The Marriage SPA

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I have become friends with a young mom of 4 children through a blog challenge I took part in during the month of July.  Her name is Lisa Graf.  She graciously asked if I would like to write a guest post on her Mom Blog.  Of course I said, “Yes.”

Below is the beginning of the article. You can finish reading the rest on her blog.  Enjoy!

What comes to mind when you think of a day at the spa? Soft music, healthy drinks and snacks, candle light, body treatments to soothe your body? Yes, yes and YES! A spa is THE place to go if one wants to relax and unwind.

Tom and I have been married for 32 and 1/2 years. In this time we raised three children who are all two years apart. We thought this would be great for our kids – to be close in age enabling them to share all of their life experiences and friendships together. What we didnʼt think about was all the major adjustments for us as their parents having to go through each stage simultaneously. We changed diapers for 6 – 7 years straight! We home-schooled our children, which meant we were teaching reading, writing and arithmetic all at the same time. We taught our teenagers how to drive one after the other for 6 straight years, and worst of all was paying for the car insurance for all of them at the same time! Yes, life was busy, hectic and lived to the fullest. We attended soccer practices, ballet recitals, basketball games – galore. There were band performances and even a Broadway production of Joseph, and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat that our two oldest children took part in. The memories are fond now, but after spending a week watching our two granddaughters (age 2 and 4), I am freshly reminded of how exhausting it is to raise a family.
When Lisa asked me to offer a guest post for the Mom Blog, I was honored. I took time to pray about what I could share that would be helpful to momʼs of children at home. How can romance be cultivated in the midst of such chaos? Itʼs possible, I know, because my husband made it a priority in our marriage. His initiation was never optional. From the moment our first child was born, he made it clear that our
relationship would always be primary. Now as we are entering the “Open Nest” season of our lives, I am beyond grateful for his wise leadership in this area. We are reaping the fruit of seeds heʼs sown in our relationship for 32 years, and it is good! 🙂
The idea I would like to share is simply an acrostic for the word SPA. I believe if moms would take the time to implement these three things, then romance would be sown in their marriage on a consistent basis. Moms are usually good at multi-tasking. They have to be. So I believe it wonʼt be difficult to do these three things:
(To continue reading this post follow this link to the Mom Blog.)
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Mark Your Calendar

This really is one of our favorite times to travel.  Living in Florida we miss the fall colors so prevalent all over the country.  Most of my favorite photography shots are taken this time of year, so I will most likely be sharing many with you from my vast assortment in the coming weeks.  The picture above was taken on one of our trips to upstate New York – Youngstown, to be exact.  This week we are in AZ for Tom’s work, and I’m sure I will be adding many more great pictures to my library.  Sedona, Tucson and Scottsdale are all on our list, and since I love Route 66 – a quick trip up to Flagstaff is on my wish list too.  Have a great week!

♥ Fun Dates To Celebrate ♥

September 19th

  • International Talk Like A Pirate Day – plan a date around this holiday.  Visit a local Party Store to do it up right.  Least of all you could watch any or all of the episodes of Pirates of the Caribbean.

September 20th

  • National Punch Day – since there are no articles as to what kind of punch this is celebrating – have fun coming up with your own interpretation and celebration.

September 21st

  • Miniature Golf Day – a fun date night for sure!  Award special incentives for hole in one shots.  🙂
  • World Gratitude Day – take time to share your gratitude with your spouse.  It’s sure to make them grateful, which will make them share gratitude with you, and so on and so on.

September 22nd

  • Elephant Appreciation Day – yes, even elephants need to be appreciated.  Have you ever seen an elephant with low self-esteem?  A date night suggestion – The Elephant Bar and Grill.

September 23rd

  • Checkers Day – challenge your spouse to a round.
  • Native American Day – try your hand at cooking Indian style.

September 24th

  • National Cherries Jubilee Day – even cherries need their freedom.

September 25th

  • National Comic Book Day – maybe your spouse grew up marveling those marvelous Marvel comic book characters.  Relive their childhood by going to see their favorite comic book movie.

♥ Things To Do In Orlando ♥

Remember September is Magical Dining Month at many area restaurants.

CENTRAL

  • Altamonte Springs – Crane’s Roost Park presents Friday Night Live on September 23rd from 7p – 9p.  FREE.
  • Museum Day – Saturday, September 24th all day long participating museums will be FREE.

NORTH

  • Sanford Art Walk on Friday, September 23rd from 6p – 8:30p.  FREE.
  • Casselberry – Latin Jazz Fest on Saturday, September 24th from 6p – 9p at Lake Concord Park.  Bring your blanket and enjoy a night under the stars.  FREE.

EAST

  • New Smyrna Beach – Jazz Fest will be held September 23rd throught the 25th.  See site for details.  FREE.

WEST

 

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Happy Hour

Welcome to our weekly Happy Hour.  It’s the time when we share with you special blog posts of other marriage bloggers worth your time.  Enjoy your weekend!

Hot, Holy and Humorous

  • Come Over Here So I Can Slap You – a great list to see if you’re treating your spouse in a wrong way in regards to physical intimacy.  If you are, no need to worry – she’s not really going to slap you, but she will pray for you!  🙂

Journey To Surrender

  • What Do You Think? – Scott provides an excellent exercise which is quite simple to do and oh, so revealing.

