Author Archives: Debi Walter

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About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.

Physician or Prosecutor?

Posted on December 14, 2021 by Debi Walter

In one our favorite marriage books, Cherish, Gary Thomas uses a very helpful metaphor in how to help your spouse. We all have things we do wrong at some point in our relationship whether it is blatant sin against each … Continue reading →

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Check Your Headlights

Posted on December 7, 2021 by Debi Walter

Headlights on cars are important. Without them it’s difficult to see what’s in front of you. Worse, it’s impossible for oncoming traffic to see you. We have noticed more cars on the road recently without their headlights on after dark. … Continue reading →

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Focus

Posted on November 30, 2021 by Debi Walter

This has been a challenging season for most marriages. The reasons vary, but the pressure is similar. How can we turn our focus from what troubles us to what blesses us? Pray. Ask God to give you an idea on … Continue reading →

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Building Spiritual Intimacy

Posted on November 23, 2021 by Debi Walter

Tom and I are in route to GA for Thanksgiving. The temps are dropping drastically and the trees are showing off their Fall wardrobe. It is another road trip for us where we can catch up on life. We love … Continue reading →

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When The Roses Are Wilted And The Wine Is Flat

Posted on November 16, 2021 by Debi Walter

Most of you know how much we have been through the past few years. It has seemed that one crisis after another has continued since the beginning os 2019. Throw a pandemic in the middle of it all and it’s … Continue reading →

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Do You Feel Understood?

Posted on November 9, 2021 by Debi Walter

How well do you understand your spouse? When they experience loss or disappointment, are you surprised at their expression or lack of expression? We tend to judge our spouse based on how we would respond thinking we’re being helpful. We … Continue reading →

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It’s About Time

Posted on November 2, 2021 by Debi Walter

We all have the same amount everyday. 24 hours, 1440 minutes and two people to focus on each day. It is a gift! Marriage is unlike any other relationship. We are committed to pursuing each other. Whether you and your … Continue reading →

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Crossing the Line of Acceptance

Posted on October 26, 2021 by Debi Walter

I know which side he sleeps on when he first goes to sleep. I know his favorite snacks I know how to make him smile when he doesn’t feel like it. I know his story–every detail of how he came … Continue reading →

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Sweet and Savory Fondues for Two

Posted on October 21, 2021 by Debi Walter

To start off plan an evening where you can both be involved with the preparations. The aroma of these delicious recipes will certainly get your appetite going, and when you finally sit down to a candle-lit fondue, all your senses … Continue reading →

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To Cherish or Admonish?

Posted on October 19, 2021 by Debi Walter

You’ve probably had it happen in your marriage too. Your spouse is telling a familiar story to some friends and they get a detail wrong. How could they not remember how it happened? Admonishment is my knee-jerk reaction in such … Continue reading →

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Your Story Is Your History

Posted on October 11, 2021 by Debi Walter

Sitting on our porch at Barefoot Cabin I had the thought—how many days have we shared since we were married? One of the best parts of Google is being able to find the answer quickly to such random questions. We … Continue reading →

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That’s A Good Question

Posted on October 5, 2021 by Debi Walter

As I’m writing this post, the leaves are falling at my feet with cool temperatures and sunny skies. It is a perfect picture of a crisp, fall day in the mountains. But the scenery doesn’t matter when it comes to … Continue reading →

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Food, Film and Fun Scavenger Hunt

Posted on September 28, 2021 by Debi Walter

I don’t know about you, but Tom and I are ready to start doing things with other couples. We have done a few dinner dates, but nothing really organized or planned. I saw recently where a friend posted about a … Continue reading →

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Can You Trust Me Here?

Posted on September 24, 2021 by Debi Walter

We had only been married a few months when I became very sick, requiring surgery. The look in Tom’s eyes revealed his concern, but even more revealing was his deep love for me. I saw mirrored in him the love … Continue reading →

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Test Your Marriage

Posted on September 21, 2021 by Debi Walter

Have you ever noticed that if something is bothering you in your marriage it’s all you can think about or see? Tom uses an illustration that is so helpful… Take a credit card and hold it in your hand. Stretch … Continue reading →

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Being Honest

Posted on September 14, 2021 by Debi Walter

For communication to work well in marriage it requires a commitment to honesty. But not just dumping honest words in your spouse’s lap; that’s not kind nor smart. Many misinterpret the scripture, “speaking the truth in love” to mean saying … Continue reading →

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It’s Not too Late…

Posted on September 4, 2021 by Debi Walter

You’ve heard us mention the Married Christian Sex conference that’s coming up starting October 2nd. Why Is This Good For Your Marriage? 1. The conference will be online, so you and your spouse can stream each session over the next … Continue reading →

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Drifting or Sailing?

Posted on August 30, 2021 by Debi Walter

Never underestimate the value of time together alone. It is needed for your marriage to keep from drifting. The danger with drift is that you don’t know it’s happening until you’re way off course. If you don’t have goals set … Continue reading →

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Is It Safe To Be Real?

Posted on August 24, 2021 by Debi Walter

I was the youngest of three growing up in the 60’s. Our lively conversations at the table were often filled with laughter and teasing. But because I was 5 and 6 years younger than my brother and sister (respectively), I … Continue reading →

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Great Married Christian Sex Takes Effort.

Posted on August 20, 2021 by Debi Walter

This title alone may have caught your interest because once you’re married it is assumed you’ll have great sex. But sadly for many couples they struggle in their sex life from day one. It can become an increasing source of … Continue reading →

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