Category Archives: communication

The Need For Fresh Air

Posted on July 1, 2019 by Debi Walter

Whenever we come to our mountain cabin the first thing we notice is the fresh air. It is sweet and promotes a sense of peace. Add to it a newly mowed landscape and the air is intoxicating. We all need fresh … Continue reading →

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Stop Chasing Squirrels

Posted on June 3, 2019 by Debi Walter

I love watching Tom do those things for which he is passionate, like lead our marriage community group. When someone asks him about their marriage he lights up and never fails to offer wise, biblically-based counsel. And the older he … Continue reading →

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Vintage Post – The Verbs Of Your Marriage

Posted on May 23, 2019 by Debi Walter

(Originally posted on August 21, 2014) I love words and how they have power to help us understand our marriage. Most of us don’t give much thought to the words we use and why. But we should. Words reveal. Words … Continue reading →

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When Nothing Is Something

Posted on April 30, 2019 by Debi Walter

I’ve done this more times than I can count. Tom walks in and notices something is bothering me. He asks, “What’s wrong?” To which I reply, “Nothing.” There are two possible reasons I give this answer. I am feeling sad, … Continue reading →

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Engulfed By Emotions Can Be Embarrassing

Posted on April 29, 2019 by Debi Walter

I have always been emotional. I cry at movies. I cry at weddings. I have even been known to cry at a funeral of someone whom I had never met. I put myself in another’s place and imagine what it … Continue reading →

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Getting To Know You

Posted on April 17, 2019 by Debi Walter

A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading →

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If Your Sheets Could Talk

Posted on April 16, 2019 by Debi Walter

Yesterday we talked about the challenges all couples face when it comes to money. If resolve isn’t found, it can be the final death blow to a struggling marriage. There is another challenging area in marriage often cited as the … Continue reading →

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Do You Struggle With This In Your Marriage?

Posted on April 15, 2019 by Debi Walter

Today is Tax Day in America. It is the day we all must pay our dues to the government whether we like it or not. If they have taken too much from us during the year, it is a time … Continue reading →

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If My Spouse Would Just…

Posted on April 14, 2019 by Debi Walter

Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading →

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Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours

Posted on April 10, 2019 by Debi Walter

Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading →

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What’s Your Marriage Forecast?

Posted on April 6, 2019 by Debi Walter

Weather. We depend on it for so much of our activities. Will we do this or that? It all depends on the weather. No one wants to eat outside when it’s too cold or too hot. Nor do we plan … Continue reading →

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Are You an Eraser or a Highlighter?

Posted on April 3, 2019 by Debi Walter

Erasers are used to take away errors giving an opportunity to do it right. Highlighters are used to emphasize something you don’t want to forget. In marriage we can use both to help or hurt our relationship. How are we … Continue reading →

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Three Types of Transition in Marriage

Posted on March 19, 2019 by Debi Walter

Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading →

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Listen, Ask, Repeat – A Key To Effective Communication

Posted on March 12, 2019 by Debi Walter

I’ve spent 24 of the last 35 days away from home helping to care for our daughter and her family post-surgery. Tom was with me most of that time. A great benefit of retirement is that what I used to … Continue reading →

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Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire

Posted on March 4, 2019 by Debi Walter

Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading →

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The Necessity Of Light

Posted on February 11, 2019 by Debi Walter

We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading →

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2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

Posted on January 16, 2019 by Debi Walter

It happened last week. I didn’t see it coming, but God knew all along. Most of you know that Tom and I have a cabin in Banner Elk, NC. You may also know that I have had the privilege of … Continue reading →

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6 Questions To Evaluate The State Of Your Union

Posted on January 5, 2019 by Debi Walter

It’s January, but more surprising than that–it’s 2019! It seems like yesterday when we were concerned about Y2K. We blink and time flies by at record pace. Yet it stays the same. Seconds turn to minutes. Minutes turn to hours. … Continue reading →

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Step Up To Greatness

Posted on December 13, 2018 by Debi Walter

President George H.W. Bush has been honored well in his death by family, friends and even foes. I’m grateful that we, as Americans, haven’t lost our dignity in showing honor to whom honor is due. It has been refreshing to … Continue reading →

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Are You Hunkered Down?

Posted on December 6, 2018 by Debi Walter

We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading →

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