Marriage Gems

Marriage Life

  • Never Alone – a great post with a great music video by Lady Antebellum.  We love great music around here and wanted to share.

Marriage Missions International

  • Going Beyond Your Commitment – an excellent article on cultivating commitment and intentionality in your marriage.  (NOTE:  Steve and Cindy Wright have invited us into their home in Tucson, AZ, this weekend.  As you read this, we’ll be visiting with them face-to-face.)  🙂

One Flesh Marriage

  • Hold That Pose – We absolutely LOVE this idea.  Hiring a photographer to do a couple photo shoot for a date night or day.  Check this one out if the only good pictures you have are from your wedding.
  • Smile For The Camera Guys – Brad encourages husbands to be onboard with their wife in having a photo shoot.  If you’re tempted to grumble about the photo shoot idea, read what this post has to say.

The Generous Husband

  • Is Your Shame Hurting Your Marriage? – We recently attended a marriage conference where an entire session was dedicating to exploring the effects of shame on marriage.  Paul hits this right on the head – a must read!
  • Is Her Shame Hurting Your Marriage? – The counter side of the first article.  Shame in any form in a marriage is detrimental.  Paul says to go after it like a cancer that it is.

The Generous Wife

  • No Whine Zone – the title speaks for itself.
  • Travel Talk – helpful tips on how to make the most of time you share while on the road.
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A Fragrant Aroma – Listening

These “Fragrant Aroma” posts are intended to give you a glimpse into our lives and marriage in real time – this week to be exact.  And if I had to choose one word to describe our week it would be “listening.”

We have had our 4 year old granddaughter, Bristol, and our 2 year old granddaughter, Willow, staying with us all week.  They have been so much fun, and they love to talk – A LOT! 🙂 Their words are amazingly clear for as young as they are – and not only do they use lots of words they use lots of giggles.  This part of listening has been a total blast.

We have also spent lots of time this week listening to various friends as they shared with us heart to heart.  Some are facing life changing events, some have difficulties in their marriage, communication breakdowns or financial woes.  All they required was the listening ear of a friend and the listening ear of God, who hears them when they cry out to Him. Listening to their words and most of all their heart moved us deeply as we empathized with each one.

We spent more time listening to our grown children sharing with us news and events happening in their lives.  Our son is away with his wife for the first time since their honeymoon five years ago.  Our daughter in Atlanta shared good news of selling her homemade bagels to a local coffee shop.  And our youngest daughter shared about life in the hair salon where she is privileged to work.  Not to mention, we’ve also spent time this week listening to various politicians promising a better future.

But of all these voices we have listened to, there is Another to whom our ears must always be inclined to listen.  It is the voice of our Savior, Jesus Christ.  He is an ever present help in our time of need as well as for all of our friends who are facing challenging times.  He is listening to the giggles and joy of happy toddlers.  He is listening to the celebrations and life experiences of our children.  But most of all, He is listening to the silent prayers we are often unable to say out loud.  He knows us, and He cares for everything that delights us and concerns us.

So as we listen, we pray, knowing that a listening God is with us as we listen to others.  And what we hear, though difficult at times because of our love and care, is made easier to bear in light of the big picture of what God is doing through it all for His glory. Even if we can’t see the answer yet.

Who have you been listening to this week? 

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What Does A Healthy Marriage Look Like?

This sounds like a simple question, but if it was then there would be a lot more healthy marriages then there are!  Winston Smith with Christian Counseling Education Foundation shares a short video (4 minutes) in answer to this question:

We shared with you recently the opportunity we had to adopt a vine at Shadow Springs Vineyard in North Carolina.  We received an e-mail yesterday with a picture saying our vine was ready to be harvested at 6:30a today (Thursday).  This is great news!  The vine has grown healthy fruit which is ready to be harvested.  What a rewarding day this is for Chuck – the owner of the vineyard.  His hard work has produced fruit which will remain!

Compare this to our marriage.  Imagine the glory God receives when our marriage gets to a place where He says – I’m ready to harvest some fruit from this vine in order to feed and nourish others.  This should be our goal.  Yes, marriage is for our holiness, but it is for SO much more – especially in this day and age.  Having a strong marriage when our society is opposed to everything it takes to grow a strong marriage, is nothing short of a miracle.  This is like giant clusters of grapes gleaming in the warmth of the Son, which is able to be given to others for their nourishment and growth in Godliness.

Here is a photo of our vine right before it was harvested:

What abundant fruit.  We pray this is what God is producing in your Romantic Vineyard.

What areas in your marriage do you see as healthy and producing abundant fruit?  Share them with us and thus, give God the glory for what He has done!

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Date Night Idea: Fall In Love

This date night idea is to help you welcome Fall once again.  Think of when you fell in love – what places did you visit?  What foods did you enjoy?  Make a list of everything you can think of that you could re-create on this “Fall in love” date.

Take a silk fall leaf and write a love note to your spouse inviting them to your special date.  You could mail it to them at work or home for an added touch and surprise.  Be sure you get it in the mail in plenty of time for them to receive it.

