given us. And I’m grateful for all of you who make our heart for marriage a tangible ministry.

60 years. Where will you be when you turn 60. Know that the choices you make today will determine the answer to that question. Something we should always consider.

 

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4 Encouragements For The Discouraged Marriage

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Marriages can go through all sorts of ups and downs as the years pass. This is expected to some degree, for it’s shared in most wedding vows: for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. Knowing this helps, but when your marriage is going through a down time, it’s hard to find needed encouragement. If you’re not on guard you can find yourself looking for greener pastures.

This is why we want to provide 4 encouragements to those who are discouraged in their marriage. You probably know all these, but if you’re the one who is discouraged you most likely need a reminder.

Encouragement #1 – Hebrews 13 says, Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.  Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Contentment is often associated with the pleasant place, but here God is calling us to be content because He has promised He will never leave us or forsake us. He will walk with us through the discouraging times helping us see the big picture, the eternal perspective of life. So if you are looking down, take some time to worship God for this truth. Put on your favorite worship CD. If you don’t have one may we recommend Matt Redman’s 10,000 Reasons album. One of our favorites is Never Once.

Encouragement #2 – Philippians 4:6-7 says, “…do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Oftentimes when we’re discouraged we allow our emotions to dictate and inform our thoughts, when that is the worst thing to do. Our emotions are not to be trusted, especially when we are being led into a downward spiral. How do we stop this runaway train? By crying out to God in desperate prayer. Let Him hear your heart. Let Him hear your fears. Let Him carry your unbelief, and He will listen. He loves it when, in our weakness we seek His strength, for this gives Him the glory He deserves. God has promised that He will give us peace when we do. If you have prayed and still lack peace–pray more. Pray until you feel the burden lift. The peace isn’t dependent on our circumstances changing. It comes when we learn to trust God in this place of uncertainty. He is our strong tower, and He longs for us to run to Him. David knew how to do this well. Read Psalm 4 for an example.

Encouragement #3 – Proverbs 24 says, “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might, for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.” Seek help. There are times in all marriages where you simply can’t dig yourself out of the hole in which you find yourself. In times like these we must humble ourselves and seek the help of others. You’ve heard the saying, you can’t see the forest for the trees, well in marriage maybe you can’t see the answer because the problem looms too large in front of you? If your spouse won’t go with you for help, then we encourage you to go yourself. Change begins in your own heart, for it’s the only one over which you have control.

Encouragement #4 – Psalm 9 says, I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.”  Take some time and recall all that the Lord has done for you in the past. Let this produce thanksgiving to God for what He was able to do then, and let this inform your future that God is good. Start a journal where you both list the things you can remember and if you cant remember ask God to help you. He will. What a testimony this journal will be not only to you in the years ahead, but also to those who are coming up behind you. It will stand and proclaim what God has done when death has already parted you in this life.

What other ways can you think of to encourage those who are discouraged in their marriage? Won’t you take a minute to share your thoughts for their benefit in the comments?

 

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The Safety Net Of Romance

Photo Credit: Flickr, Shanta Somasundaram

Photo Credit: Flickr, Shanta Somasundaram

I have the privilege of writing monthly for Dustin Reichman’s blog, Engaged Marriage, on the topic of romance in marriage. This month’s post talks about how romance acts like a safety net when facing difficult times….

Cultivating romance into your marriage on a regular basis helps you stay connected heart-to-heart when you don’t see eye-to-eye.

Every marriage goes through seasons of conflict, and it’s usually quite intense when it happens. Things can be going along really well and your spouse says something that doesn’t sit right in your mind.

So, you ask a question that leads to more tension because either the question isn’t heard clearly or it isn’t understood.

So, the answer isn’t at all what you wanted to hear, which leads to more tension and more conflict. It’s a downward spiral that’s hard to correct once it begins.

Smart couples choose to go to their separate corners when tensions mount in order to think and pray before continuing the conversation.

This is a good idea, especially if you’re prone to fits of anger. Giving yourself time and distance allows the Lord to help you think with wisdom, instead of reacting with foolishness.

What does this have to do with romance?

