Water Into Wine – Proverbs 8

Posted on June 23, 2011 by Tom and Debi

If you  haven’t had a chance to read this week’s chapter – we’ve provided the following video for your convenience.  It’s good to hear the Word of God read because the Bible promises that “faith comes by hearing the Word of God.”

This chapter continues its focus on seeking and obtaining wisdom.  Those who find wisdom have understanding; they have discretion; they are prudent.  But most of all they find life and riches.

If wisdom is so attractive and valuable, why is it we don’t pursue it more diligently?  Why is it we choose to drift along rather than go after her as if looking for a rich treasure?  There are as many reasons why we don’t as there are reasons as to why we should.

10 Take my instruction instead of silver,
and knowledge rather than choice gold,
11 for wisdom is better than jewels,
and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.

17 I love those who love me,
and those who seek me diligently find me.
18 Riches and honor are with me,
enduring wealth and righteousness.
19 My fruit is better than gold, even fine gold,
and my yield than choice silver.
20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
in the paths of justice,
21 granting an inheritance to those who love me,
and filling their treasuries.

Most Americans are quite familiar with the Stock Market.  Even more so if you have invested in it by buying shares in a company you believe will succeed.  The Bible tells us we have a vested interest in obtaining wisdom.  God is guaranteeing us that if we invest in wisdom, we will obtain great riches.  How many would buy into a stock program if they were guaranteed to become rich as a result?  The answer is obvious.  The gates couldn’t hold back the number of people rushing to buy in.

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If the Bible so clearly tells us wisdom is by far better than riches and jewels, shouldn’t we take a close look at our lives and our marriages to see how much wisdom is there?  The easiest way to know is to evaluate our obedience to the Word we’ve already heard.

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Week after week Christians sit in church buildings all over the world and hear the Word of God preached, taught and exhorted.  Some even take notes to help them remember what they’ve heard.  But what happens on Monday?  Do we take to heart the message and seek to apply it to our lives?  Do we purpose to go after a godly marriage as defined by the Bible?

Read the final words of this chapter and notice how many words tell us what we need to do to apply wisdom to our lives:

32 “And now, O sons, listen to me:
blessed are those who keep my ways.
33 Hear instruction and be wise,
and do not neglect it.
34 Blessed is the one who listens to me,
watching daily at my gates,
waiting beside my doors.
35 For whoever finds me finds life
and obtains favor from the Lord.

It is possible to become wise, but it isn’t a get rich quick scheme.  It is paid to us as we daily seek it, watch and listen for it, then we will find it.  Little by little, day after day, year after year we will discover we aren’t the same as we used to be.  Wisdom replaces folly and the deposit pays out with rich dividends not only to us, but most importantly to those who are coming behind us.

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Romantic Orlando – The Melting Pot

Posted on June 22, 2011 by Debi Walter

Orlando has long been called “The Melting Pot,” because so many people come from other states and countries to live here, The City Beautiful.  There are very few natives, but proudly – I am one!  I was born here before Mickey Mouse crowded the landscape, and I love it always have and always will.

We haven’t been out for fondue in a long time. In fact, I can’t remember when the last time was.  But the restaurant most famous for great fondue is The Melting Pot.   Neither of us knew what to expect as we ventured into this dimly lit restaurant known for it’s romance, but we were excited.

The seating was cozy with high-backed booths, providing privacy and quiet.  The server knew we would be there all evening, so the experience was relaxed allowing for great conversation at a leisurely pace.

We ordered the Big Night Out, which is a pre fix price per couple.  The price varies depending on the type of meats you choose.

First, we selected the Swiss Cheese fondue to start.

It was a combination of white cheeses served with an assortment breads, apples and veggies for dipping.  Tom loves his food to be hot, so this style didn’t disappoint.  The stainless steel fondue pots were heated in the middle of the table on a built in hot plate – very convenient.

Next we were served a fresh salad – each.

We had our choice of any salad on the menu.  We chose the California which was delicious.  The crunchy walnuts with the raspberry vinaigrette and Gorgonzola cheese was amazing!

Third was our main entree’.

We choose the steak, shrimp and chicken served with a variety of dipping sauces like cocktail, bleu cheese, sweet ginger and a mustard curry.  All perfect matches for the freshly cooked meats.

Finally,the highlight of the evening and what The Melting Pot is most famous for was the dessert fondue.

We picked the traditional chocolate as well as the Bananas Foster, flambeed at your table.

We couldn’t believe how full we were after cooking, dipping and talking for 3 hours.  It was an amazing night we will remember for a long time.  And we shared it with another couple who are dear friends.  Not only is The Melting Pot a good place for date night, but perfect for a double date too.  We were able to experience more of the food and make some special memories.

If you are planning a visit to Orlando, there are two convenient locations:

1. The Melting Pot of Longwood (407) 862-8773
1200 Douglas Avenue, Longwood, FL 32779

2. The Melting Pot of Orlando  (407) 903-1100
7549 W. Sand Lake Road, Orlando, FL 32819-5019

Another option is to plan a romantic fondue at home.  It’s less expensive and even more intimate!