Our first date was at a French restaurant.  We ate Veal Oscar and then took a long walk around Lake Eola.  It was a perfect first date we have often re-created.

This is a great kind of date to surprise your spouse with.  They will be blessed to see all the ways you remembered your special beginning.  And it may just help you Fall in Love all over again.

Other ideas you could use if you don’t remember your first date:

  • Have a pumpkin carving contest.  Here’s all the details for how to do it well.
  • Have a Fall picnic in a park where the fall leaves are abundant.  Gather a couple of leaves and press them when you get home to remember your special date.
  • Make a music CD of all the love songs special to you from when you first started dating.
  • Go to a Farmer’s Market for a Saturday morning date day, then have breakfast out together.
  • Watch a travel DVD of New England in the Fall.
  • Have an outdoor fire or bonfire and roast marshmallows together.
  • Go for a drive in a National Park or a bike ride on a nature trail.

Most of all – have fun welcoming the Fall season together!  What ways do you celebrate Fall in your family?

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Our First Priority

The Romantic Vineyard is dedicated to helping marriages grow for God’s glory.  Year after year life changes, yet our vows remain.  Regardless of economies or changing seasons we are one flesh for better or for worse.  We are committed to embrace whatever life sends our way because we know the God who controls the winds of change.  He is in control, and He has promised to help us face whatever circumstances we encounter.

Parenting is one of the most demanding seasons a couple will face in their marriage.  It comes during the time of life when careers are being established and/or education is being completed.  Multitasking is a necessary skill to accomplish it all and do it well.

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Mark Your Calendar

I wasn’t feeling well last week, and this week we are on Papa and Nana duty with our two granddaughters.  Our son and his lovely wife are away celebrating their 5th wedding anniversary – the first time since their honeymoon.  Anyway, as you can imagine – romance hasn’t been high on our list.  But Tom still managed to take my breath away in an unexpected way.  In fact, he used the same trick twice!  Look what I found in the kitchen cabinet where I store my PG Tips tea bags – part of my morning ritual:

Notice at the bottom it says, “Recycled love note.”  Yep, he placed the same note in the same place a couple of days later. 🙂 It was a small way he shared with me his care and love.  My favorite part is how he always puts a ♥ for the dotted “i” in my name.  He has done this since we dated 33 years ago.

As he was tucking Bristol and Willow into bed tonight, I heard him reading Mother Goose and remembered how he used to do this for our children.  It seems like a lifetime ago, but I can honestly say, I’m enjoying our life and love even more now than I did then.  The saying, “Come grow old with me, the best is yet to be,” is TRUE.  If you continue to build and work on your marriage – the rewards are rich indeed.

♥ Fun Dates To Celebrate ♥

September 12

  • Chocolate Milkshake Day – Where is your favorite place for a great shake?
  • National Video Games Day – to be celebrated only if the two of you enjoy doing this together.  🙂

September 13

  • Fortune Cookie Day – order out for Chinese for dinner and finish with this special cookie.  Or you could bake your own.
  • National Peanut Day – Ever had boiled peanuts?  It’s a southern tradition and esp. good enjoyed on a crisp Autumn day.

September 14

  • National Cream Filled Doughnut Day

September 17

September 18

  • National Cheeseburger Day

♥ Things To Do In Orlando

Don’t forget September is Magical Dining Month in Orlando.  It’s your opportunity to try various restaurants at a Prix Fixe menu price.

CENTRAL

  • Thornton Park 3rd Thursday Art Walk on September 15th from 6p – 9p.  FREE.
  • Winter Park – Music at the Casa on Sunday, September 18th from 12p – 3p.  FREE.
  • Maitland – Lake Lilly presents a Food Truck Pod in beautiful surroundings where you can sample some great food.  Food is served from 6p – 9p. every Tuesday night.

NORTH

WEST

  • Clermont – Lakeridge Winery presents Jazz at the Winery on Saturday and Sunday, Sept. 17th and 18th.  Check website for times and prices.

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Happy Hour

It’s the weekend, and we are going on Papa and Nana Duty for the next week.  🙂  Our son and daughter-in-love are going away to celebrate their 5th wedding anniversary.  This time for them is the first since their honeymoon, and we are excited to help them make this happen for their marriage’s sake.  Not to mention we get to play with the most adorable little girls in the world  See for yourself:

Photo Credit: Ashley Jarvis Walter

So, our plans are to post our regular posts next week, B.U.T. if you wake up one morning and there is no post from The Romantic Vineyard to greet you, you’ll understand we either didn’t sleep well, OR we took the day off to play in their world.

Here are the posts we believe are worthy to be called Specials of the Week.  Enjoy…

@Awesome Husbands

Hot, Holy and Humorous

  • Don’t Touch Me: I’m Angry – Excellent writing on a reality all couples face – anger.  How they deal with it may challenge the way you deal with it.
  • Mission Position – There simply is not much information about this specific topic.  After reading this post, you will laugh and maybe think “outside of the box,” so to speak when it comes to making love.

Journey To Surrender

Marriage Gems

Marriage Life

Marriage Missions International

The Generous Husband

The Generous Wife

  • Gracious Response – Wives, please read and practice this.  Your husbands will thank you!
  • Build His Reputation – I love this post, because I’ve seen the benefits of it play out in my own marriage.  Once you get started you won’t be able to stop – and that’s a good thing!


