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Category Archives: Conflict
The Safety Net Of Romance
I have the privilege of writing monthly for Dustin Reichman’s blog, Engaged Marriage, on the topic of romance in marriage. This month’s post talks about how romance acts like a safety net when facing difficult times…. Cultivating romance into your … Continue reading
The Guilt Caused By Marriage Blogs
When Tom and I first started The Romantic Vineyard there weren’t many marriage blogs focusing on the positives of married life–romancing your spouse, date night ideas, honoring and respecting your spouse. Most were focused on the struggles marriages encounter and … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Growing Strong Marriages, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Biblical Truth, Guilt, marriage
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4 Ways We Should Never Settle In Marriage
There are times when settling is a good thing, like when you find a place to call home, or when you’re finally able to settle a long-standing argument. Settling on a purchase price of something means both parties are … Continue reading
Using Our Internal Alarm System For The Good Of Our Marriage
I had just walked out of Lowes Home Improvement store and wasn’t paying much attention to the car sitting idle outside the door. I stepped in front of it heading towards my car when the driver put the car in gear. … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Hot Topics In Marriage, Internal Alarm System, marriage
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When Jealousy Whispers–Flee!
Do you or your spouse struggle with jealousy? Is it towards your spouse or is it towards others who have more than you or something you want, but don’t have? Jealousy is a destroyer of marriage. It is an impostor. … Continue reading
When Love Requires More Than You Can Give-The Captain and Tennille Story
I grew up listening and singing along with the Captain and Tennille. Their music had a way of sticking in my head even when I didn’t want it too–“I will, I will, I will…” See? On January 16, 2014, after … Continue reading
When You’re Not Living Your Happily Ever After
Face it. Most of us married with rose-colored glasses on. We expected our love would carry us through whatever storms life sent our way. But.life.is.hard. Tom and I married when I was only 19 and he was 24. I moved … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Parenting, Seasons of Life, The Gospel & Marriage, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Natalie Grant, No Happily Ever After, Troubled Marriage, When I Leave The Room
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It Matters
How well do you watch your words when you’re around your children, your friends? Do they hear you talk down to your spouse? Do they hear you react to a request or question? If so, you’re like the majority of … Continue reading
Do You Differ or Defer?
It’s amazing to me how often the Lord will get my attention by defining two words. One is usually what I should be doing, and the other is what I tend to do left to myself. Case in point: Differ … Continue reading
Manipulating Motives
Our pastor often asks the question, “Why do you do the things you do, and who do you do them for?” It’s a great question to help discover what motivates you in the mundane of everyday life. But have you ever … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict
Tagged Advice, CCEF, Ed Welch, Forgiveness, Human, Love, Manipulating motives, marriage, Question, Relationships, Who Cares About Motives
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Two Words That Change Everything
I’m reading through the One Year Bible this year, and the last book I read was Job. Now I’m about half way through Ecclesiastes, and what a contrast! The first book contains the story of a man who seemingly did … Continue reading
Turning A Deaf Ear Isn’t Love
I heard it again this morning. I was lamenting the fact to Tom that I’ve gained 10 pounds, and I’m having a hard time losing them. <sigh> His wise counsel to me was something I’ve heard over and over–you need … Continue reading
My Spouse Has Little Or No Desire For Sex
In our culture, with all the emphasis on sex, you wouldn’t think this is as big of an issue as it actually is. Yet no one wants to talk about it. Except, of course, for the spouse who is having … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Blog Love, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Newlyweds, Seasons of Life, Sexual Intimacy, Troubled Marriage
Tagged God, High sex drive, Intimate relationship, Low sex drive, marriage, Sex problems in marriage, Sexual intimacy, Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
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Men On Pause
Years ago our pastor jokingly referred to menopause as “Men On Pause.” I thought he was kidding at the very best, or I hoped he was exaggerating at the very least. Turns out he was quite right. <sigh> Based on … Continue reading
What To Do When You’re Not In The Mood
Everyone at some point or another in marriage will face times where you just don’t feel like making love. But what happens when this happens and your spouse really, really wants to? There are several options. But first it’s important … Continue reading
When Your Sex Drive Putters Out
Last week I pulled back the curtain, and I’m compelled to do the same with this post, but it is a lot more personal. However, I can’t shake the importance of this topic, so here goes… A few months ago … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Seasons of Life, Sexual Intimacy, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Christian, Cold-shoulder, God, Health, Lack of Sexual Desire, low libido, marriage, PMS, post-menopause, relationship, Sexual intimacy, Silent Treatment
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Happy Hour
Hard to believe it’s time for our Specials of the Week already. And this week we’re sharing several posts because we just couldn’t choose one blog to highlight. Take some time this weekend reading, gleaning and enjoying your marriage! Intimacy … Continue reading
Posted in Blog Love, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Date Night Ideas, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages, Happy Hour, Intimacy, Sexual Intimacy, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Advice, Christian, God, Intimate relationship, Lord, marriage, Relationships, Sexless marriage
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Confronting Confrontation
Such a harsh word, don’t you think? Con.fron.ta.tion. It sounds like it wants to pick a fight! And oftentimes it does in many marriages. But.what.if.we.were.to.think.differently? What if the next time our spouse mentions something in which they believe we need … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Forgiveness, Growing Strong Marriages, The Gospel & Marriage, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Biblical Confrontation, Confrontation, God, marriage, Marriage vows, Relationships
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Beware Of These 6 Little Foxes
Marriage is a privilege, a gift from God that allows us to reflect the love Christ has for the church. In our culture oftentimes the most important part of getting married is the wedding itself! Imagine if a vineyard owner … Continue reading
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