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Trigger Words of Grace is

Posted on June 21, 2011 by Debi Walter

Mark Twain said the difference between the right word and the almost right word is “the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.”

I suppose the reverse of this could be said as well – using the wrong words when you know it’s the wrong time to use them can be as destructive as a lightning bolt.  I know.  I witnessed first hand the effects of my words.  I call them trigger words!

Case in point:

We were driving down the road, and we got to talking about some issues weighing heavily on me causing me to feel sad.  In fact, I was confessing to Tom how I felt like crying.  He made a suggestion he thought would help, but instead of seeing his honest attempt to help me, I reacted.  I completely shut him down, and silence ensued.

I hate moments like these.  As soon as the words left my mouth the temperature in the car became icy cold.  I shivered and struggled, but certainly didn’t repent.  I dug my heels in wanting to stay in this place for a while.  Why?  I honestly don’t know.  It wasn’t comfortable – it was miserable!  But I stayed in this mood until I awoke the next morning.  Or should I say the Lord woke me and began prodding my conscience.

It worked.

At 5:15a I was up and dealing with my heart.  By 7a I had made Tom his coffee, taken it to our room and apologized for the pain and distance my words had caused.  He received my words this time for they were the “right words.” 

You’ve heard it said, Them’s Fightin Words!

Yet we are oftentimes quick to draw them out of our holster when needed.  We point and shoot with the expertise of a gunslinger.

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But why?

What is the point?

Who wins?  No one does – not in a marriage.  As partners for life we’re on the same team.  Shooting off fightin’ words only kills the life of our relationship.  So why do we do it?  Because it’s easier to let ’em fly, than it is to restrain ourselves from grabbing the gun in the first place.  It takes great restraint to say “no” to the sudden impulse of striking back.

It is helpful to remember what Christ has done for us.  He used great restraint allowing the Roman government to not only cast a guilty verdict on his guiltless life, but He allowed them to take it even farther – He let them crucify Him!  He had the power to call down lightning from Heaven and put a rightful end to this unrighteous death sentence.  But He didn’t.  Why?  He was compelled by love.  Love for His Father and love for us.

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Amazing.

Considering this Truth is what helped me walk into our room and surrender my sinful heart not only to Tom, but to Christ.  These are the two men who are most devoted to me and allow me to make huge messes with my fightin words, but welcome me back time and time again.  It was Christ’s love that compelled me to repent, and Tom’s love that accepted my repentance.

This is kindness.  This is mercy.  The trigger words of grace.

How have you used trigger words in your marriage?  Are they fightin’ words or are they the words of grace? 

“When words are many, transgression is not lacking,

but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.” – Proverbs 10:9

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Mark Your Calendar

Posted on June 20, 2011 by Debi Walter

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We hope you had a wonderful weekend celebrating the Dads in your life.  What a gift it is to have the influence of godly husbands and fathers.  In this day and age where men are belittled on every front, we must uphold the Biblical view of men and the role they play in our families and in God’s Kingdom.  It is a high calling indeed, and one requiring lots of encouragement as the storms of life rage.

So be sure to continue encouraging husbands and fathers day after day, as the Bible instructs.   Then make special plans together this week to celebrate with your man on a date!  We pray the ideas below will help…

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♥ FUN DATES TO CELEBRATE ♥

June 2oth

  • National Vanilla Milkshake Day – with two straws, of course!

June 21st

  • Summer Solstice – the longest day of the year!  Why not serve foot long hot dogs cooked on the grill.  Then go for a walk  to burn off the calories – since it will be lighter longer.

June 22nd

  • National Chocolate Eclair Day – a great choice for breakfast.
  • National Onion Rings Day

June 23rd

  • National Pink Day – wear your pink undies, ladies.  And maybe serve your man some strawberry ice cream.  A cool treat on a hot day is much appreciated.

June 24th

  • Museum Comes To Life Day – No, we’re not making these up.  I don’t think we would have ever thought of naming a day THIS.  But in honor of it you could watch, “Night at the Museum,” or wrap each other up like mummies.  🙂

June 25th

  • National Catfish Day – If you like to fish plan an evening to catch and fry this classic Friday favorite!  If you don’t – go to an all you can eat Catfish place.  There’s a good one in Apopka, FL, appropriately named: The Catfish Place.
  • Great American Backyard Campout – If you think the best part of camping is sleeping under the stars, and the worst part is the lack of modern conveniences, then the ideal place to set up your tent may be right in your own backyard. Imagine running to the kitchen when you need more marshmallows to roast. Or falling asleep to the sound of crickets chirping and the pleasant drone of your neighbors’ TV. And don’t even get us started on the bonus of having an actual bathroom nearby. So grab your sleeping bag and turn off the automatic sprinklers because tonight you’re sleeping on the lawn.