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A Fragrant Aroma – Face to Face

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Did you ever have a pen pal when you were little?  They were usually assigned to you through some sort of organization like Girl Scouts or through the church.  The idea was to write to this person in order to get to know someone who lives far away.  The internet has taken away the need for writing letters to pen pals.  We can converse in real time with people we have never met.  They can live on the other side of the world, yet be as close as our computer screen.  Amazing!

On Labor Day we had the opportunity to meet a couple we highly respect, but have never really met.  They blog.  We blog.  But they’ve been blogging a lot longer than we have.  In fact, they said when they started no one even knew what a blog was.  Yeah, that was a long time ago – ten years to be exact.

Meet Paul and Lori Byerly.

You may know them more by their blog names: The Generous Husband and The Generous Wife.  Together they also run The Marriage Bed website.

They were in Jacksonville for a conference and decided to take a side trip to Orlando in order to meet us.  🙂 We are so glad they did.  From the moment they walked up to our front door, we were instant friends.  Actually, we became friends over a year ago.  Now we were becoming friends face to face.

We shared  our stories how and where we grew up, how we were saved, how we met each other and how the Lord led us each to start our blogs.  We talked about what we are currently reading and who our favorite authors are.  Lori’s is C.S. Lewis and Paul agreed with her choice.  Tom’s is Paul Tripp and mine is Andrew Murray.  It was non-stop conversation, inspiration and just plain fun.

The internet is a wonderful tool, but there is nothing that can take the place of meeting someone face to face.  We have a feeling this won’t be the last time we meet up, even though they live in the Pacific Northwest.

What I learned most from our time together is how real they are.  They write the way they talk.  They are genuinely in love with one another and express generosity, not only to each other, but to us as well.  They encouraged us and even tried to help us figure out some things on the computer.  My favorite part was hearing Paul say,

“Tom, you are a man who knows and loves your wife well.  Seriously, I don’t think there are many men who have taken the challenge to study their wife as well as you have.  You are exactly how I thought you would be based on how your wife has described you on The Romantic Vineyard.”

🙂

I loved watching Tom’s face as Paul commended him.  He didn’t expect it, but Paul’s words were so true.  One recommendation he made was for Tom to write more on our blog.  He said, “Husbands need to hear from you and learn from you, and discover how you do what you do.”

So, we’re going to pray about how we can make this happen.  Tom is very involved with the direction we take and the topics we choose, but as for the daily writing it is mostly me.  He is busy with his job, and travels quite a bit, but we have an idea that might make this easier than we thought at first.  We’ll let you know…

When was the last time you met a new couple face to face and shared your stories – how you met and fell in love?

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Water Into Wine – Proverbs 18

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“The name of the Lord is a strong tower;  the righteous man runs into it and is safe.” – Proverbs 18:10

On Monday we received a text message from our daughter who lives in Atlanta.  The storms (remnants of Lee) were forming quite rapidly in the sky.  All she said was – “Tornado sirens are going off and the storm cell will be here in 10 minutes.”

We had company visiting with us, so after 30 minutes or so, I texted her again to see how she was doing.  “Our umbrella snapped in two, and all of my potted plants have been blown over and broken.”

They were scheduled to have a large Labor Day party.  They were excited, but plans had changed.  Many decided not to leave their homes which was a wise choice, since Seth and Tracy’s neighborhood was the hardest hit by the storm.

It was time once again to take cover, for another cell was due to hit soon.  Thankfully they have a small cement crawl space in the basement.  They made it through the storm fine.  But two blocks down their street was another story.  The roof was torn off a house and every room was completely ruined.  The power of the tornado hit nearly without warning.  Tracy said it was the fastest approaching storm she’s ever experienced.

I suppose this is the reason this verse stood out to me today from this chapter.  The name of the Lord is our place of refuge from the storm.  He alone can change the circumstances we face.  When the storms of financial difficulty, relational breakdowns or physical sickness hit our marriage it is good to know the One who calms the storm.  He is our tower, and not just a tower, but our STRONG tower of refuge.

I was awakened in the night not long ago feeling the weight of many difficult situations.  I sensed the Lord’s nearness to me and as I laid all of my burdens before Him I was able to go back to sleep.  I knew I was safe in His arms.  And so are you, as well as your marriage.

Go to the Lord.  Tell Him your fears.  Let Him be your strong tower from the raging winds and rain.  And then rest in the safety of His arms.

 

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Pick Up On Aisle 4

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It’s been awhile since I’ve posted, but I have something to share I believe will help the husbands (and wives too).

Debi and I were shopping not long ago when something happened that surprised me.  Debi was on one aisle, and I had gone back to get something we missed off the list.  That’s when it happened.  A lady was offering samples and seemed to focus all of her attention on me.  She was friendly – lots of people are friendly, but she went out of her way to insist I try the product she was sampling.  She joked, she laughed.  I talked with her only for a minute as she handed me a free sample and that was it.  I found Debi, and we checked out.  But I knew what had happened felt different.

But what DID happen?  Nothing, really.