Everything!

A couple who never takes the time to romance each other when things are going well, are going to have a harder time believing the best about their spouse when things are hard.

Romance acts like a safety net when you’re balancing on the high wire of conflict.

You know it’s a dangerous place to be, but the romance you’ve enjoyed together insures that you’ll make it through safely and together.

Romance gives you a tangible reminder of why the relationship is worth fighting for. It helps you remember the good times when the bad times are screaming at you. Continue reading…

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We Have A Winner!

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We just drew a number using Random.org, and our winner is…

Megan Spencer

Megan, Congratulations on winning a free copy of 52 Uncommon Dates. Please e-mail us your mailing address, and we’ll get your prize in the mail to you right away.

We’ve been busy this week with a house full of our kids and grandkids, and it has been a blast. We hope to start posting again soon. Thanks so much for understanding.

 

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52 Uncommon Dates – An Interview And A Giveaway

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We were recently asked to review a new book available on Amazon titled, 52 Uncommon Dates, A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing And Staying Together, by Randy Southern. And we are so glad we were asked. This book is excellent. It offers 52 creative dates that will work for any couple on any budget. And the thoughtfulness going into each date is extensive. There is The Music Date, The Water Date, The Arcade Date and The Cemetery Date to name a few. Yeah, you read that right, and we’re not going to explain that one. You’ll have to get the book and discover what it’s about for yourself. But let me say, I love it! (Click on the image above to purchase your own copy, or see NOTE below).

With each date Randy provides a Scripture verse, a quote by Gary Chapman (author of The Five Love Languages), how to set the scene, make it happen, and finish strong. He ends each chapter connecting the date to one of the 5 love languages. It’s a great resource for any couple who wants to grow in the area of romance through regular dates.

(NOTE: At the end of this post we are sharing how you can win a copy of 52 Uncommon Dates for yourself. So don’t miss it!)

We had the privilege to interview Mr. Southern and this is what he had to say:

1.  How long have you been married?

I have a two-part answer. I married Ann Sorensen on May 11, 1991. She died of breast cancer on October 28, 2005. I married Holly Halvorson on July 31, 2010, and we’re still going strong. So my answer is 14 years and 4 years.

2.  How did you come to see the importance of continuing to date your wife?

As a writer, I’m driven by the notion that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing creatively. That goes especially for building a relationship. Why settle for the same old date-night routine when there are so many options available?

I’m convinced that mystery and surprise are two of the most useful tools on the marital workbench. I’ve found that using them judiciously when planning time with my wife heightens our experience together. I want my wife to be able to depend on me in every situation, but I don’t necessarily want her to be able to predict what I’m going to do next.

3. What are some of your favorite dates in the book?

There’s a reason The-First-Time-for-Everything Date leads off the book. I like the idea of spending an entire evening trying things you’ve never tried before. Good things happen – spiritually and relationally – when we step outside our comfort zones.

I also have a soft spot in my heart for The Photography Date. Not only does it open the door to all kinds of creative interaction, it also gives the couple souvenirs of their time together.

4. What’s the craziest or most meaningful date you and your wife have been on?

Unless going to see people like Elvis Costello, Bob Dylan or John Prine in concert qualifies as “crazy,” I’m afraid most of my dates with Holly have been decidedly sane. But I can address the question of our most meaningful date. First, though, a little background.

Holly and I met and became friends at Taylor University in the late 1980s. After graduation, we went our separate ways and lost contact … until the advent of Facebook. In the interval, I moved from Indiana to the Chicago suburbs; got married; started a family; lost my wife to breast cancer when our kids were 7, 5 and 4; learned how to be a single parent; and did freelance writing when my parenting duties allowed it.

Holly moved a few times; went to grad school; dated someone for 15 years, but never got married; pursued a career – first as a school psychologist and then as a children’s librarian; and built a successful life for herself.

After our Facebook reunion, we started dating long-distance. That turned into an engagement, which necessitated a move from the Chicago burbs back to Indiana. We got married in 2010.