June 26th

  • Beautician’s Day – why not surprise your wife and send her out for a mani/pedi.  She’ll thank you and so will the beautician – after all it’s their day!
  • National Chocolate Pudding Day

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♥ Things To Do In Orlando ♥

CENTRAL

  • Maitland – Enzian Theatre is showing a new movie, The Tree of Life.  Check their site for dates and times.
  • College Park – Monday Night Jazz Jams at Taste Restaurant.  June 20th from 8p – midnight.
  • Winter Park Sip and Stroll – Thursday, June 23rd from 5p – 9:30p.  Cost is $25 in advance and $30 at the door.

EAST

WEST

  • Winter Garden’s Garden Theatre – Their Summer Movie series is in full-swing.  Tickets are $5, and you can click here to see their full summer schedule (after clicking you’ll have to scroll down the page to see the schedule).  A different movie shows each night from Thursday to Sunday.
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Happy Father’s Day

Posted on June 19, 2011 by Tom and Debi

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As a special treat to all the Dads out there, we want to direct your attention to an excellent article featured on the Counseling Solutions website.  It’s easy for life to overrun our lives and we forget our raisin.  Not sure what we’re talking about – click on over to their site to read this post.  You won’t regret it!

Take time to specifically thank the Dads in your life!

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Happy Hour

Posted on June 17, 2011 by Debi Walter

Family Life Today

  • Out In The Open – an excellent post about the importance of transparency in marriage.

GirlTalk

The Generous Husband

The Generous Wife

  • Good Books – Lori asks her readers to share their favorite books on marriage.  Quite a list of resources.
  • S-L-O-W-D-O-W-N – Advice every couple needs to hear and heed.

Marriage Gems

  • Possible Solutions for Low Libido –  a springboard off of another post offering practical solutions for a problem some couples may not want to address.  Do it anyway, for the sake of your marriage!

Marriage Life

Marriage Missions International

  • Accomplishing Tasks Together – Do you struggle in the area of household chores?  Do you help out, but with a chip on your shoulder?  We highly recommend this excellent post by guest authors, David and Janet Congo.  It may just change the way you do life together.
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A Fragrant Aroma – 33

Posted on June 17, 2011 by Debi Walter

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When you hear this number what comes to mind?

  • The age Jesus was when he completed His earthly mission?
  • The RPM’s of classic vinyl records?  Actually, 33 1/3, but it’s close.
  • A not-so-good pair in the game of poker?
  • What a husband of a wife who are pregnant with triplets sees – double vision! (We actually have dear friends who have been married only 18 months who are having triplets in October.  There was no in vitro  – a completely natural and unexpected miracle! And yes, the daddy is seeing double at this point or should I say – triple?)
  • The number of flavors Bresler’s Ice Cream Shops offers their customers.

All the above are true.  But today this number means something completely different to us;  Today marks the 33rd anniversary of our first date!  I was 18 and Tom was 23. You can read about it under Our Story.  Here is a picture of us while we were dating.  I know – we were so young!!

circa 1978

Here are 33 things we have learned in our 33 years together:

  1. We are compatible, but completely different.
  2. Tom loves to deep clean, I tend to make do.
  3. I am an optimist, Tom is a realist.  But a realist to an optimist sounds like a pessimist.  🙂
  4. We both agreed from day one that divorce would never be an option.  By God’s grace the idea has never come up.
  5. Honesty is required for intimacy to grow.
  6. Being in love is a decision, not a feeling.
  7. Difficult times, even when they’re caused by one or both partners, are some of the best times of growth together.
  8. Sin habits formed before marriage won’t go away once you’re married.
  9. It is possible to make an idol out of your relationship.  Guard the supremacy Christ rightfully holds in your marriage.  It is all for HIM.
  10. There should be no secrets – ever!  Unless it’s  a surprise to bless your spouse.
  11. Give away what you’ve so richly received.  Pour your life into other couples.
  12. Keep romance alive by planning regular date nights, whether in the home or going out together.
  13. Husbands should bear the responsibility of making sure date nights are a regular occurrence.
  14. Wives should also take initiative when it comes to romancing your husband.  This is a two way street.
  15. Each must give 100% to the marriage.  Meeting halfway will produce only half of the results desired.
  16. Your children are secondary to your relationship.  They will grow up and move away.  Your marriage will last a lifetime.
  17. Think of your spouse as more important than yourself.  If they are too tired to _________(you fill in the blank), give them the space needed.
  18. Pray daily for your spouse and what concerns them.  Tell them you’re praying for them.
  19. Find more ways to encourage, than to criticize.
  20. Go after the issues in your own heart that need to change.  As you do your spouse will benefit and maybe will do the same.  You can’t change your spouse, only your own heart.  Leave that to God.
  21. Study your spouse – know their likes, dislikes, needs and wants.
  22. Be the best friend you can be to your spouse.
  23. Never tell your friends something you haven’t told your spouse first.
  24. Never talk bad about your spouse to others whether in their presence or behind their backs.  Be mature and discuss what bothers you with them.
  25. Be faithful members of the local church.  Find an area to serve in together.
  26. Be loyal to your relationship. Loyalty builds trust and trust builds intimacy.
  27. Be grateful and express your gratefulness regularly.
  28. Compliment your spouse to others.
  29. Compliment your spouse in private.
  30. Celebrate milestones and annual anniversaries.
  31. Pray together for each other and for others.  When you pray your spouse hears what is on your heart in a way no other communication reveals.
  32. Remember often your beginning and how far you’ve come in the years since.
  33. Thank God for His continued mercy and grace in your relationship.  A lasting marriage is a gift from God, but one we must also work together to maintain.