When we got in the car I told Debi about it.  I said it felt like she was flirting with me, and I wanted her (Debi) to know.  We talked more, Debi asked me a few questions helping me see if I was right about the whole thing.

A few days later the Lord prompted me with this thought: You enjoyed her attention.

What?! I did? This thought made me uncomfortable to say the least, because I love my wife.  But the more I thought about, the more I saw it was the truth.  I did enjoy it.  I liked being noticed, and one thought I heard loud and clear – I’ve still got it!

This led to another much needed conversation with Debi.  She listened and was actually encouraged.  That’s odd, I know, but I’ll explain.  She said she always wondered if I would even notice if a woman flirted with me.  This situation gave her the answer she didn’t even know to ask me.  And she was encouraged.

What I’ve come away with is this:

Guys, we can never let our guard down for a minute.  Temptation is everywhere – sometimes we see it, sometimes we don’t.  But when we do we have to first of all flee, and second of all – talk to our wife about it.  It may be hard for her to hear, but I guarantee she would much rather you tell her about a temptation, then to find out later you were hiding something from her.

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13

Sometimes the best “way of escape” is to tell the one God has joined you together with as one flesh.  My wife is not only my best friend, she is my best deterrent from sin.  I imagine your wife is too.  God designed it to be this way if we will only let them.

How would you handle a pick up on aisle 4?

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QR Code – It’s Not Just For Business Anymore

QR Codes are similar to Bar Codes, but are capable of storing more information.  They were developed in Japan in 1994, but are fairly new to the U.S.  At least I have just started noticing them.

QR Codes remind me of what it was like “surfing the internet” before search engines were created.  I remember sitting in our kitchen in front of our first computer and typing in “Coca-Cola” wondering what would pop up on my screen.  There were no guarantees that it would be related to Coca Cola products at all.  It was literally “surfing,” and blindly at that!

QR Codes are popping up everywhere now.  We’ve seen them used in real estate magazines, business cards, and even on soft drink cups at Taco Bell.  You must have a Smart Phone to read a QR Code as well as the Red Laser app.  Which, by the way is a FREE app.  🙂

How it works is you open your Red Laser app on your phone – focus it on the QR Code and hold it until it reads the code.  When you click on the “open” button, you really have no idea where it will take you.  Usually it directs you to the business or person’s website.

As I thought about this amazing technology I had an idea for another use for the QR Code. What if I were to plan a date night where Tom had to click on a QR Code in order to know where to go next?  I thought about it for awhile and finally had an idea of what we could do and where we could go.

First, I had to decide where I wanted to go for our Date Night.  Second, I decided to make it themed, Goodbye To Summer.  Third, I determined where I wanted to take Tom. Fourth, I had to make the QR Code for each location.  It is simple really, open the website you want them to go to, copy the link address, go to a QR Code Generator like qrcode.kaywa.com, paste the address in the line provided, and VOILA!  The QR Code is made for you.  (You can also type text up to 250 characters and make a qr code for it.  When the image is clicked the text will pop up on the smartphone screen. Yep, I said it was amazing!  The QR Code at the top of the post has a text message from us to you!) Finally I copied the Code by right clicking on the image and saving the file where I wanted it saved.  Then, I made a “Travel Guide” for Tom to follow using his smartphone as his personal guide.

Confused?  Below is our very first QR Code Date Night for you to see:

Goodbye To Summer Date Night

  • When Tom walked in the door from work, there was a Travel Guide waiting for him on the counter with his favorite drink.  The first page had a code and a note saying to click it and enjoy!  It was to a You Tube video of Jason Mraz singing “Summer Breeze.”

  • I came out ready to leave.  We got in the car and Tom was told to turn the page.
  • On the second page I had the QR Code for the restaurant where we were going to enjoy dining al fresco overlooking a beautiful lake – something we love doing in the summer.  The restaurant? Lagos, and we went during Happy Hour, so we could enjoy appetizers at half the normal cost.  It was perfect.

  • After dinner we went back to the car where I had Tom turn the page.

  • The next code was of Harry P. Leu Gardens.  They were having Date Night in the Garden with an outdoor showing of the classic film, Father of the Bride from 1950.  I knew Tom didn’t want to see this movie again (it always makes him cry), so I decided to go there just to walk and talk.  The garden is rarely open at night, and we love watching the sunset.  It was a beautiful evening.

  • When the mosquitoes came out,  of which I hadn’t prepared – we decided it was time to move on to the next location – another favorite restaurant to pick up dessert to go.
  • Finally, we ended up back home with one more page to go.  Tom clicked on the code which took him to this – a movie trailer of the French film, The Chorus.  I had rented the movie through Netflix. It was dubbed in English, but once we got used to reading the subtitles, we didn’t even realize we were.  It was a great movie – a rating we rarely give to movies – the music alone makes it worth watching.

So, how could you use QR Codes to make your very own Date Night?  You know, it’s not just for business anymore. 

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Mark Your Calendar

Today we are doing something completely different for Labor Day – we are having a couple stay with us whom we have never met in person.  We are quite excited as this couple has been instrumental in helping us grow our Vineyard for God’s glory.  Paul and Lori Byerly, whom you may know as The Generous Husband and The Generous Wife, will be here soon.  We plan to glean as much as we can from this couple who have been blogging for over a decade.  And most of all we plan to have F.U.N. showing them hospitality and some of our favorite places in Orlando.

