Category Archives: Keeping It Real

Three Types of Transition in Marriage

Posted on March 19, 2019 by Debi Walter

Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading →

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Lessons Learned in 40 Years of Marriage – Part II

Posted on February 22, 2019 by Debi Walter

Has your spouse ever spoken words to you that had a sting to it? The kind that seemed out of character for them? Oftentimes our feelings override our reason and keep us from bringing the situation to a peaceful resolve. … Continue reading →

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Every Marriage Deals With It

Posted on February 9, 2019 by Debi Walter

How much do you think deeply about the things that matter most? One thing required to think deeply is choosing to slow down. Thoughts are like timid animals–you must be still in order for them to make themselves fully known. … Continue reading →

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2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

Posted on January 16, 2019 by Debi Walter

It happened last week. I didn’t see it coming, but God knew all along. Most of you know that Tom and I have a cabin in Banner Elk, NC. You may also know that I have had the privilege of … Continue reading →

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Is Your Marriage Like This?

Posted on October 17, 2018 by Debi Walter

It seems more and more couples are sharing with us the current lack of health in their marriage. We can see the pain and disappointment in their eyes. It grieves us because we know this is not how marriage is … Continue reading →

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “T”

Posted on October 15, 2018 by Debi Walter

We are a bit behind on our monthly date challenge, but that hasn’t deterred us from pressing on. Tom, who happens to be my favorite “T” planned a special afternoon TEA for me at a local TEA shop. I am … Continue reading →

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A Gift to Avoid Drift

Posted on August 30, 2018 by Debi Walter

For my birthday this year Tom has committed to work out with me at home. He went so far and quit his gym membership too, so I knew he was serious. I am excited for this new chapter in our … Continue reading →

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Wake Up Call

Posted on August 21, 2018 by Debi Walter

This has been a difficult week for our church family. A dear friend and long time member of our church had a massive heart attack last Tuesday morning. They were just enjoying normal life when this crisis hit them unexpectedly. … Continue reading →

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Here Comes The Judge

Posted on August 10, 2018 by Debi Walter

Our pastor preached on Romans 8 this past Sunday. It was a good reminder of the freedom we have in Christ, and an encouragement to no longer live in condemnation. He said something at the end though, that made me … Continue reading →

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Happy Hour

Posted on May 4, 2018 by Debi Walter

Ask Pastor John Is Oral Sex Okay? – John Piper answers this common question for married couples wanting to know. Gary Thomas The Ebb and Flow Of Physical Attraction in Marriage – a good reminder. Intimacy In Marriage Sex Isn’t … Continue reading →

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Vintage Post – The De-Masking Of Prince Charming

Posted on April 20, 2018 by Debi Walter

(Originally posted on June 27, 2012) Each of us on a specific day of a specific year stood before others and exchanged our marriage vows. Most likely we were full of great anticipation of this being our fairy tale come … Continue reading →

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Vintage Post – Grace Given Brings Peace

Posted on April 6, 2018 by Debi Walter

(Originally posted on April, 21, 2010) It is late. It has been one of those nights where I am filled with emotions I don’t understand, much less expect my husband to understand.   Yet I try.  I strive to communicate honestly, … Continue reading →

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Happy Hour

Posted on March 2, 2018 by Debi Walter

It’s time to share some of our favorite reads from the past week. Enjoy… Christian Communicators Worldwide 35 Questions for Maturing a Christian Marriage – I happened upon this website with these excellent questions, and each one could lead to … Continue reading →

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2018 Date Night Challenge – “F” Date

Posted on February 23, 2018 by Debi Walter

I had so many grand ideas for this date, but FAIL was not one of them. Once again, I’m sharing our FAILS with you, so you can realize that date nights have to be FLEXIBLE. But I must admit this … Continue reading →

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2018 Date Night Challenge – “D” Date

Posted on February 6, 2018 by Tom Walter

Tom here. It was my turn to plan our next date, the letter “D” Date, and I had come up with a great idea. What I didn’t plan for was the place to be closed for a private event. NO! … Continue reading →

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Marriage Is Our Passion

Posted on January 17, 2018 by Debi Walter

From the day we were married, Tom said that we would spend our lives helping marriages thrive, and he has never wavered from this conviction. We have hosted countless small groups in our home for the sole purpose of building … Continue reading →

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Happy False Labor Day NOT!

Posted on September 4, 2017 by Debi Walter

It was February of 1984. I was 24, Tom was 29. We were expecting our second baby any day. I was 10 days past my due date, when the familiar labor pains began. I was ready to meet my baby. … Continue reading →

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Keeping It Real–Worth The Effort

Posted on June 28, 2017 by Debi Walter

If you haven’t figured it out by now, I love parties. I love holidays. I love surprises. I love celebrations. Since Tom has retired it makes it very difficult to surprise him. He is almost always home when I’m home. … Continue reading →

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5 Marriage Blogger Husband’s Answer This Question…

Posted on June 21, 2017 by Debi Walter

Why is Sex Important? Part One Listen in on this podcast as my husband, Tom, and the following men discuss this vital aspect of Sex in a healthy Marriage: Paul Byerly, The Generous Husband and The XY Code Scott Means, Heaven … Continue reading →

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Keeping It Real This New Year…

Posted on January 3, 2017 by Debi Walter

I want to post something because it’s been awhile since I have. But my reserves are low and my motivation even more so. We have been caught in the middle of many situations requiring our constant attention. It has divided … Continue reading →

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