Marriage is like whitewater rafting it takes all on board to bring the raft safely through the rapids of life.  Some can even be life threatening, but making it through not only provides great joy – but an amazing story to tell of God’s faithfulness!

That's us on the right side in front.

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Water Into Wine – Proverbs 7

Posted on June 16, 2011 by Tom and Debi

7:1 My son, keep my words
and treasure up my commandments with you;
2 keep my commandments and live;
keep my teaching as the apple of your eye;
3 bind them on your fingers;
write them on the tablet of your heart.
4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”
and call insight your intimate friend,
5 to keep you from the forbidden woman,
from the adulteress with her smooth words.

Proverbs was written by a godly father to his son.  An appropriate focus this week as Father’s Day is Sunday.

We have all known dads who have excelled in their ability to lead and train their children in righteousness.  But sadly there are many more who have never had a father present, much less worthy of emulating.  How does this verse apply to those who can’t relate to the godly example set forth by their earthly father?  It’s simple – your Heavenly Father leads and guides you, even when you’re not asking Him to.  He is faithful even when we are not.  He is also interested in every detail of our lives.  So take this verse to heart and ask Him to help you understand His commands, His Words and apply them to your life.

Matthew Henry’s commentary on this passage is helpful:

We must lay up God’s commandments safely. Not only, Keep them, and you shall live; but, Keep them as those that cannot live without them. Those that blame strict and careful walking as needless and too precise, consider not that the law is to be kept as the apple of the eye; indeed the law in the heart is the eye of the soul. Let the word of God dwell in us, and so be written where it will be always at hand to be read. Thus we shall be kept from the fatal effects of our own passions, and the snares of Satan. Let God’s word confirm our dread of sin, and resolutions against it.

Marriage is a covenant created and sustained by God.  He is the One who took two separate people and formed us into one flesh.  He is passionate about our Oneness for it reflects the Oneness of the Godhead.  If we realized how our covenant reflects upon God’s goodness we would be much more apt to guard the treasure we have been given.  Marriage isn’t simply something two people do who love each other and want to start a family.  Marriage is much, much more.  It is a relationship established and upheld in Heaven. The laws concerning faithfulness in marriage are to be like the apple of our eye.

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How often do we see the big picture of our marriage?  It’s easy to get caught up in the little, day-to-day moments and forget that God’s ways are to be the apple of our eye!  This led us to wonder where this term came from and to dig deeper for its meaning.  Answers.com has this to say:

The term was originally used in the Bible and it was used to signify someone of great worth ‘whoever touches you touches the apple of his eye’, someone who was very precious. The ‘apple of your eye’ is the iris or center of the eye. If someone were to touch the apple of your eye it would be very painful and so it is protected by the eyelid. The biblical imagery is that we are the apple of his eye and God is the eyelid who protects us.

Modern usage of this idiom usually refers to something that is especially beloved.

Sight IS precious and here we see that “insight” is just as precious.  This passage tells us to consider it our intimate friend.  Just what is insight?  Noah Webster defines it thus:

Sight or view of the interior of any thing; deep inspection or view; introspection; thorough knowledge or skill.

Those who possess wisdom and insight will be able to withstand the temptations of other loves.  These other loves aren’t necessarily a physical person, they can be anything that draws our heart and passion away from the home; it can be a hobby, friendship, work or you name it.

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Here’s the key question to ask: Is your marriage the central, most important relationship in your life next to God?  If it isn’t then you must ask why?  What have you allowed to cloud your vision?  What is it that has drawn your heart away?  What has become the apple of your eye?  God wants to do a miracle in your marriage and restore sight to your blind eyes.  Don’t miss this opportunity to put your marriage back where it belongs – in the center of your heart and vision.  God promises to hear us when we cry out to Him.  The first step is to see our lack.  He will restore sight to the blind.

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Slices

Posted on June 15, 2011 by Tom and Debi

A slice from our vacation last week. 

What caption would you give this photo?  Share it with us by commenting below.

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Excel Still More

Posted on June 14, 2011 by Debi Walter

It’s been 7 and a half years, but it feels like only yesterday.  The Lord took my Dad to his final resting place at the age of 81 in January of 2004.  I miss him – especially this week!  He and my Mom were married for 57 years.  She let him go that night because she had promised to do so.  Death was now parting their lives for a season, and I witnessed the whole thing.

As I was sitting tonight at the computer wondering what God wanted me to write for this post, I got a chat message from a dear friend.  She just found out today that her dad has cancer.  There are still many unknowns as they wait for more test results.

I asked how she was doing – she said she felt numb.

I asked how her mom was doing – she said her mom was feeling angry.