♥ Fun Dates To Celebrate ♥

Sept. 5th

  • Cheese Pizza Day – “When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie….”

Sept. 6th

  • Read A Book Day – a great way to spend a quiet evening.

Sept. 8th

  • National Date Nut Bread Day – Yep, there is such a day.  But if you don’t like date nut bread, just knock off the “nut bread” and call it National Date Day.  ♥
  • Pardon Day – there is nothing like the power of forgiveness to enhance your marriage.  Consider granting pardon to your spouse.

Sept. 9th

  • Teddy Bear Day – a great surprise gift, and if the teddy bear is holding a special gift it’s even better.

Sept. 10th

  • Swap Ideas Day – Hey, I have an idea…I’ll tell you if you tell me!

Sept. 11th

  • Make Your Bed Day – Seriously?  There’s a day for this?  Why not add a romantic note to your spouse so they’ll find it when you “unmake” the bed tonight!

♥ Things To Do In Orlando ♥

With it being Labor Day today we didn’t have time to peruse the many websites we normally do in order to provide you with a list of all that is happening in O-town this week.  But we don’t want to leave you with nothing at all, so check out Theresa Johnson’s About Orlando blog – she has listed the main events for your convenience.

Have a safe and happy Labor Day resting from your labor.

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Happy Hour

With it being Labor Day weekend, we wanted to provide you with a great list of marriage blogs we love and their recent posts which stood out to us as SPECIAL. These couples have worked hard to help our marriages grow day after day, post after post whether we take the time to read them or not. We hope you’ll have time to read the ones listed below, but also to leave a comment thanking them for serving all marriages (your marriage) in such a helpful way.  Blogging isn’t easy – it takes time, study and personal pursuit of godliness in your own life and marriage; You can’t give what you don’t have!  So if you only have time to read one post, make sure you leave a comment of “thanks!”  It is Labor Day after all!

Have a safe and enjoyable weekend.  We will be welcoming another blogging couple into our home on Labor Day – we’ll tell you all about it next week!  Until then…it is

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A Fragrant Aroma – Not Again!

Tonight (Thursday), I was working on this post when I noticed through the corner of my eye, movement in my eucalyptus stems.  I had placed them a while ago in a glass vase next to my monitor for decoration.  The thing is – these stems are dead.  Movement within the stems is unexpected, so it naturally caught my eye.  I focused in on the stems and saw what I hoped I wouldn’t see.  I hate to even put it into this post.  It was a roach!  Ugh!!!

Yes, I hate them.  I’ve grown up in Florida and have a tremendous hatred for the flying, disgusting insects.  I have been chased by them more times than I care to remember.

When Tom and I were first married he discovered my fear of them and vowed to help me overcome this “phobia.”  🙂  He meant well, but I knew there would never be a peace agreement between us.  I wasn’t willing, even though they were always intent on seeking me out!  I wanted them not only dead, but out of my sight altogether.  Dead or alive I couldn’t stand to have them near me.

So, 32 years later how did this evening end?  I was curled up on the couch waiting for Tom to find the intruder and kill him.  It took a while – using bug spray and a flashlight.  But finally I heard the words I longed to hear – all’s clear.  You can finish your post!  Which translated means, I’ve killed the sucker and his carcass has been taken out of the house.  You are S.A.F.E.

Ah! Tom has learned how to care for me in what could seem to him quite silly.  I don’t know why I am afraid of these bugs the way I am, but I’m thankful I have a husband who is willing to go the extra mile for me to rid our home of these unwelcome intruders.

In what ways does your spouse care for you like this?  How do they help you when you are facing something that makes you afraid?  How do you help your spouse when they are afraid?

NOTE:  There are no pictures in this post for obvious reasons.

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Water Into Wine – Proverbs 17

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“The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.”   Proverbe 17:14

Webster’s 1828 Dictionary is the resource we turn to in order to define Biblical terms.  Noah Webster compiled this magnificent work in 1828, thus the name.  He took words used in common English language at the time and applied their meaning according to its use in Scripture.  It is a valuable resource when wanting to gain the full meaning of a Bible verse.

Strife according to Webster means contention in anger or enmity; contest; struggle for victory; quarrel or war.

Think of strife as it relates to your marriage.  What are the areas of contention or anger?  Are there areas where you are competing against each other? Do you struggle to gain the victory in each and every challenge? Are there topics you avoid because of the strife they cause?

We all witnessed the destruction of Hurricane Irene in the beautiful state of Vermont.  The flooding and resulting damage is the worse they have seen in over a hundred years.

Let this verse stand as a warning to our marriages.  Letting such strife continue is like the beginning of Hurricane Irene.  The water came from the sky and from the breaches in dams.  It started slowly and continually increased.  The effects were catastrophic.