Last year, Holly and I took the kids back to Taylor University, the place where we met. The five of us explored the campus while Holly and I told our college stories. Even though the kids were present, I consider that a date because there was a definite romantic vibe to the day. I consider it especially meaningful because it gave a certain context to our relationship, remembering how we came to know one another. It also gave the kids a sense of our history and strengthened us as a family.

5. You’ve incorporated Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages in your book. Can you tell us if there are date ideas for all five love languages included in your 52 dates?

I can tell you the book was specially designed to incorporate all five love languages. Each love language is represented by at least ten different date ideas.

6. Finally, what would you say to a couple who have small children and are overwhelmed with the thought of adding one more thing, like regular date nights, to their calendar?

First, I would tell them that their feelings are valid, because parenting small children is an overwhelming task.

Second, I would ask them to think in terms of investment. In today’s economy, budgets – especially those of young couples – are stretched tight. Such a couple could be forgiven for looking at their monthly financial outlay and deciding that they have nothing left over to invest.

Financial planners, though, would call that a shortsighted approach – not to mention a missed opportunity. They would urge the couple to free up some money in their budget to invest – even if it’s just a small amount at first, and even if it means sacrificing in another area. The long-term benefits of investing something every week are just too important to ignore.

The same goes for dating. Like our budgets, our calendars (and energies) are stretched tight. We may have trouble finding the time (and effort) to plan regular date nights. But that, too, is a shortsighted approach. We need to think in terms of investing in our relationship. A little time set aside every week for romance and fun will pay serious dividends later.

I love his idea of “investing in the long-term benefits of the marriage”. How often we get short-sighted and miss what’s of most importance in cultivating a healthy marriage.

If you would like a chance to win a free copy of this excellent book, simply comment on this post with the number of years you’ve been married and whether or not you are currently “investing” in your marriage with regular date nights. We’ll select a winner on Friday, August 8th. Good luck!

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We’re Home And We Carry With Us A Lasting Metaphor

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We hope you enjoyed our photos from our trip to California. I took a total of 1480 pictures over fourteen days–yeah, I’m grateful for digital cameras, but not nearly as much as Tom is. ;-)  We would have never been able to do that if we were still taking pictures on film. Times have changed, and it’s good.

We had a great time away, but we’re glad to be home.

We always ask ourselves when we get home what were the highlights–you know the things you’ll remember years from now without having to look at the photos taken. I know one thing I’ll never forget, for it was so out of the ordinary that it took my breath away. I felt like Alice in Wonderland saying, “this is curiouser and curiouser.”

You see, we had just finished tasting the wines of Phillips Hill Winery and hearing the story of the hundred year old apple and pear orchard that used to don the hills around it. Next to the parking lot was one of the old apple trees that should have been dead, but it wasn’t. It had completely lost the interior of it’s trunk, yet this tree continued to bear fruit and lots of it!IMG_2596

How was this possible? I have no idea. The only explanation I could come up with is that the roots are strong enough to support the frail trunk–amazing.

What an excellent metaphor for marriage.

We know that we are all growing older. And the older we get the less romantic it sounds to “come grow old with me…” So what we do to cultivate our relationship today, matters for how much fruit we’ll be able to bear in the years to come. Thankfully, this isn’t dependent on our abilities alone; God has promised to be the third strand in the husband and wife relationship, and a three-corded strand is not easily broken. What good news! Even though our outer man is wasting away, our inner man is being renewed day by day. We have hope that every year that passes can be better than the ones that have gone before.

I think if we could interview this tree, it would have stories of better days gone by. A time when it was surrounded by other trees just like it, but now it is one of only a few trees left. Yet this hasn’t kept it from doing what it knows to do–bear fruit.

I pray that the fruit produced from our marriages will continue for as long as we both shall live. It is our testimony that there is STILL LIFE in our marriage until we take our last breath.

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Still Life

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Ft. Bragg and Glass Rock Beach

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Miniature Train Exhibit – they take their hobby quite seriously here. Amazing!

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I couldn’t resist this shot–doesn’t it look like a male and female mop couple? Made me laugh.

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We happened on Ft. Bragg’s Farmer’s Market held every Wed. from 3p – 6p. How we wish we could have taken lots of these home–photos will have to do.