The emotions we experience in troubled times reveal the strength of what we believe, and whether or not we really believe what we proclaim.  This is why Jeremy Camp’s song, I Still Believe, was such an anchor to my soul.  I had never heard of him before, but one day – when I needed it most – I heard this song on the radio.  It was as if God was speaking directly to my aching heart to remember what I believe.

We received more sad news today of a longtime friend who’s battle with brain cancer is nearing it’s final stages.  Unless God does a miracle he will not be here much longer.  His wife is holding on, but it is the hardest thing she’s ever had to face.  Our heart and prayers are with them.

We are sobered with the brevity of life.  We realize all of us will one day walk this road.  This is why the foundation we build our lives and our marriages upon must be the Truth.  Only the Truth will be able to uphold us through such times.  I know because I felt that strength pour like cement through my feet to hold me up when I wanted to collapse.

Marriage is good.  It is what we have devoted our lives to support and strengthen for God’s glory.  But it will one day end.   We are called to live our marriages every day as if it were our last.  Sadly, my friend is literally facing this with her husband.  I can’t imagine the pain of letting go of someone you’ve held so close for so many years.  But the One who promises to never let us go will be there to hold us, comfort us and strengthen us with power from Heaven.

What difficulties are you facing?  Compare them to the brevity of life.  Realize how quickly time passes and resolve to settle differences as they happen.  Letting go of our spouse will be hard, but so much more so if we have regrets.  Live today as if it were your last.  Say the unspoken, encourage the discouraged and be the best wife/husband you can be today.  We never know when it may be our last!

Below is Jeremy Camp’s testimony of how he walked this road with his first wife.  It was after this tragedy that the Lord led him to write the song so richly filled with real Truth.  The kind we can hang our hopes and fears upon.  May you be encouraged to excel still more in your marriage for God’s glory!

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Mark Your Calendar

Posted on June 13, 2011 by Tom and Debi
Photo Credit: Pilgrims and Pioneer Stitches Blog

We must admit it’s difficult to think about calendars after being away from it all for 10 days.  We had an amazing time together in the mountains of North Carolina and North Georgia – like another honeymoon!  We enjoyed every minute, but it is good to be home.  No matter where we go, it’s nice to have a place that is ours where we can feel comfortable to settle down together.  One of the nicest benefits of taking a vacation is a fresh appreciation for H.O.M.E.  The smells, the things, the routine of it all is our familiar place, where we live life and share love together and with others.  We raised our three children in this place from when they were 6, 8 and 10 until they grew up and started lives on their own.  Their ages are now 25, 27 and 29 –  nineteen years since we moved into this house.  Our home holds the memories of all that is dear to us.  And we thank God for giving us this place to call our own!  What do you love most about your home?

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♥  FUN DATES TO CELEBRATE  ♥

June 13th

  • National Peanut Butter Cookie Day

June 14th

  • Flag Day – Plan a dinner that’s red, white and bleu, or a romantic evening using all the colors of the flag.  You might enjoy watching a favorite American history movie.

June 15th

  • National Lobster Day – Go out for lobster or make your own at home.  But whatever you do, don’t cook yourself like a lobster on the beach!
  • National Smile Power Day – make little smiley faces and hide them all over the house with reasons why your spouse makes you smile written on the back of each.

June 16th

  • Fudge Day – Visit your favorite fudge shop for free samples, or make your own batch at home.

June 17th

  • National Apple Strudel Day – Honest we’re not making these things up!  But isn’t it amazing how many sweet desserts have their own national holiday?  How sweet it is…
  • National Eat Your Vegetables Day – Okay, so eating your vegetables is important, but how in the world can this day be compared to eating Apple Strudel?  Go vegan for lunch and skip the veggies for dinner going straight for dessert!  🙂

June 18th

  • International Picnic Day – a perfect excuse to enjoy the great outdoors today.  And it falls on a Saturday this year too!
  • World Juggling Day – Most married couples learn how to juggle quite a variety of responsibilities.  They are busy, and making time for each other can be a real challenge.  This is why we started this blog.  Why not have fun and learn how to juggle for real?  Hey, you could entertain yourself for hours, not to mention those who would gather to watch!

June 19th

  • Father’s Day – If your husband is also a Dad, make plans to do all his favorites today.  Here is a list of the Top 7 Ways to Celebrate Dad on his special day!

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♥ THINGS TO DO IN ORLANDO ♥

CENTRAL

  • Altamonte Springs – Uptown Altamonte presents Friday Night Live on June 17th from 8p. to 10p.  The island sounds of DEJA will be performing, and the concert is FREE.
  • Jazz Jams Uptown will take place on Saturday, June 18th from 8p – 10p in Crane’s Roost Park.  The music is FREE, and there will be food and drinks available for purchase.
  • Winter Park – Music at the Casa on Sunday, June 19th from 12p – 3p.  This is a relaxing way to spend the afternoon and enjoy the beautiful Casa Feliz.  FREE.
  • Winter Park – Sip and Stroll will take place on Thursday, June 23rd from 5:30p – 9p.  Cost is $25 per person in advance, but only 300 tickets will be sold.  Make plans now if you would like to participate.