The water from above could be compared to the outward difficulties you are facing in your marriage – finances, family matters, school, health, children – you name it.  We all face different challenges throughout our marriage.  The breach in the dam is the little offenses you allow to go unchecked.  The nights when you go to sleep in silent anger.  The morning comes and you choose to not bring it up.  Days go by and the offense is never resolved.  It is one small breach in the dam.  As these habits continue, a day comes like last week when it all comes crashing down.  The couples stands on the side of the rushing water where their home once stood and wonder what happened?  It didn’t happen in one big offense – it was the tiny offenses not dealt with day after day, week after week.  Slowly the security of the marriage was breached and a flood of disaster ensued.

This verse is a warning.  Listen to it now while there is time to quit.  God has promised to help us say no to the strife and yes to His grace to resist it’s clutch.  Strife and anger come easy.  It is our nature to lash out this way.  But God has promised to help us in our weakness, if we will but cry out to Him for help and mercy in our time of need.

This video from the floods in Vermont is a powerful visual of the damage that can occur from the “letting out of water.”  Don’t let another day go by where strife is allowed refuge in your home.  The effects could be devastating!

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Romance Isn’t Always Romantic

We recently visited our good friends in Charlotte, N.C. who sadly moved there the end of last year.  We still haven’t adjusted to life without them in Orlando.  This visit was our first to see them in their new home. We decided to take one day and tour the Vineyards of Swan Creek, which is located about an hour north of Charlotte.

There are five vineyards in Swan Creek, but time only allowed for us to visit three.  It was a beautiful day, and I was very excited.  Since the theme of our blog is a vineyard, I’ve always had a deep desire to get up close to one, to learn from the process, and to experience all that is involved with harvesting the crop.  It has always seemed so “romantic” to me. Shadow Springs Vineyard was our first stop.

It started to sprinkle as we got out of the car but nothing could dampen my excitement, not even the rain!  We were greeted at the double doors by the owner – Chuck Johnson.  His wife, Jamey, was working behind the counter ready to serve up our first tasting of the day.  As we talked I asked how they came to own the vineyard.  They shared their story, but the part that stood out to Tom and me was their answer to this question, “Is owning a vineyard what you had expected?”

Chuck didn’t answer at first.  He just gave us a look.  Then he simply said, “It’s harder than we ever imagined, and there is no time off.”

Shadow Creek offers a unique opportunity for people like us to take part in their vineyard from a distance.  They offer an “Adopt A Vine” program where you can choose any vine in the vineyard and “sponsor” it for a year.  They let you walk the vineyard to pick the one you want, either randomly or by row and vine number.  They take your picture with it if you want, and then add your name to their list of partners.  Throughout the year the partners get updates as to how the crop is coming along, as well as pictures of the vine right before they harvest the grapes.  In the dormant winter months they’re even invited to come and prune their vine if they want.  It sounded like the perfect way for me to experience life in the vineyard.  We adopted two Merlot vines.  The first one we picked row 2, vine 24, since our anniversary is on February 24th.  The second one we picked row 11, vine 12 which is the anniversary date of The Romantic Vineyard. 🙂

Our friend, Jim, counting to vine #24 (row 2)

Our anniversary vine

The netting on the vines is to protect them from birds primarily.  It’s also to help support the grapes as they are nearing harvest.

The Romantic Vineyard's vine

You’ll notice this vineyard uses what they call an open lyre trellis system.  The “Y” shaped trellis enables them to split the vine in two producing 50% more grapes than the traditional trellis.  It is a fascinating concept and a provides a great metaphor for marriage.  One marriage made up of two individuals each having gifts we’ve been given by God to produce an abundance of fruit for His glory!

The "Y" trellis system

 If you are interested in adopting a vine – they have 7,000 to choose from.  Simply visit their website for more information.

Our next stop took us to Raffaldini Vineyards.

The grounds were unbelievably beautiful.  The vineyard looks very much like an Italian estate, which was the goal of the owner, Joe, whom we met while walking through the garden.  He invited us into the tasting room where he personally introduced us to each varietal they offered.  When asked if owning a vineyard was what he expected, he replied, “I love the vineyard, but it takes hard work.” He divides his time between the vineyard and a full-time job in New York.  Obviously, it takes many hands to make this vineyard run well, and from our perspective, they do an excellent job.

One of my favorite shots

from l. to r. Vineyard Keeper and Joe, the owner

The Vineyard

The Piazza overlooking the mountains and the vines

Our last vineyard was the Laural Gray Vineyard.

It, too, is family owned and operated.  The name is comprised of the middle name of each of the owner’s two children, whom we were privileged to meet.  In fact we met the whole family.  They were all there to take part in what they call “Farm Fresh Fridays.”  From May through September they host this event to showcase their produce and their wine. They prepare three appetizers made with ingredients grown on the farm.  It is guaranteed fresh and delicious, and it was!

The vineyard was nearing harvest and the fruit was abundant.  You’ll notice in the pictures below the pruners have been through recently as evidenced by the clipped clusters on the ground.  I wanted to pick them up and have a taste, but Tom said there may be pesticides on the fruit.  <sigh>  You can’t taste the fruit until its ready to be tasted.  Another great metaphor for marriage.

Fruit on the shady side of the vine is visible.

Fruit is hidden by leaves from the hot afternoon sun

The evening began as the sun was setting low in the western sky.  We sat at a table overlooking the vineyard while the food was served.

Our view

When we asked them if owning a vineyard was what they expected the owners offered a similar answer we had heard all day –  “It’s really hard work, much harder than we expected.”