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At first I thought this little guy had impaled himself on the barbed wire, until he turned his head.

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Looks like we’re not the only crazy ones to look for fragments of smooth glass on Glass Rock Beach.

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Found this jelly-type fish called a Velella, which means By-The-Wind-Sailor, scattered all over the beach.

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Searching for these glass rocks is addicting. Yeah, I pocketed quite a few. :-)

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Tom and Danny found other things to do while we dug in the sand.

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A Dream Come True – Mendocino, CA

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Love the old houses.

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The Mendocino Music Festival was taking place the last two weeks in July. This was our view from Flow Restaurant’s balcony.

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The Mendocino Cafe

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Amazing hydrangeas

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Water towers were a necessity at one time. Now they simply beg to be decorated and photographed.

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Another Day In The Vineyards (Alexander Valley)

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“Still Life” in this tree.

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Seasons

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This tree had no insides, yet continued to bear abundant fruit!

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We have never seen anything like this old apple tree…

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Phillips Hill Winery is situated on an old Apple and Pear Farm.

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Old Apple Drying Barn at Phillips Hill Winery–converted to be their new tasting room.

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Vintage fruit stand

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Aroma Exhibit provided several of these glass domes to sample the different aromas offered in wine varieties.

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Out door tasting room is right where all the apple drying process took place a hundred years ago. Notice the fruit bins in the background.

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Drying racks (now used to display wine) concealed behind these wooden doors.

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Apple coring table.

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Barn wood is believed to be over 800 years old.

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Beautiful picnic area under an enormous weeping willow.

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One of the many areas to enjoy the fruit of the vine.

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Magnificent Pacific Coast Highway

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Armstrong Redwood State Park

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Over 300′ tall.

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Hollowed out from fires over the years. This actually makes the tree stronger.

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Tom’s wingspan is 6′. Wow.

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The tallest redwood in the forest. 310′ and 1600 years old.

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These are the moments I’ll carry in my heart forever. <3

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Napa Valley and Hess Art Gallery

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Our Visit To The Culinary Institute Of America (CIA)

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My lunch: potato crusted sole with spinach and grilled onions :-)

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Compliments of the Chef. :-) Chocolate and Blackberries–two of my favorites!

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Part of the dining room–a working fireplace for cold nights.

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Our special table for four by the working kitchen.

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School in progress.

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Barn Swallows made nests in the top of the window.

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“Food is life. Create and savor yours!”

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Sonoma And Alexander Valley Vineyards

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Korbel Winery Tour

Our visit to Korbel Winery - Home of America's Champagne.

Our visit to Korbel Winery – Home of America’s Champagne.

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The location of Korbel used to be a Redwood Forest. In the center of this ring of trees is the parent tree that was cut down. The trees surrounding the stump are “baby trees”.

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French Oak barrels that used to store the fermenting juice. They can hold approx. 1600 gallons.

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Korbel was the wine of the Millenium and was used to toast in the year – 2000.

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My favorite photo of the day.

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A Day By The Sea

The Pacific Ocean

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Celebrating 75 Years of Marriage–GO!

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No, Tom and I haven’t been married 75 years. Heck, I’m only turning 55 next week! So why the title? Let me explain…starting today we’re going on a two-week vacation with dear friends. This is our 35th anniversary trip and this is their 40th anniversary trip. So you see, combined we’re celebrating 75 years of marriage. I tried convincing the guys that this qualifies for our diamond anniversaries, but they didn’t go for it. California’s Gold Coast will have to do. :-)

We plan to visit Napa and Sonoma Valley wineries, the Redwoods forests, San Francisco, the Pacific Coast Highway, and whatever suits our fancy. It’s going to be a relaxing, romantic and memorable trip.

I plan to post photos as we go, and they will have to do, for you see–I’m on vacation, and I have more important things to do than sit at my computer and write. So, if you want to follow us on our trip–click the follow button and enjoy.

As a treat we discovered the following video of a couple who are celebrating their Diamond Anniversary. They were married in 1939! Click the photo to watch their story…

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