EAST

  • Free Saltwater Fishing in Florida for Father’s Day weekend, June 18th and 19th.  That’s right, you don’t need a fishing license to fish in the ocean for these two days.
  • New Smyrna Beach – Seaside Fiesta is Thursday, June 16th from 5p – 9p on Flagler Avenue.  FREE.
  • Casselberry – Date Night: Painting A Sunset.  On Friday, June 17th you and your spouse can enjoy a picnic in a beautiful setting followed by an art lesson under the canopied trees.  You will be provided all the tools necessary to create your own painting to take home.  The cost is $20/couple for residents and $25/couple for non-residents.

WEST

  • Clermont – Lakeridge Winery presents the Annual Harvest Festival on Friday, June 17th – Sunday, June 19th.  Come stomp some grapes and kick up some great memories.  See website for times and prices.

 

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Happy Hour

Posted on June 10, 2011 by Debi Walter

Having been on vacation this past week we haven’t read other blogs to give them our weekly blog love.  However, our monthly Here’s To Us Challenge is the twelfth – two days away.  So we ask you to take some time to let us know your Here’s To Us moment the two of you celebrated this past month.

Ours happened when our vacation was nearing its end. There was one song during the week I wished we could have danced together to, but we had no internet signal at the time.  On our last day alone this song came on the radio.  We seized the moment and danced together, shared a kiss and a prayer of thanks for the privilege we have to dance together in the mine fields for another year.  We’ve shared this song with you before, but it’s worth repeating.  Enjoy – and don’t forget to send us your moment!

The contest ends at midnight on Sunday, which gives you time to celebrate if you haven’t already.  Just don’t forget – we’ve upped our prize to include a book, What Did You Expect, by Paul David Tripp,  as well as a gift certificate to your favorite restaurant!

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A Fragrant Aroma – Capturing Moments

Posted on June 10, 2011 by Debi Walter

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This past week we were on vacation.  It was a much needed time away to renew and reconnect.  We had the typical moments of tension every couple experiences when trying to navigate in an unfamiliar place.  Even with our trusty GPS we still had issues; but we have learned not to make these moments more than what they are – moments.

There were many more moments worth remembering, and I had my camera to capture them.  I experienced white water rafting for the first time.  The rapids were only level II and III, but it was a big deal for me.  Tom is the adventurous one, I’m not.  I used to be, but something happened after I had children.  I no longer enjoy taking risks, even if the risks are minimal.  I thanked Tom for pushing me beyond my comfort zone because I really did have a great time, and we made a special memory!

A few years ago Tom signed me up for golf lessons so we would be able to enjoy playing his favorite sport together.  As a result – I love golf!  This was our first time away for an actual golf trip.  The scenery was beautiful, but the time spent together apart from phones and busy schedules was priceless.  The picture following was a surprise from Tom to me while we were enjoying a round in the mountains of North Georgia.  While I was teeing off, he picked these wildflowers and placed them in my water bottle.  It literally took my breath away!  I usually play golf with my club in one hand and my camera in the other.  Tom tolerates this part of my hobby, but when I capture a special moment – we both smile.


Thank you, Tom, for a great time away.  I enjoy every minute I have alone with you.

Do you have plans to take a vacation this summer?  Even if the kids are with you, don’t miss the special moments you can celebrate together.  And if possible, by all means take lots of pictures.  It is sure to make you smile both now and in the years to come!

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Water Into Wine – Proverbs 6

Posted on June 9, 2011 by Tom and Debi

Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise. Without having any chief, officer, or ruler, she prepares her bread in summer and gathers her food in harvest.

How long will you lie there, O sluggard?  When will you arise from your sleep?

A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.

When it comes to marriage, we know the things we ought to do.  We know the things we would rather not do.  And depending on how mature we are, we may or may not do the things we know we should.  We procrastinate.  We put off.  We are often lazy.  That is when it comes to doing something that isn’t very important to us.

However, we are quick to do the things we want to do.  We’ll even rearrange our schedules to be sure we can squeeze that one thing in because of one simple reason:

we.want.to.  

And because we all battle with selfishness, we’ll put a priority on our wants to the neglect of what our spouse wants or needs or worse, to the neglect of what God commands.

God knows our tendency to be lazy.  He takes it a step further and calls us “sluggards.” Somehow this sounds much more severe.  “Lazy” brings to mind a relaxing drift along the river on a hot summer day.

Photo Credit: Susan Laxson

But being “sluggardly” isn’t quite so serene.  It’s more the picture of one sleeping in the midst of a war zone.  It’s wrong.  There is danger all around, yet the urgency isn’t seen or felt.

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So let’s resolve to be wise.  Ecclesiastes 9:10 says, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.”  When King Solomon penned those words he was actually referring to marriage.

Let’s put our hand to the plow.  Let’s get to work doing the thing we’ve been putting off in regards to our marriage:

  • Have the conversation you’ve been avoiding;
  • Plan a date night to bless your spouse
  • Clean the house or fix the leaking faucet
  • Stop long enough to draw your spouse out about the moodiness you’ve noticed in their responses to you.
  • Ask.
  • Talk.
  • Be purposefully diligent.