Three vineyards provided the same answer when asked about owning and operating a vineyard.  What sounds so romantic to me, is really very hard work.  It is tireless with no time to rest, that is if fruit is desired.

Compare this to your marriage. 

What did you expect as you walked down the aisle to begin this journey together?  Most likely, you anticipated the joy, the friendship, the shared memories, the dreams come true.  We all did.  But God knew as we were exchanging our wedding vows that there would be hard days, tireless days, days when we didn’t know if there would ever be fruit.  There would be fruit, it just wouldn’t be as easy, as romantic as we had thought.

So if you’re not feeling very romantic in your relationship right now – it’s okay.  You may at this time be covered with netting to protect you from the onslaught of danger.  You may be experiencing pruning to produce even better fruit than you had ever hoped for.  You may be watching the sun set on your dreams thinking the sun will never shine again – but it will.  We simply must stay committed to do the hard work.

The best part is when you have one of those days where everything falls into place the way you planned, the way you hoped, and you both feel quite romantic about it all.  You’ll enjoy that glass of wine more than anyone else as you thank God for all He has done.

Romance isn’t always romantic, but God is always faithful!

What ways has God been faithful to you in your Vineyard?

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Our Thoughts Exactly

Steven Curtis Chapman

Today as I was driving I heard a new song by Steven Curtis Chapman titled, Do Everything.  It has an upbeat tempo, but it’s the words that make this song so powerful.  The reason we do the things we do is for one reason – to glorify God.  He is the One who matters most.  He receives glory when we purpose to live our lives and love our spouse as His Word instructs.  It’s an impossible task left to ourselves, but He hasn’t left us alone.  He commands us, He empowers us and He enables us to life our lives in this way.

It is all for Him.

Take a moment to listen to it – we believe you’ll be humming it all day.  And better yet, maybe it will help you remember throughout the day why you do the things you do!

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Mark Your Calendar

Cartoon by Charles Shultz

It’s hard to believe Thursday is September!  For those of you who live in Orlando you’ll be happy to know that September is Magical Dining Month.  With many of the tourists returning home for the start of another school year – our great local restaurants have designated this month as one to showcase their great cuisine in an effort to draw the locals out to eat.  There are over 60 restaurants participating.  Each establishment offers a prix fixe menu including an appetizer, entree’ and dessert.  Make plans to visit at least one restaurant this month – or if you have the time and/or money, go to one new restaurant a week. Sounds like a great way to try something fun and different.

Also, next Monday is Labor Day.  The day Americans set aside from their labor to play and be with family.  Why not make a new tradition of adding some romance into the mix?  We’ve provided some simple, but fun ideas for you in our Wives Only and Husbands Only rooms.  Be sure to give yourself time to make plans by checking it out soon.

Need more ideas?  You’ll find plenty below.  Have a great “Last week of Summer!”

♥ Fun Dates To Celebrate ♥

August 29th

  • More Herbs And Less Salt Day – grab a bottle of pesto, or if you’ve grown your own herbs – harvest those late summer herbs for dinner tonight.

August 30th

  • Frankenstein Day – Watch this classic horror flick after the kiddos are in bed.
  • Toasted Marshmallow Day – Make homemade s’mores in your toaster oven or microwave.  You won’t believe the variations to this campfire classic.

August 31st

  • National Trail Mix Day – Make your own trail mix.  Place it in a nice candy jar (a mason jar will do) and give it to your spouse to take to work.

September is:

  • Classical Music Month – play some Bach during dinner.
  • Hispanic Heritage Month – plan a Mexican or Spanish Fiesta Date Night
  • International Square Dancing Month – take lessons together.  Not into Square Dancing? Try Line Dancing.
  • National Blueberry Popsicle Month – a great summer treat
  • National Courtesy Month – be purposeful in showing kindness to your spouse.  See if they notice.
  • National Piano Month – Nothing soothes the heart like soft piano music.
  • Chicken Month
  • Honey Month
  • Self Improvement Month – think as Marriage Improvement Month.  What can you do this month to improve your marriage?  Talk about it then get to work – you have only a month.  🙂
  • Better Breakfast Month – Why not take the challenge of eating breakfast together every morning during the month of September?  This might take some real planning, but what a great way to start the day – with food and time together.

♥ Things To Do In Orlando ♥

CENTRAL

  • Orlando Museum of Art – First Thursday’s features a Happy Hour from 6p – 9p. It is FREE for members and $10 for non-members.  The gallery is open for your pleasure.
  • Harry P. Leu Gardens – Date Night in the Garden is on Friday, September 2nd.  Admission is FREE for members and $7 for non-members.  This month’s movie presentation is “Father of the Bride,” the original 1950 version.  The garden opens at 6p.  Movie begins at 8:30p.  Pack a dinner picnic and enjoy an evening under the stars.
  • Winter Park – Music at the Casa from 12p. to 3p. on Sunday, September 4th. FREE.

SOUTH

  • Kissimmee – Blue Grass Jam Session at the Pioneer Village of Osceola County will take place on Sunday, September  4th.  Bring a picnic and enjoy this lively American music.  Guaranteed you won’t be able to keep your feet still.

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