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Category Archives: Difficulty
In Case Of Emergency
We have all had it occur at some point in our marriage. Life is going along as expected and then it happens. You receive a phone call, a knock on the door or you hear a your child crying. You … Continue reading
In Or Out Of Control
There are some things you can control and some you can’t. And sometimes what you thought you could control, you find out the hard way that you never could. Ever been there? We all have, if we’re honest. I grew … Continue reading
Are You Hangry?
Hangry is a combination of two words–hungry and angry. Anger often has the same appetite of hunger. It craves what it doesn’t have and results in a harsh outburst. Ugly. James 4 says, “1What causes quarrels and what causes fights … Continue reading
Getting To Know You
A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading
If My Spouse Would Just…
Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading
Defining Disappointments in Marriage
“If we have a misunderstanding of God we will most certainly have a wrong understanding of our circumstances.” – Lysa Terkeurst Marriage is hard. It takes a life-long commitment to pursue each other regardless of the circumstances we face. We … Continue reading
Five Friday Favorites – Worship Songs
The five things that are on my mind this week are worship songs. Worship plays a huge part in our marriage. It is here where we can join together worshiping our Savior using the words and melodies of heart-searching songs … Continue reading
What We Didn’t Know Going In To Our Marriage
When we said our marriage vows we had no idea of what lay ahead of us. We didn’t know… In our first year we would move to the one city neither of us wanted to live. I would face health … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Difficulty, Troubled Marriage, Wisdom in Marriage
Tagged Commitment, Hardship in marriage, Leaning In, Marriage vows
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A Closer Look at What Bores You
Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Finding Joy, Growing Strong Marriages, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Boredom, Desiring God Ministries, G.K. Chesterton, I don’t care, Jon Bloom, Marriage problems
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My Marriage Is Mediocre—Now What?
In our last post we shared 11 possible indicators your marriage might be mediocre. Today we want to offer some practical tips to help get you out of this trap. As a reminder here is our list: Your life revolves … Continue reading
Posted in Boredom, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Boredom, Cherish, Fix a mediocre marriage, Gary Thomas, Kevin Leman, marriage, Marriage help, Sheet Music
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11 Possible Indicators You Have A Mediocre Marriage
MEDIOCRE. Just the sound of it is blah, don’t you think? I looked up the definition and found this interesting… One of the things that is remarkable about mediocre is the extent to which it has retained its meaning over … Continue reading
Posted in Boredom, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Priorities, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Brian Cranston, marriage, mediocre, settling in marriage
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Is Your Marriage Self-Insured?
Last September we took a direct hit by Hurricane Irma. Considering all the damage many experienced, ours was minimal. It wasn’t until January when we had a week of rain that we discovered our roof was leaking. Tom called our … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Encouraging Your Spouse, In Sickness, Newlyweds, Seasons of Life, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged All In, Hurricane Irma, marriage, Self-insurance
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Is Your Marriage All In?
There is growing tendency in newly married couples to stay independent financially, socially and emotionally. This is cause for great concern. Let me explain… When we said, I Do, we were committing to a new way of life. We were … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Newlyweds, Priorities, Seasons of Life, Showing Honor, Temptation
Tagged Dependence in Marriage, Finances in marriage, Independence in Marriage, Joint Checking Accounts, Priority of Your Spouse
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Indescribable
Being a native Floridian, I have always loved watching storms roll in from a distance. Our skies are big making it easy to see when a storm is brewing. Hurricanes are the most powerful storms I’ve witnessed, and Irma is … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Troubled Marriage
Tagged Chris Tomlin, Hurricanes Irma, Indescribable
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Five Things A Hurricane Is Teaching Me About Marriage
If you didn’t know, we live in Orlando, FL. For days all eyes have been on the forecast track of what has been declared the strongest Atlantic basin hurricane ever produced. Meet Irma! She is strong. She is determined. She … Continue reading
Happy False Labor Day NOT!
It was February of 1984. I was 24, Tom was 29. We were expecting our second baby any day. I was 10 days past my due date, when the familiar labor pains began. I was ready to meet my baby. … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Diapers, Toddlers & Romance, Oh My, Difficulty, Keeping It Real, Parenting
Tagged C-Section, False Labor, Happy False Labor Day, Life gives you lemons make lemonade
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3 Ways Easter Makes A Difference In Marriage
Easter is without a doubt the most important date on the calendar for Christians, because if there was no Easter, Christmas would have no meaning. But Easter occurred and this informs our marriage that we have hope. Hope that there … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Easter, Encouraging Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged Easter Truth for Marriage, Paul Tripp, Wednesday's Word
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The Beauty of a Crimson Stained Marriage
Photo Credit: Monterey Bay Aquarium of Hess Winery, Napa Valley, CA The year was predicted to yield a bumper crop, a winemaker’s dream. The vines had experienced near perfect growing conditions all summer, and harvest was just beginning. At 3:20a. … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Testimonies, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Chirs Tomlin, Crimson Stained, Hess Winery, Love Ran Red, marriage, Napa Valley Earthquake, The Gospel & Marriage
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A Time For Everything…
Every marriage faces different seasons. Some you see coming and others take you by surprise with a phone call. Being aware of this helps us adjust when the winds change–rather than get blown away by the emotional roller coaster, we … Continue reading
Keeping It Real This Christmas–Can You Relate?
My house is a mess. I am decorating for Christmas, but there are demands keeping me from finishing it all at once. Oh sure, I’ve posted photos on Instagram zoomed in where it appears my home is picture perfect, but it’s not. It … Continue reading
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