These are the moments God gives us all day after day.  They aren’t inconveniences.  They are opportunities for us to grow closer to each other and to the Lord.  But we must be alert. We must be vigilant if we are going to move beyond where we are today and grow our marriage to be strong and mature – the marriage God desires us all to have.  

Consider the ant…

Photo Credit: A Faithful Journey blog

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Loving You Tonight

Posted on June 8, 2011 by Tom and Debi

We recently saw this music video of Andrew Allen singing, Loving You Tonight.  The words and music are what led us to the video, but once you see it you’ll see a man passionate about romancing his wife.  We love, love, love his desire to light up her life in a special way on such an ordinary day.

But there is a warning: You’ll be singing this song all day…but what a great song to sing! 🙂

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A Marriage Flight

Posted on June 7, 2011 by Debi Walter

A wine connoisseur is familiar with a wine flight; it is a sampling of up to four different wines at a time to compare and enjoy.

Today we’re offering a flight of a different nature.  We’re calling it A Marriage Flight. This is where we hold up another marriage and swirl it around to see the many facets that make it work.  And most of all it’s to marvel at what God has done in their relationship and how He is using it for His glory and for the good of others.  We recently had the privilege of speaking with this precious couple face to face (well, face to face over Skype!) and today we want to introduce them and their ministry to you.

Meet Steve and Cindy Wright with Marriage Missions International.

Steve and Cindy Wright

Marriage Missions Int’l began nearly a decade ago simply as a way to communicate the wealth of marriage tips God had given to the Wright’s.  What started as a small thing with a focused mission quickly grew into a worldwide outreach to marriages in places like Africa, the Middle East and abroad. They provide marriage helps and encouragement that are Biblically based and Gospel centered to many third world countries.  Because their resources are free, it is sought out by many who have no other means of getting the help they need.

Their love story is amazing, and hearing how God has used it to draw others to them is even more so.

Cindy says, “Everywhere we go people notice us.  They notice how we love each other, how we treat each other, and they seek us out to find out the secret of our happiness.”

Once Cindy became a Christian it was placed in her heart to become a missionary, but with both Steve and Cindy facing physical limitations, it wasn’t long before she realized such a dream wouldn’t be possible.  Or would it?

The Wright’s have always adhered to the conviction of saying “yes” to the Lord.  Whatever it was He desired, they wanted to be available for service to Him.  And seeing the success of their ministry, it is obvious that if they couldn’t go to the world, then He would bring the world to them!

“What God hath wrought?” was the first telegraph message sent in Morse Code, and we believe Steve and Cindy could offer this quote as well.  For they are as surprised as anyone with what God has done in their nearly 40 years of marriage.  It is all for His glory, and you will see this stated all over their website.

Their marriage motto is, “We never want to deny God anything.”

Their favorite marriage author is Gary Thomas, one of our favorites as well.

Steve works “full-time” with the  Family Life Radio Network and has for 33 years.  They live in Tucson, AZ, and have two grown sons.  One lives in S. Korea with his wife and family.  The other son, John, lives in Mesa, AZ, with his wife.   He is their web developer and is the reason they have such a quality website.  Given the distance of family and grandchildren, Cindy’s time is devoted to managing the website and studying extensively God’s perspective on the marriage relationship.  This devotion has produced a website chocked full of rich biblical truth for nearly any topic desired.  Here is a sampling of the topics you’ll find discussed:

  • Save My Marriage
  • Remarriage
  • Extramarital Affair
  • Abuse in Marriage
  • Preparing for Marriage
  • Romance in Marriage
  • Communication and Conflict

The list goes on and on.  In fact, we don’t know if there’s any topic they haven’t addressed in their ten years of ministry.

Steve and Cindy carry in their hearts a love for people, a passion for marriage and most of all an infectious love for God and His glory.  We pray God will continue to bless their lives and ministry with everything He has planned for them.  One thing is certain –

GOD WILL BE THE ONE TO RECEIVE THE GLORY!

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Mark Your Calendar

Posted on June 6, 2011 by Debi Walter

This coming Sunday, June 12th, is our monthly Here’s to Us Challenge.  We’re giving you a week to plan something special – an ordinary moment you might have missed had you not been looking for it.  We’ll have you send us a note telling us what you did.  On Monday morning we’ll announce the winner.  Start making plans now – there’s lots of fun dates to celebrate this week – in fact, you could make up your own.  From the look of the list below, I think someone with a real sweet tooth made up this list.  Have a great week!

♥ Fun Dates To Celebrate ♥

June 6

  • National Yo-Yo Day:  It has it’s up and downs but could still be a fun thing to do together!  🙂

June 7

  • National Chocolate Ice Cream Day – I wonder if every flavor has a National Holiday!  Hmmm.

June 8

  • Best Friends Day – Why not plan a double date with your besties!

June 9

  • National Strawberry Rhubarb Pie Day

June 10

  • National Iced Tea Day

June 11

  • Corn on the Cob Day – give me your ear and I’ll tell ya all about it!

June 12

  • Red Rose Day – a single stem is very romantic.

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♥ What’s Happening In Orlando ♥

CENTRAL

  • Winter Park – Popcorn Flicks in the Park on Thursday, June 9th at 8p.  This month the featured movie is Blue Hawaii starring Elvis Presley.  As always the movie and the popcorn are FREE.

NORTH

  • Sanford – Alive After Five presents Blues and Bar-B-Q on Thursday, June 9th beginning at 5p.

SOUTH

WEST

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Happy Hour

Posted on June 3, 2011 by Tom and Debi

We haven’t had as much time this week to read other blogs, but there were a few which definitely stood out to us.  These are our “specials of the week!”

Dendrochronology

  • What’s In A Name When A Name Means Nothing? – Melinda offers a thought-provoking perspective in regards to the fall of the Ohio State Football Coach, Jim Tressel.  But it applies well to marriage, at least in principal.  We may call ourselves husband or wife, but are we living in an honorable way deserving of such titles?

Marriage Gems

The Generous Wife

  • Take Aim – Lori shares another blogger’s great idea.  Check it out and see what you come up with for your own marriage!

The Generous Husband

Stupendous Marriage

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A Fragrant Aroma

Posted on June 3, 2011 by Debi Walter

Last weekend was the first weekend we’ve had at home together in a long time.  It was long overdue and so enjoyable.  We were like kids on summer vacation from school!

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Tom cleaned his workbench, washed both cars.  Then, we took a Skype call from some new friends you’ll hear about next week.  We had never met before and were a little unsure as to how a Skype phone call would go with strangers.  We were immediately at ease.  We talked for about 30 minutes about marriage and what God has called us to do.  It was our first meeting, but most likely not our last.

We got another text from friends asking if we wanted to join them for dinner.  Since we had no plans, we were able to gladly say, “yes.”  Sunday we worshiped God together – something we look forward to each Sunday.  We visited a family member who was in the hospital and came home to prepare some food for our Memorial Day Cookout.  After this we were invited to go to another friend’s new home.  They used to live down the street, but have moved to a bigger home that is simply beautiful!  We talked about so many things, but mostly enjoyed being together.

On Monday, we played golf with our son, Jason.  It was just the three of us, and we had a blast.  As a side note, Jason and Ashley are celebrating their 5th wedding anniversary today! Congratulations!

Happy Anniversary, you two!

Later a few neighbors came over for a cookout and pool party in our backyard.  At the end of the night we were happily tired, but very relaxed.

Every now and then, you have to have a weekend at home to do those things you love to do, like be with family and friends.

This is a slice of our life, and we are loving what God has done!

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Water Into Wine – Song of Solomon

Posted on June 2, 2011 by Debi Walter

Today we’re taking a break from our Proverbs series to focus on something else.

We are reading through the Bible this year separately, but we’re following the same plan which is to read the complete Bible in chronological order.  So far it’s been very interesting to see how the events in the Old Testament played out as they happened.

Photo Credit: Jacquelyn Bateman

Our assignment today is to read the entire book of the Song of Solomon.  🙂  When was the last time you read this book?  It is the story of two young lovers and the love and desire they have for each other.  It is quite romantic, dare we say even steamy!  Just listen to this portion from chapter 2:  (If you click on the link above, you can have the book read aloud to you!)

8 The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes,
leaping over the mountains, bounding over the hills.
9 My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
Behold, there he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows, looking through the lattice.
10 My beloved speaks and says to me:
“Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away,
11 for behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone.
12 The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree ripens its figs, and the vines are in blossom;
they give forth fragrance. Arise, my love, my beautiful one,
and come away. 14 O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
in the crannies of the cliff, let me see your face, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.
15 Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards, for our vineyards are in blossom.” 16 My beloved is mine, and I am his;

Sometimes it is good to reflect back on how our love began, when we could spend hours gazing into each others eyes. How quickly the new fades into the routine, and if we’re not careful we forget what a special gift our spouse is to us.

Close your eyes now for 30 seconds and remember how you felt on the day when you knew without a doubt that you were going to spend the rest of your lives together.

Did you do it?

Don’t skip this part…it really will help.

Yes, it was a dream come true, but not yet.  You had to plan the wedding and wait for the day to arrive.  How long has it been since you said “I do?”  Do you remember how you felt that day?  How you anticipated the days as they counted down, slowly down?

And now how many days has it been since?  Do you still long to have time together when life keeps you apart?

This is a sign your love is alive and well.  Don’t let the cares of life or the busyness of life steal the moments each day you have to remember what is of most importance – your love for each other and the shared love you have for God.  When your children are grown, which we guarantee will happen, it will be important to have already made the habit of making much of each other and the love you share.

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Don’t forget how your love began and celebrate it as often as you can.  We never know  how many years the Lord will give us together.  Make the most of each day as you did when you were anticipating your wedding day.  And then enjoy every minute of it!

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